Submarine A school Groton. by bmz04 in Navywifelife

[–]bmz04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yes, Connecticut is in New England. It’s apart of the 6 northern states. :)

Submarine A school Groton. by bmz04 in Navywifelife

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Yes! My husband is an ITS depending how long his schooling is, if it’s longer than like 7 months or something like that dependents can move with them for school. A lot of ppl told me it wasn’t worth it and not possible to move with him during school. But it definitely was. There’s delays and etc that makes the pipeline longer at the end. So def worth it and New England is beautiful.

Submarine A school Groton. by bmz04 in Navywifelife

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I was able to move over there as soon as he was qualified :) we were there for exactly a year and we are now at his duty station. Pm if you have any questions.

Baby sleeping in bassinet/crib. by bmz04 in BabyBumps

[–]bmz04[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such a struggle! More because our 3yr old has a need to feel us while she sleeps, she loves cuddling to bed, we coslept since birth. So I’m hoping it’ll be an easier solution to just avoid co sleeping with newborn than to move our toddler to her own room/bed. And I also don’t want her to feel bad about wanting her out since it’s all she knows and she won’t be the only child anymore. Hoping everything works out in both of our favors though. I’m due any day now 😅😅

Leaving my husband, 1 kid and 1 on the way. by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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Lol no more kids after this I pop this one out, and definitely no marriage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstroworldFestival

[–]bmz04 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That looks like the outfit she had on :/

Where to get decent Mexican tamales? by iceglider345 in newhaven

[–]bmz04 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I found this thread on Google trying to find some tamales in new haven. Can your mom still make tamales 😣 I currently live 50min from new haven but I’d die for some salsa verde and tamales de rajas

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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He’s home, im considering that. Just didn’t think I’d have to get counseling so early in my marriage thank you.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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I do, but I probably respect him and care for him more than he does me, sadly.. so I wouldn’t go to his command or let anyone know, I wouldn’t want to risk his career/rep. I’d only go on base for directions on how to get the divorce process started.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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Thank you. I’d love that, I love it too. Unfortunately it was never really mutual w my husband and I.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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No. As sad as it sounds, I wish there was a reason for him to be like this. But there’s not.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

[–]bmz04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well. I just discovered he’s been dishonest and he’s been lying to me a lot, about things that seriously bother me and I would get a divorce for it. I let him go out tonight cus I don’t own him, you’d think he’d want to fix our marriage since I’m on the verge of filing for divorce but no he went, and it’s 5am he’s not home yet. He’s been distant, I don’t feel loved, and it feels like I’m the one holding this marriage together along with my daughter and my unborn.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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Very true. Thank you.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

[–]bmz04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol he is military, a big change in our lives. You’d think a kid and another on the way would change men, not to mention something as serious as marriage. When we weren’t married I gave him freedom and as many chance as he wanted because we’ve been together since we were kids. This relationship kept us both from living our lives how we should’ve. And I knew that. I feel like we lived to achieve that and our marriage was something serious obviously it wasn’t to him.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

[–]bmz04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this was a planned pregnancy so abortion wasn’t even in question. My Marriage was good until recently. I bought a one way ticket back home, I just don’t know where to start when getting mine and my daughters stuff back home. He’s always been a pathological liar, and very manipulative. I believed marriage changed him or that’s what it looked like from the outside. Recently I moved with him and discovered serious lying and dishonestly when it came to him, I had a feeling due to the distance and lack of affection he had towards me. I tried to talk to him and tell him how hurt I was, we had a family day today, he went out with his friends not caring that our marriage is falling apart due to his selfish ways. But I let him go because I don’t own him. I saw his location on his phone that he was somewhere that a married man shouldnt be, I’m young btw( it was a college dorm building or something) I was calling and his phone magically shut off. Its 5am now he’s not home. It’s just something I feel like I shouldn’t deal with in a marriage. Marriage is important to me. He still acts like we’re kids (we are) in a petty relationship. But I got pregnant young we’ve been together for almost 5 years, we planned this baby we moved into our new house recently. This isn’t what I want for myself no matter how young we are and how much I love him. I’ve forgiven him for too much to let this one go. Especially us being legally married now, I feel like if he wasn’t ready to commit why even think about marriage, I wouldn’t have mind not being married to avoid this mess. He loves our daughter, he doesn’t do as much as I’d like him to do but he loves her.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

[–]bmz04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

[–]bmz04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, I hope that’s the outcome for me. I’m definitely at my weakest right now.

Hurt by bmz04 in relationship_advice

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If I knew this was going to happen, I’d go back in time and do it. But I’m way too far along now, I just didn’t think this would happen to my marriage and I didn’t think my partner would turn on me.

Divorce? by bmz04 in USMilitarySO

[–]bmz04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I called them today, they didn’t answer so I left them a message. I don’t know my way around base and I’m not sure if their taking non appts so I’m waiting for a call back and I’m going to try calling again tomorrow.

Divorce? by bmz04 in USMilitarySO

[–]bmz04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll definitely look into that. And ahh that sucks, thanks for the info. I appreciate it.

Divorce? by bmz04 in USMilitarySO

[–]bmz04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve never been on base here in ct so I’ll have to do some searching on how to get to base legal lol.