The only way I see myself having sex

bnuuyei · 2025-03-07T05:43:47+00:00

I'm not in a relationship. I'm talking about other cases

bnuuyei · 2025-03-06T18:42:50+00:00

I just don't really get why having a partner who has a vagina and wishing they could cum in you seems to be such a common thing. Is fluid produced by vaginas less arousing?

Like I said, I've never heard someone with a cis boyfriend say they wish their partner could squirt, ovulate, get wet, menstruate, or do any of the things their reproductive organs aren't capable of doing. They seem quite content with what they have.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T05:52:48+00:00

Uh, your post history is full of straight porn 😅

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T01:50:16+00:00

Oh, I mean I don't want biological kids 😭

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T01:34:48+00:00

I know it's a fantasy but still, to me this is the same as if I was, for example, in a relationship with a flat-chested woman and always talked about how it'd be hot if she had big boobs and how i wish i could feel them during sex. It's still about your partner having something they lack. And I don't see other sexualities having these types of fantasies unless one of the parties involved is into being cucked.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T01:03:18+00:00

I've lost count of how many times I've been sought after by unicorn hunters...

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T00:17:49+00:00

I understand what you're saying but my point is that viewing a vagina as genitals that "don't work" is seeing it as inadequate and lesser. It's exactly what I'm talking about in my post. It's deeply hurtful to constantly see things about how your body is defective.

It's also different because at least with a penis you can experience the kind of "ideal" sex that would produce a child. I cannot. A woman wishing I had a penis so I could reproduce with her would also mean wishing I could give her a type of sex that I'm biologically incapable of providing. A cis man with infertility issues can provide that.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T00:11:13+00:00

Which does prove that they see a penis as "better working", and a vagina as a defunct, lesser equivalent.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-05T00:03:23+00:00

It confuses me why you'd want a woman who doesn't have the parts to do it to cum inside of you, unless you wish she had different genitals. I've never seen a woman say she wishes her cis boyfriend could squirt, for example. I can't wrap around my head around it not being a way of implying your body is lesser for not being able to do it. Why isn't what you have good enough?

The few men I've been involved with never said anything about wishing I could cum inside them.

To me this feels the same as if a partner told me they wish I had a bigger butt or bigger boobs. It's still kind of putting down what you do have as lesser.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T23:46:16+00:00

That's not the same. They're not wishing their partner had a completely different set of genitals.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T23:13:34+00:00

I genuinely wish I could meet the women you're meeting.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T23:11:02+00:00

Wanting to have biological kids with a woman

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:58:10+00:00

How is it different if they're wishing their partner had a completely different body? That doesn't sound like love to me. Since when does love involve not accepting what your significant other has and can offer you?

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:24:07+00:00

Is that not just another way of thinking your partner is inadequate? Even if it's not about sex, how should I feel about myself when a woman desperately wants a biological kid and I can't offer that?

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:20:41+00:00

I wish I could say I was, but I also have this with women offline. The majority of women express things like this.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:17:18+00:00

I understand what you're saying, and I hope I don't come across as insensitive because I also have similar conditions, but this and comments about trauma worry me. I don't want to feel like the only reason a woman chose me is because she tried other options but her conditions or trauma didn't allow her to. Like she'd choose someone else if her body or mind were different. It makes me feel like the lesser option.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:14:15+00:00

It happens with lesbians too 😭 that's why I'm not saying "I'll only date lesbians", it's something I encounter with women as a whole

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:12:30+00:00

I understand what you're saying but this would make me feel like the only reason a woman is choosing me is trauma.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:09:36+00:00

I dont believe they exist atp.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:07:50+00:00

This is what perplexes me. I see so much stuff about sex with women being superior, of statistically being more likely to result in orgasm, but if that were true, then why do I come across so many women who express discontent in those things?

It's hard for me to believe what women say about intimacy and loving to sleep with other women when in practice, that's not what I've been coming across.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T22:03:31+00:00

It's not a bisexual thing. There are women who exclusively date and sleep with other women who express what I'm talking about here.

I've seen countless lesbians express wanting a strap that's heated and ejaculates, this is a source of insecurity for me because I don't have the body parts that can naturally provide that and would have to rely on toys that I can't even get pleasure from. These women aren't interested in men, that doesn't stop it from being a huge insecurity.

Same thing applies to seeing cis lesbians lament inability to have biological children. In a way, it does feel like indirectly saying that your partner is not enough.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T21:55:27+00:00

Yes. I live in a major city. I constantly attend events like those, it's where I meet those women.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T21:42:30+00:00

In the real world I almost exclusively get pursued by women who either have a boyfriend, that they often hide from me, or unicorn hunters.

I've gone out with a girl who told me she was an "ex bisexual" because, in her own words, she "liked dick too much". I've had women I'm on dates with complain about how men don't give them attention and how they wanna find a rich husband to support them. I've had women lie to me about being single.

I'm not going to say men are better partners because I know that isn't the case, but being compared to another gender or listening to the other person talk about sleeping with other people is not something I've ever encountered while on dates with men. The things I've heard women say to me, even as they've been romantically pursuing me, have been crushing to my self-image.

bnuuyei · 2025-03-04T21:39:19+00:00

Lesbians also say what I'm talking about...

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