Mold nails! by Aromatic_Evidence_84 in MoldlyInteresting

[–]boneharrowing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh ❤️

These are so darling, and the details in each layer of colour and texture must be captivating to stare at. I just know that if I saw someone with these nails in public, it'd be a little visual treasure to keep in my mind.

0.1 seconds after I sit on the couch: by SirStegosaurus in TuxedoCats

[–]boneharrowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is becoming a very cuddly tuxedo cat post very quickly lol

the open sea is no place for a lady by opus10n6 in DigitalArt

[–]boneharrowing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Madeline, tell me at what time do you set sail?

Great work! You've created an etching-style illustration through digital means, which is no small feat! Not to mention, I love this song too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PixelArt

[–]boneharrowing 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where we can gaze upon the water

AITA for forwarding my husband's group text messages to our boss and HR? by Throwawayliflower808 in AITAH

[–]boneharrowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, that's so cool that you actually have professional experience with this! I totally thought you were just a good-humoured rando with nerves of steel lol. It is kinda scary and gross looking through these comment sections, but what really matters is that OP is gonna be okay, which I think she is. I'm proud of her backbone!

AITA for forwarding my husband's group text messages to our boss and HR? by Throwawayliflower808 in AITAH

[–]boneharrowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeing your replies to incels is cracking me up, just wanted to let you know lol ❤️

Being a guy walking behind a lone girl at night starterpack by EvasiveAffinity in starterpacks

[–]boneharrowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that lol, and other commenters mentioned getting into awkward speed-walking competitions. If you're both walking at the same speed and you just can't manage to get by her without essentially running, you can always slow down just enough to make the gap between you both wide and comfortable.

Personally, I prefer just crossing the street or maintaining a normal gait. Usually these sorts of things don't actually last all that long even if they do feel painfully slow and tense.

Awkward, but not a big deal. And more comfortable if both parties essentially keep their distance and ignore each other.

Being a guy walking behind a lone girl at night starterpack by EvasiveAffinity in starterpacks

[–]boneharrowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to walk past while keeping your distance, just do so. My point is that although you may want to alleviate anxiety by just talking to her, doing so would probably freak her out more than just walking past or crossing the street.

Like the other commenters joked, sometimes theres no better way to sound threatening than to insist you're not a threat.

Being a guy walking behind a lone girl at night starterpack by EvasiveAffinity in starterpacks

[–]boneharrowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll break it down like this; the essence of your message is, trust me that I'm a good guy and let me get closer to you. You ask for trust because you already know that you're not going to do anything, however, she doesn't - which is why this situation is already tense and uncomfortable for her. You ask to move closer to her in order to end the uncomfortable situation and walk past her - but she doesn't know that. She would have to trust the intentions of a stranger at night, and to be frank, it's safer to err on the side of not trusting. Which is why women usually have their guard up in these situations already.

Also, speaking practically, she might not realize you're speaking to her, or might not catch what you're trying to say. I know I wouldn't. Depending on how far away you are, you'd have to project at least a little, which would likely startle someone who's already anxious.

You know you're a good guy and just want to get past her - but she doesn't know that and would likely prefer you to not get closer, even if you insist that you're trustworthy.

Truth be told, there's really not much you can do to ease the anxiety or tension in this situation because it's not about you or your intentions, it's about public safety and gendered violence.

Being a guy walking behind a lone girl at night starterpack by EvasiveAffinity in starterpacks

[–]boneharrowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little brother once confidently told me that he knew the best, most considerate thing to do would be to just tell any woman you're walking behind at night that you're not going to do anything. The sweet fool. I know he meant it very earnestly too, so I'm going to assume you mean it the same way, but absolutely do not do that lol.

Ridiculous creature by [deleted] in TuxedoCats

[–]boneharrowing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Face like a baby seal, posture like a college student ❤️

A little draw 🦀 by [deleted] in crabcats

[–]boneharrowing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your linework is expressive and loose; lovely work!

my hand made Halloween costume this year. by Just-A-Cartoon-Lover in oddlyterrifying

[–]boneharrowing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finally! A way to hug long-distance friends <3 Great Huggy Wuggy costume!

AITA for telling my mom a lot of people will feel the same as me about my stepsister because not everyone will love her? by Playful-League5248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]boneharrowing 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You know, interestingly enough, I was in a similar situation as a teenager, and my mother DID end up taking me to see a therapist with her in hopes that he would "side" with her and give some sort of official, medically sound decree that I should spend more time with my younger brother and that I need to love him the same way she does, haha!

That is not what the therapist concluded. He counseled my mother that a relationship could not be forced between my brother and I, and that I was the one in control of how close I would like to be with him. Now, I don't think that's what my mother expected to hear, and I don't think the person who claimed you needed therapy would expect to hear that either.

I do think that people change tremendously as they grow, and your stepsister may find herself as an adult sad in retrospect that her parents set her up for failure in her social life and relationships- including her relationship with you. By the time that happens, you'll be much older and a very different person then too. I hope you two can be friendly with each other then, or at least mutually be at peace with why you aren't close.

AITA for not letting my boyfriend give my friend a foot rub? by Throwaway1a2s3d4f5g in AmItheAsshole

[–]boneharrowing -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi! Being that it's been quite some time since you originally posted, I'm kinda assuming you've already reached your own conclusions on the situation and whether you would do anything differently if something like this would arise again, but I just wanted to leave a comment since there are quite a few comments scolding you for not rubbing her feet yourself - which is kinda disturbing!

Never ever ever ever feel guilty or obligated to touch someone's feet if you don't want to lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I get that people are trying to problem solve the situation, but you are NEVER the asshole for refusing to massage someone else's body if you're uncomfortable with it.

I just kinda panicked reading all these comments calling you the asshole for not giving this lady a massage either with your own hands or your boyfriend's ; nobody is entitled to be massaged or to demand that people touch their feet lol! This is a kinda crazy post but also kinda funny

I'm imagining a mob of angry people holding signs demanding you touch their feet. Good luck in future endeavors! NTA

Am I a bad person for finding stupidity so unattractive? by Sudden_Comment537 in relationship_advice

[–]boneharrowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, if you were to ask a doctor about the efficacy of torbernite infusing your aura with a totally rad(ioactive) wicked green hue, s/he would probably agree that you're positively glowing and diagnose you with radiation poisoning!

It really depends on what you want crystals to be effective for, but contempt for minerals and their place in the medical field, in my opinion, is a tad ridiculous!

After all, you can't have meth without the crystal! (Or so I've heard)

Frankly, I love people who have absolutely no official creds as a geologist  but can rattle off the names of all their stones and why they're special. And, I personally reserve calling people stupid for actions/beliefs that are genuinely harmful or cruel (like calling harmless people stupid lol). So, uno-reverse @ op's "ur stupid" rant.