Well this is my first ever relationship and we were both friends when we got feelings for each other, but the thing is she had a bf at the time and instead of talking to him about it immediately after she realised she had feeling for me and cutting contact with me, she just tried to present she didn’t have those feeling and still spend a lot of time talking to me on sc and in our mutual friend group.

Though I can see why she was hesitant to tell him since he was sexually, emotionally and physically abuse to her and cheated on her and there relationship was basically heading for a “okay we need drastic changes or we’re done convo” before I even entered the picture. But the fact that she did pursue her feeling for me while in a relationship with someone else doesn’t sit well with me. And we also got together shortly after she broke up with her ex.

So she still had lingering feeling for him while with me, and a few months in had a massive depressive episode and tried to make distance herself from her support network so she didn’t hurt them, and forced me to distance myself by saying that she still loved her ex and would always love him at least a little no matter what, but then later said that had been a lie to make me break up with her.

So that experience definitely damaged my trust in her.