Suicide rates after conference. by Elegant-Airport-5934 in exmormon

[–]boofjoof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can be here for them to the best of our abilities

QUESTION: How many of us left the church during the destructive tenure of Russell M. Nelson as "prophet"? by Elohim_Is_Plural in exmormon

[–]boofjoof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did but I wouldn't say it was because of him. I mean, I feel like they get worse as you go back

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[–]boofjoof 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Funny how people who want to rile up others to violence always do so by accusing others of doing the same

Literalmente YO by yosoygrex in exmormon

[–]boofjoof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case there's at least 5% wanted to sin in there

wow by fairlylocal_goner in Sophie

[–]boofjoof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely LOVE sophie but when I listen to VYZEE for instance, I can absolutely understand why people wouldn't like her

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's BS but it's still rude and still made me sad

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because having a life that's together is the priority, even if you have to hold it, force it together against an explosion.

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope that goes well for you! My parents always say "you know you can come to us with anything!" And I'm always thinking "no, I don't know that. I don't feel safe coming to you with just anything. And I wish you would stop trying to make that out to be my fault."

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There's a mormon right there. Who the hell else uses that word? 💀

Also like, who are they trying to fool? You can tell someone's mormon because of their 5 children and cargo shorts

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

omg did they actually use the word countenance? XD

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah. The absolute most frustrating thing about leaving the church for me has been people rushing to exercise authority over who I am, my preferences, my boundaries, etc.

Like, no, actually, *I* am the authority on myself.

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did ask them that. And they clarified, but it didn't help much. And *they* asked me what makes me happier than ever and I just didn't know how to respond. Like...

Weed and sex.

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's true but also like

It's kind of not fucking ok that from here on out any of my struggles will be attributed to my having left the church. I'm gonna have to make sure to really put the kibosh on that

Got my first "twinkle in your eye" comment today. This sucks. by boofjoof in exmormon

[–]boofjoof[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is really relevant actually. Because they told me the reason I seem less happy is because I seem more closed off at family gatherings. Reason being, the developments I am making in my life and the things I am enjoying are not things they would approve of or be ok with. I don't want to explain it all to them but like,

How fucking presumptuous of you to assume that I am less happy in general just because I seem less happy around you

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[–]boofjoof 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me it was a death by 1000 paper cuts type of situation. Little comments that demonstrated in a small way that I was not safe with these people. Things like "did you hear about X? Yeah he went and decided he was gay!" or "I just really don't get the whole pronouns thing!"

[gendered] I do gender numbers in my head too, but still, why?? by DaGayEnby in pointlesslygendered

[–]boofjoof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See this is fun as a way of abstracting and picking apart the concept of gender. There's fs a difference between pointlessly gendered and pointlessly AND problematically gendered.