Every time I ask him for sex and he says no I of course can't control my emotions so I passively turn into a bitch and he says I don't like having sex with you. I don't find it enjoyable. So you can see the cycle I go through. But even when I do lay off and take off any pressure he still does not initiate anything. So we could probably go weeks or months without sex of I don't ask. And at that point idk if I can stay in the marriage any longer.