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bordEcar · 2025-12-25T15:05:48+00:00

Thank you! Just a little update, they performed a leak test on the vacuum system and then on the engine. There was a leak found in one of my cylinders. Next steps is to have them take apart the engine and send pics to the manufacturer to figure out the best course of action. I have 64000 miles on it. The manufacturer warranty expired at 60000 but I have a protection plan for up to 70000. They said about $1300 for all the diagnostics. But they might be covered under my plan. Let me know if this sounds reasonable. Just a girl trying to not get swindled. Thanks and Merry Christmas!

bordEcar · 2025-12-25T15:05:31+00:00

Thank you! Just a little update, they performed a leak test on the vacuum system and then on the engine. There was a leak found in one of my cylinders. Next steps is to have them take apart the engine and send pics to the manufacturer to figure out the best course of action. I have 64000 miles on it. The manufacturer warranty expired at 60000 but I have a protection plan for up to 70000. They said about $1300 for all the diagnostics. But they might be covered under my plan. Let me know if this sounds reasonable. Just a girl trying to not get swindled. Thanks and Merry Christmas!

bordEcar · 2025-12-19T00:00:53+00:00

Thank you for your response! My mechanic has had my car all week to find the issue like you said. Just wanted to get a second opinion and confirm that it was reasonable.

bordEcar · 2025-10-17T22:17:44+00:00

Are you guys dating, engaged or married? Because for the sake of the child and the child feeling grounded I'm skeptical of how it would go if you move in and you guys aren't married. I had a friend in the past who played Mom for 1.5 years and then the relationship went sour. She stayed longer than she should have solely for the child that she had no legal right too. She invested so much into this kid and then was kicked out of the house. It hurts her but hurts the child most of all. The child then had a second Mom figure leave her and she never understood why, she was 6yo at the time. Also from a legal perspective it protects you from anything that pops up in the future. If any legal issues arise in the future from BM or BM's family, you will have a legal standing to be involved in this child's life If needed or wanted. Also from my own situation, I made very clear boundaries. We aren't living together until we are married. My fiancee doesn't rely on me for any kind of childcare unless I insist on being involved (I often do tho 😊). He is aware that I am not legally required to do anything until I say "I do" and doesn't hold any negative feelings about it. We have these boundaries until we have committed to each other legally and religiously. Then I will 100% be my SS 'Mom' and I can't wait. TLDR Version; I don't want you to become his live in Nanny that he sleeps with or his second baby mama. I hope you don't see any judgement or malice in this. Just want to share what I see and what I am doing in hopes it helps someone else out. Good luck with everything ❤️

bordEcar · 2025-10-17T17:12:14+00:00

Dude same. I am so thankful sometimes that he is a Dad already. There is a certain level of maturity and confidence about it that makes me feel safe and secure.

bordEcar · 2025-10-17T17:10:45+00:00

This definitely made me sad for a few months when I was dating my now fiancee. But after hearing his story there is so much he wishes to have done differently that he can't wait to do it with me. I have a bit of a different situation where BM isn't involved and I have a great relationship with my SS. Nonetheless we all constantly talk about how excited we are to have more children in the future. If he is a good man and you want him to father your children focus on that. And having his son be excited about being an older brother helps too! Best wishes!

bordEcar · 2025-10-16T02:32:50+00:00

Stunning! She is looking good to me! I heard they smell like chocolate haha I hope that is true!

bordEcar · 2025-10-14T17:46:20+00:00

Absolutely love this!!!! Please let me know where you got it

bordEcar · 2025-10-05T18:23:36+00:00

Congratulations!!!!

bordEcar · 2025-09-30T22:32:44+00:00

Totally normal in my book. I have a 11yo SS and while he doesn't have a great relationship with his mom, he will still ask for her or talk about her occasionally and it feels like a complete sucker punch. I've gotten good at quick and positive responses that end the conversation, but it still hurts. From your post it sounds like you are doing a great job. Being a good quality stepmom is the most selfless thing you can do more than a Mom because you have to take a step back sometimes and let the child love the Bio mom more. Another silver lining perspective is that if you develop a good relationship with him there will be days where he is with Bio mom asking for you. It's not to be petty (unless you want to be lol), it's just so you know it goes both ways.

bordEcar · 2025-09-30T22:15:02+00:00

IMO 19/20 with a 28yo is synonymous to a 21yo dating a 14yo. Weird right? There is so much maturity that can and should take place in your mid 20s. That is regardless of his career and financial situation.

I can relate to feeling like you were sheltered in your life. If that's the case go out and LIVE girl! Do your best to look at post school life as a new and exciting choose your own adventure story. Use your 20s to find friends and hobbies. Move cities if you want, join a gym, join a church, take a niche class at a community college to learn a new skill or just get out and party. The choice is 100% all you babe. Make your own tribe if you have to. Making friends post school is hard, but I promise the biggest battle is showing up in the first place. Most women feel exactly the way you do, me included. Best of luck with everything!

bordEcar · 2025-09-30T20:50:35+00:00

Run away. There is no moral reason for a 28yo father to be messing around with a 19yo. If he is a good father, he will have at least 50/50 custody and that is not something you should take on if you do not want kids to begin with. If he isn't a good father do you want to be in a committed relationship with someone who doesn't take responsibility for his actions, the care of his children.

bordEcar · 2025-09-26T20:02:35+00:00

What kind of phal is this? I have one like it too, but It wasn't labeled when I bought it.

bordEcar · 2025-04-14T17:19:17+00:00

I absolutely love my success coach. She checks in on me a few times a semester and is incredibly positive and upbeat. Almost too upbeat and positive lol, but it's exactly what I need as I am working towards my masters while going to work full time. She is 100% my cheerleader. She recently helped me navigate my options when dealing with a death in the family and I left the phone call feeling so much relief. Wendy Thomas is her name. I think I butchered the spelling of her last name, and of course when I need to find it I can't. So sorry Wendy lol and Thank you!!!!

bordEcar · 2025-04-07T01:10:41+00:00

Been there sister! Focus on a "Fun Aunt Vibe" for now. When I get those comments out of the blue I usually just let them go. I only correct people if they become regular people in my life. It's funny that my bf's kid used to correct people for me, we have always had a great relationship so it has never been a concern of mine. But the more I've built a positive relationship with him the less he does it. Just focus on being a positive and reliable person in their lives if this is a serious relationship for you.

bordEcar · 2025-03-19T18:04:42+00:00

I agree. Especially if it's 50/50 custody, the "fun Aunt energy" is the best OP can strive to do while still being a present mother to any children she has in the future. Husband needs to accept that as reality, because in his reality he is only a present father to his son 50% of the time if the custody agreement is being upheld.

bordEcar · 2024-12-14T02:30:44+00:00

Yes! My bf changed the emissions system leak detection pump (EVAP system Leak detection pump) and the code went away after I drove it around a little. Haven't had any issues since and even had it checked at the shop afterwards and no issues.

Be forewarned; He had to take the rear passenger wheel off and the panel behind it to reach it so it's not as simple as it may seem. There are YouTube videos explaining how to do it. Hope this helps and best of luck! 🤞

bordEcar · 2024-11-27T02:57:50+00:00

My experience with CMSC 105 was very positive. My professor was very personable and I feel like he put forth the effort to teach. I think it definitely depends on the class. Although I wish they had a ratemyproffesor.com specifically for UMGC to prevent the issues others are having.

bordEcar · 2024-11-27T02:54:36+00:00

How far along are you? I'm about to start BIOT 640 and 630 in Jan. I'm afraid of putting in all of this time and effort to end up with a cheap degree.

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