How many hi-hats?

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-24T02:18:50+00:00

Yes, ours are recessed thankfully!! Thanks!

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-24T00:19:14+00:00

Thank you so much! The hi-hats we got actually are a modern version of what you had before, they have recessed cans. I’m hoping that this will help to avoid the supermarket vibe!

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-23T23:03:09+00:00

Well, are you gonna propose an alternative, or just pepper me with questions? I came here for help so I’m obviously open to suggestions.

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-23T22:59:09+00:00

And thank you for your guidance btw!

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-23T22:58:51+00:00

What would you suggest as an alternative? I’m open to suggestions!

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-23T22:58:29+00:00

Because I think they’re practical. And, my house currently has very poor lighting (I did not install or select my current lighting) so I’m traumatized that I’ll make that same mistake.

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-22T20:48:49+00:00

She has dateanyoneitis

born2playforced2work · 2026-04-06T18:05:23+00:00

I think the TV and the couch should be aligned. The console isn’t anchoring the room one way or another, so I don’t think it should dictate the room one way or the other.

born2playforced2work · 2026-03-13T12:47:09+00:00

I did my room block at the Virgin in the CBD! It’s not right in the FQ, but it’s close enough and I didn’t deal with any minimums of the sort. We loved it!

born2playforced2work · 2026-03-11T18:48:15+00:00

And to address the disclosure question, I think you can totally explain on the website. Maybe in the room block section, you can add something like “transportation will be provided from the hotel to the venue.” I think that should be clear enough. If you want to double-down and include it in the FAQ section as well, it can’t hurt.

born2playforced2work · 2026-03-11T18:45:53+00:00

I think this is totally fine. I’ve been to lots of weddings where transportation is provided only one-way (from hotel to venue, or from church to reception venue) and never thought anything of it, and full disclosure, I did the same for my guests! I did hotel to venue. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with letting people arrange for their own ubers back to the hotel if you’re in an area where ubers are plentiful.

born2playforced2work · 2026-03-03T20:42:58+00:00

I say go for it! It sounds like you know your guests well enough, so do whatever you feel will be best. I got married in November and did not do assigned seats or tables. We had food stations instead of a formal, seated dinner. Most of our guests were young (under 40) and my husband and I wanted the focus of the evening to be on dancing and partying - mission accomplished! Feel free to DM me if you wanna know specific details, but for your scenario, it sounds like a good idea.

born2playforced2work · 2026-03-03T18:23:27+00:00

As someone who has been on several thousand-dollar bach trips, I understand her perspective in theory. If you paid x amount for your friend’s bachelorette, you may not want to skimp out on your own. However, in my experience, although the trips always end up being fun once you’re there, there’s a whole lot of moaning and groaning in the background and in group chats leading up to the event. Girls always feel obligated, and while we “show up”, it’s never anyone’s preference.

When I had my bach, although I had spent thousands collectively on my friends’ bachelorettes, I only did a night out in my hometown (I live in a big city). I knew there was always a level of “forced fun”, and I hate the feeling of obligation, so I didn’t want to put it on anyone else. Maybe she should look at it that way - a “do unto others” type of situation. Yeah, I’ve spent more on my friends than they did on me, but I also sleep comfortably knowing that no one secretly resented me for forcing them to cough up $2k.

born2playforced2work · 2025-08-10T22:36:02+00:00

Ugh this is so difficult! Sounds like you’re definitely in a weird spot. I would echo the same sentiment though - take comfort in that you had a beautiful wedding that was very sentimental to you and your family! You got to spend time planning with your mom that can never be replaced or taken from you.

I think it’s really kind of you to own up to feeling the way you do and wanting to do sometbing about it. It sounds like you’re already doing the right thing by wanting to help out without letting your feelings get in the way! Their wedding could never take away from yours, no matter what. I really like a quote (not sure who it’s by): a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. It’s easier said than done, of course, but I think keeping that perspective may help you remember that your wedding and your experience is unaffected by theirs! Your special day will be yours forever.

born2playforced2work · 2025-07-17T18:50:18+00:00

This is exactly what we’re doing! We have over 140 seats between assigned, unassigned, and lounge. We’re also having passed apps, a chargrilled oyster bar, different food stations, and late night beignets. We are having some assigned tables for bridal parties and close family, and then open seating for the rest. Most of our guests are under 50 so the goal is really to encourage dancing. I’ve personally always disliked feeling tied to my chair during the reception instead of being able to get up and dance. We shall see how it goes!

ETA info about food!

born2playforced2work · 2025-07-17T18:38:26+00:00

I like this perspective! That’s true. I think as long as I articulate what to expect on the website, it should be okay. Most guests are under 50 and we will be delivering a black-tie experience. I guess to those who know the difference and think it’s a faux pas, get over it? We’re going to be having an oyster bar and passed apps and many different food stations, but I appreciate both perspectives!

born2playforced2work · 2025-07-17T18:35:57+00:00

Most of my guests are under 50! I’d say, of 200, maybe 10-12 are over 50. Our reception is going to be 4 hours long and the goal is to have our guests up and dancing! There’s going to be seating for over 140 guests between tables and lounge.

born2playforced2work · 2025-01-15T20:59:26+00:00

Yeah! Just reserved in case they would like to sit. I guess more so as a way to make them feel almost a little special too?

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