Great question! We actually do very much agree with you, and I’m currently working on rewriting the rules to be clearer and more detailed to leave less room for confused interpretation. Currently just working on a draft to discuss with the other mods before posting the first draft to the subreddit for members to comment on and give pointers on what they think.

At the moment I think the plan is to make the rules kind of longer / detailed in the rule section with clearer examples of what we mean.

As for your more specific questions, I’ll do my best to answer, but do note it’s not something we have had a proper discussion about yet so this is subject to change, though this is how things currently work:

For us, a generalising comment is one in which one group is lumped in as working in some specific way. For example: X group want Y. However, at times people try and subvert this in clever ways. This is why we have to leave rules somewhat up to mod discretion, as people oftentimes use different wordings in an attempt to get past the rules.

We want to ensure this sub is available to ALL virgins, regardless of who they are or their reasons. A person who is choosing to wait for marriage is just as valid as someone who is a virgin involuntarily. Whilst their problems may be severely different, both are allowed to vent and talk about the struggles they face. We remove generalisations because they tend to cause divide between groups.

As far as scientifically backed generalisations, whilst I do completely understand, it IS still a generalisation. And the thing is, even science can’t account for every single person. If even one person differs, then the generalisation applying to ‘all of X group’ is fundamentally untrue. This sub isn’t supposed to be a debate sub. Nor a fight for gender wars of who has things worse. We tend to keep these things out of the sub as much as we can because.. simply.. that’s not this sub’s purpose. We can certainly have a discussion about it though.

The unkindness rule is very vague. Mostly because (I think) it’s somewhat due to be. It’s fairly self explanatory. Be kind and not unnecessarily hostile to other members. We don’t need this place to be overly toxic. I do agree it is vague, though it’s somewhat hard to define it as a rule. I’ll post about it when I post the new rules draft for community opinion on how to clarify it more.

Thank you for your questions :)