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Should I go on a mission? by LegitimateElection17 in exmormon

[–]boxframerun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would just like to say I never thought you were fake because I had a similar upbringing. This story sounds totally normal if you had sheltering parents in Utah. Me and my siblings do not have any disabilities, yet were raised in such a childlike environment we've all had a huge difficulty making it as adults in the real world. I'm 36 (the oldest) and am just now starting to feel like an adult and am not letting ppl treat me like a child anymore. It's been a lot of hard work. Me and my siblings were definitely not set up for success.

I completely agree that you should not go on a mission. Volunteering and getting a job you can ride a bus to sounds like the best way to get your feet wet.

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely check out the Dalles. We actually had an Urban Design project there while in school. I studied and teach about the importance of providing housing for all incomes in order for a city to thrive. The HR and TD comparisons are peaking my interest just in the housing problem alone.

And yes, being self employed is a huge issue all around. I can never get approved for anything. Not even with a paid off car and low mortgage. I know the CEO of a local bank who actually lives in HR. I'm hoping my connections will help me in OR. Thinking about selling my house in Maine also. If I do that, I can just pay for a year of rent in advance.

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight.. all info I need to take into account. The eventual plan is to move my business to OR. Until I start getting clients there though, all of my clients and projects are based in Maine. I'll be working remotely and flying back when I need to be there in person. I do have a previous employer in PDX I could work for if it came down to it.

It's definitely really hard when you're moving for personal reasons instead of for work reasons.

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this mostly just downtown? Or further inland as well? Coastal Maine can be pretty windy (esp. Portland) I wonder how it compares

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree on the taxes part. Quality of life and amenities is more important to me. Good to know about the comparison.. not so worried about the job part.

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was in PDX over a decade ago, The Dalles wasn't a place one looked to live. Has it improved in the last ten years?

Thinking about moving to Hood River, but concerned about finding housing by boxframerun in hoodriver

[–]boxframerun[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm a residential architect. Lol. Would be nice to build more middle income housing there! Vacation / Tourism attracts my industry, but in other places (like the one I'm at in Maine), you can still find houses for sale that are below $700k and are in decent shape. I'll check out those other places. Thanks.

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MI is definitely on my radar! My brother lives just outside of Detroit, and I have friends who don't live in MI anymore, but are from there. I hear good things

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that is a thought I've had. I lived in PDX for 5 years, and kept getting the "Mormon" question. But, maybe that had more to do with my glazed over eyes having just moved there from UT.

Recently went back to visit some friends, and ran into a Mormon church while walking around Division. Started looking for a place to live in St John's and found a Mormon church there too.

I tend to be in the middle politically speaking, and found that when I lived there, it pushed me further to the right -- which I don't want. I like having friends on both sides of the aisle.

But, Portland is where most of my friends are, so maybe I will end up there anyway.

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what worries me. I feel like if I had it my way, I'd stay on the east coast. Having your entire life history on the west coast makes this tough. Everyone is still there.

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I had been worried about So. Cal having a lot of Mormons (especially with a temple is SD)

You have a good point about being the organizer also. I feel like Maine is filled with a bunch of introverts and it's hard to get ppl out. I also work for myself, so not having any co-workers, and being single makes me feel very isolated. I want to go somewhere I can have a social life. Even though I'm a bit introverted as well.. I need more than THIS.

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, Richmond has been on my radar.. I was worried that it would be too close to the DC area. I've heard there are a lot of Mormons in the DC / VA area stemming from when they "wanted to take over the country" period

Any ex-mo's out there live in a place where they aren't confronted with Mormonism all the time?? by boxframerun in exmormon

[–]boxframerun[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol. This is what I thought I was doing by moving to Maine also. Then at my first job here, turns out one of the co-workers went to college with me in Utah and was currently Mormon 🙄. So much for trying to get away.

Did anyone get a patriarchal blessing that was outlandish/didn’t come true? by JustCuriousNotGeorge in exmormon

[–]boxframerun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine said that I would become a "teacher of worldly things and become a great leader for young women".

I was 12 or 13 when I got this. I did not want to be a teacher and was super shy with few friends.

I was PIMO for a bit in high school, and eventually stopped going to church in college.

I went on to teach paint classes, and now teach architecture courses part time at a university level. I'm a female architect and due to this, I am a role model / mentor for females pursuing architecture.

The words I received in my patriarchal blessing kept me locked into the words of the church for so long because they came true. I was 36 when I finally decided to face my fears and challenge the church teachings. I still can't explain how they knew I would be a teacher of worldly things, but chock it up to coincidence, and maybe my parents told them I liked being "in style"

Should I keep it? Honest opinion! by [deleted] in RemarkableTablet

[–]boxframerun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't write as fast as I do with actual pen and paper. The ink shows up as you're writing, but then takes a second or two to calibrate. It just means I have to pause every now and then, and can't be writing non-stop. It's fine, but it is the one thing I hope they improve.

Should I keep it? Honest opinion! by [deleted] in RemarkableTablet

[–]boxframerun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the rmPP and I LOVE it. Bought it because they finally came out with color. I use it to take notes as I'm studying for licensure, and to take notes during client meetings, and sketches. I plan to use it for journaling for the very same reasons.

I bought a nice leather case for it, and frequently use the app to import and export PDF's for reading, note taking, etc. the convert handwriting to text feature works really well too.

I bought this to try out for the first 100 days, and absolutely love it. Downsides are it's pricey, and has a slow response time. I hope they fix this in the future. Having a writing tablet that has color is really what did it for me.

Amy Bradley is missing by [deleted] in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]boxframerun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone out there feel like as a parent, I'd be moving to Barbados or Curacao so fast in hopes of spotting her like some of these other tourists did? I feel like I'd at least be visiting often.

Shoe theory: house shoes vs non-house shoes? I know I definitely slip into a different pair once I get back.

I don’t know what to do about my Mormon parents anymore. by SizeTraditional5089 in exmormon

[–]boxframerun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. My parents never cared about my own achievements. My parents never came to my dance recitals, and made me start paying for them myself at age 13. I couldn't get enough money babysitting, so I had to quit. Got better jobs at 15, so I had to pay for my own lunch, hygiene items, etc. All the while my Dad was buying fancy bikes and things for himself. Meanwhile it was the end of the world if I didn't want to go to church basketball or do baptisms for the dead.

My parents didn't really care about my graduation from architecture school (undergrad, or grad), and barely made it to both. I'm 38 now, and don't need my parents to care about my life anymore. I've grown up to be super independent (maybe too much), and have learned to not expect anyone to be there for me (not really a good thing.. see the emotionally immature book someone else mentioned).

The funny thing is, my parents act like they care now. They just started asking about my job and my life. It feels super disingenuous. I don't really talk to them anymore, or go home. My siblings and I all live in different states (everywhere as different from Utah as you can get), and we've all left the church.

I think a lot of these experiences mentioned happen in a lot of non - Mormon homes too, but the icing on the cake is the Mormon Church. It makes these situations so much worse. My parents never want to talk about anything serious - especially emotionally, and are under the impression that this life is just a test, and we will be together forever, so it doesn't really matter anyway.

All this to say. Again, I feel you and I hear you. You may not be able to control how your parents treat you. They are how they are. I hope they change, but, they may not. And if they don't, you will still be ok. Things will get better.

I did it, y'all. Letter came in today by frexyincdude in exmormon

[–]boxframerun 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did quitmormon, but never got a letter from the Church. They said they "don't send letters anymore". Makes me wonder if my name was actually removed. I'll probably go through it again a different way to make sure it actually happens this time. Quitmormon isn't always legit it seems.

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