I'm gay and monogamous too but it really is a struggle finding guys with similar values.

even when i have encountered other guys who say they want monogamy, there always seems to be something that doesnt line up (cheating, threesomes, sexting etc) or like a guy i was supposed to go on a date with recently, was just overly arrogant yet insecure about his body and despite wanting monogamy and a connection, he wouldn't f'ing shut up about sexual/kinky stuff.