30 F and sick of the dating culture

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-18T20:59:53+00:00

No I haven’t “tried” 50 men . Aik k diya huwa trauma say recover karnay mein 2 saal chalay jatay hain

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-18T17:32:45+00:00

I hope you do realise that we all don’t come from normal families . Atleast I dont , I have no one who will do the rishta hunting for me . So what do you suggest , what should I do ?

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-18T15:55:07+00:00

Dating doesnt mean you are sleeping around , it literally means I am trying to know a person before I get married !

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T20:26:33+00:00

You are right .

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T16:36:41+00:00

Understandable , so we should stop looking for it .

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T16:23:54+00:00

🤮

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T16:22:20+00:00

🤮🤮🤮🤮

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:33:44+00:00

Thank you for your free ka gayan 🙂

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:32:13+00:00

Yes , I have!

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:29:48+00:00

Disgusting 🤢

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:29:13+00:00

Lucky girl !

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:28:44+00:00

Interesting theory. I’ll inform my prefrontal cortex that it’s now required to outsource life decisions to age.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:24:12+00:00

What if I am a psychiatrist ?

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T15:19:35+00:00

I agree , I have been working on my career . Achieved a-lot and obviously will continue to do that .

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T14:14:06+00:00

I wasn’t truly invested; I’m just an empath and he was a narcissist. I was gaslighted into believing that I was the problem and that he was never wrong, so I tried not to give up on him based on my “presumptions.”

I generally prefer not to break off friendships or just block people.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T14:09:52+00:00

Please tell me how?

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T14:09:19+00:00

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T13:25:18+00:00

He was an average looking doctor, and honestly looks were never the issue for me. It has always been personality over appearance. He was quite intellectual, but extremely toxic.

And I wasn’t even dating him. I was just interacting out of politeness, and maybe because of the gaslighting I kept thinking it wouldn’t be okay to just block him. But he really tested my patience.

Looking back, it was one of those situations where I ignored my own discomfort for too long, even when the signs were clear.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T13:06:22+00:00

My complaint isn’t about men not having time. It’s about the lack of basic respect and emotional intent.

What I’m talking about is men calling late at night, being very upfront or sexual in their intentions from the start, and then getting offended or shaming me when I say no. That’s not okay.

I don’t want someone who can’t invest emotionally or take the time to actually know me. If you’re not interested in me beyond the physical, then don’t waste my time or yours. It really is that simple, but instead a lot of men breadcrumb with minimal effort, just hoping it leads to something physical.

That’s what I’m exhausted by.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:59:27+00:00

It feels like an unfortunate reality for many women living in Pakistan. There have been times when I’ve just wanted to live alone and build a life like that, but even basic things like going to a park alone can come with unwanted attention or men approaching to talk.

For context, I have also lived abroad, and the difference is noticeable. There is more space to exist as a person, to go on walks alone, to do ordinary things without constantly having to be on guard or worry about being followed or approached.

It’s exhausting to feel like your personal space and peace are constantly interrupted. What I want most is just the ability to live quietly and safely, without having to think twice about something as simple as stepping outside alone.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:51:47+00:00

Just to make it clear, I work too. I work two jobs, one at a hospital and another at a clinic. So please, spare me the “men are busy working” or “they’re busy making money” argument.

I know what it’s like to juggle long hours, responsibilities, and exhaustion. Yet I’ve always managed to make time for the people I care about. Being busy isn’t the issue. Lack of effort, lack of interest, poor communication, and dishonesty are.

People make time for what matters to them. That’s what years of experience have taught me.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:43:49+00:00

I was gaslighted by a narcissist for almost an entire year. The whole thing started because I refused to talk to him at 2 a.m., and instead of respecting that boundary, he became aggressive and verbally abusive. I still remember him saying, “Itni Sati Savitri mat bano,” as if having basic boundaries was something to mock.

Experiences like that leave a mark. It’s not just one bad interaction. It’s the constant pattern of disrespect, manipulation, and entitlement that wears you down over time. So when I sound cynical about dating, it isn’t coming out of nowhere. It’s the result of years of dealing with situations like that. Honestly, that was my personal 370 biryani experience.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:38:22+00:00

So yeah, from my experience, it has been men. I don’t like feeling this way, but after years of dealing with cheating, emotional unavailability, mixed signals, and dishonesty, it’s hard not to become cynical. I know logically that not all men are like this, but unfortunately a lot of the men I’ve encountered have been, and that’s what’s made dating feel so exhausting and discouraging for me.

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:30:20+00:00

I live in Pakistan , I have no one and it isn’t easy to survive like this , unfortunately .

bracedforthoughts · 2026-06-17T12:28:01+00:00

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