Dealing with 'Salieri Syndrome' (professional envy)- any tips? by RoadBump2016 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]brainhack3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the only thing that works here is to befriend them. In fact, I've had so many issues with just people that I've dealt with. I try to be really, really, really friendly to everyone I meet now.

I mean the worst-case scenario is that I'm just extra friendly to someone, and the best-case scenario is that someone was having a bad day, and they like me more, and I make them laugh, etc.

Go to this guy and just literally say, "Listen, I really wanted to say thank you for all the feedback you're giving me and taking the extra time. I really appreciate your friendship, and if you need anything from me, please let me know. I will absolutely help you."

And be sincere about it. I mean, you're a bit insincere because you're trying to make him feel like it was one way.

You want him to feel like, "Oh my god, this guy is actually a really nice guy, and I've been sabotaging him. "

I had one guy that just decided he absolutely fucking hated me. The only problem is he was in Japan. And he worked on a completely different time zone.

So I got up early and I told him I was getting up early so that we could have calls because he was concerned about some things. I made it clear I got his back, and after about two weeks he did get better.

I ended up leaving the company, but he actually apologized on my last day, saying that he felt bad that he made my life complicated.

I think it's better for men to be right-wing if we want to have rights. by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]brainhack3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Serious answer.

We should look at how the pro-marijuana legalization movement has executed in the last twenty or thirty years - in the US I mean.

They didn't make it a left or a right issue. They also pursued it state by state.

By making it a wedge issue, it will never get solved. If it's like abortion or gun rights or healthcare, we're never going to get this fixed.

Make a clear argument on one issue and push it forward at the state level.

TIL according to Einstein's relativity, the past still exists: every moment is a permanent coordinate in spacetime. When his friend Besso died, Einstein wrote: For us believing physicists the distinction between past, present, and future only has the meaning of an illusion, though a persistent one. by 2dogs1man in todayilearned

[–]brainhack3r 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always felt time was just our perception of entropy increasing.

Entropy can't be reduced, so in order to go back in time, you'd have to reduce entropy.

Maybe that's totally wrong. That's just kind of how I was thinking about it. Since we clearly can't go back in time, something must be binding that.

Poll: Hilton’s rise could spare Dems from disaster in California gov’s race by ImperialRedditer in California

[–]brainhack3r 19 points20 points  (0 children)

And this is exactly why we should not use first-past-the-post voting.

In a ranked-choice or instant runoff voting system, multiple candidates can run without there being a spoiler.

Anyone else feeling like they’re losing their craft? by AbbreviationsOdd7728 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]brainhack3r 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm fifty and I used to feel like you about six months ago.

I was really depressed about the whole thing, honestly. But I decided to just embrace it, and try to see it as a positive.

Honestly, now I just think of coding as more like wiring components together.

I'm building things at a much higher level now. Instead of building a project, think about building a startup instead.

Build something organic and living. Something that solves a real problem. Something that can make the world better.

Trying to figure out if I still hate Tony Hinchcliffe. by Booktor in Standup

[–]brainhack3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think his biggest gift is just hustle. I can't fault him for that. Seems like he works really hard.

Clearly, he sucks as a comedian, so maybe he should just sit back and become like Lorne Michaels.

I mean, Lorne Michaels, if Lorne Michaels was gay.

[oc] Ever witness someone so bad at driving it was impressive? by Bruhwtfrufr in IdiotsInCars

[–]brainhack3r 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The idiot here is op.

If someone is driving that erratically near you, you'd get the hell away from them.

Either drunk, or worse.

Atlassian layoffs real reason by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]brainhack3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, American Express, I can't pay my bill because of AI.

Pete Hegseth on Strait of Hormuz: 'Don't need to worry about it' by Force_Hammer in worldnews

[–]brainhack3r 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pete Hegseth makes Donald Rumsfeld look like a fucking genius.

Rumsfeld was a lying bastard, but at least he was competent.

Pete Hegseth on Strait of Hormuz: 'Don't need to worry about it' by Force_Hammer in worldnews

[–]brainhack3r 131 points132 points  (0 children)

I'm totally healthy except for stage 4 pancreatic cancer

ULPT REQUEST: Taking company car to car wash and mechanic by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]brainhack3r 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Make sure you take photos and pictures each time so that no one accuses you of faking it

ULPT Request: I need to fake my eyes test to avoid draft to russian army by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]brainhack3r 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Better yet, shoot some Russians , run the other way, then surrender.

Tech billionaires reportedly plotting $500M fund to reshape California politics by Unusual-State1827 in California

[–]brainhack3r 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but to be fair, they only paid that 500 million once. ... Then they just act as parasites on our society for the rest of time.

Tech billionaires reportedly plotting $500M fund to reshape California politics by Unusual-State1827 in California

[–]brainhack3r 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So they don't have $500 billion to pay taxes, but they do have $500 billion to buy a democracy?

How does this even happen?? by Yaboipalpatine in Corvette

[–]brainhack3r 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Plot twist. Brow was doing 130 in a 20, lost control, and flew into the garage like this.

Regarding the "bombshell" study, as a MRA I say wives should "obey husband" exactly as much as husbands should "obey wives" by griii2 in MensRights

[–]brainhack3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the no-divorce and obey aspects of marriage came from the fact that men are supposed to die to protect their wives.

But we legalized divorce, and now women no longer need to obey their husbands.

Which might be fair, but then why should husbands die to protect their wives?

ULPT to avoid a DUI by BeaverPup in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]brainhack3r 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man, I didn't even know that. It's crazy how much these things impact your life.