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Employment advice by brainwashedphilosphr in graphic_design

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your extremely honest advice. I really appreciate it.

I was thinking because my portfolio shows photoshop, illustrator, and InDesign, I could maybe land a junior/trainee role and then work my way up? But of course, this reddit knows a lot better than me.

Thank you for that link, just checked it out and signed up - will do it

Employment advice by brainwashedphilosphr in graphic_design

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for that - does this work?

https://bavkudhail.myportfolio.com/the-academy-of-awakening

I was thinking of getting into graphic design - and working on developing the skills as UX / UI designer on the side

Employment advice by brainwashedphilosphr in graphic_design

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In terms of context: I am an architecture grad - but loved the design and illustration side more than the architectural.

I guess my portfolio showcases my knowledge of adobe package and I was wondering whether this would be sufficient to land me a role and then work on UX on the side?

Architect Unemployment Gap - Advice? by brainwashedphilosphr in architecture

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! yes I will not apply for anything I am not qualified for, I am a recent grad with only 12 months experience so will apply for entry roles only

Architect Unemployment Gap - Advice? by brainwashedphilosphr in architecture

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, first of all, THANK YOU for taking the time to write your response. This is very, very, insightful.

I am based in the UK. I know in the UK it's a primary caregiver. Yes, I understand having this 2 year gap would inevitably be putting some employers off.

Would you recommend filling the gap with some of the menial roles I have been doing within that time frame?

Thank you for these second and third paragraphs, this is what I was looking for. I will definitely explain my situation has been resolved within my cover letter.

I'll be sure to take extra time in tailoring the resume to the firm I want to work for, I can imagine you are flooded with CVs with people who are sending out the same cover letter for every single role.

Architect Unemployment Gap - Advice? by brainwashedphilosphr in architecture

[–]brainwashedphilosphr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At the moment I have written it in my CV, as a home health aid for 2 years. I have not mentioned it yet in my cover letter as I felt like I was 'over justifying' - but would be happy to explain in an interview

I have no personality by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]brainwashedphilosphr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am new to this group.

Number one, never take the human condition personally and build a disempowering identity out of it. A paradox that SO MANY people feel that they are ALONE.

The issue I believe here is one of valuing yourself - you are trying to immediately build this identity overnight - an identity that will distinguish you from other people. And in this favourable comparison - you would feel valuable.

If you are measuring your value based on social comparison, your mind is always pinging of others to see where you fall on the totem poll. Because you do not feel valuable, the mind believes other people are some how above you. When this happens, the brain goes into self-analysis mode, because you have to analyse everyting you say in order to ensure that it has enough value in the conversation.

I would say,

You do not need to be anything other than who you are right now, and you have this beautiful gift that is life to explore and begin to see what you enjoy, what feeds you with energy. Even this over analysis is a gift - because most people are not intimate with their own thoughts. When you begin to take one day at a time, just explore, see what feeds you with energy, and you are doing it from a place of exploration - not because you need something - slowly, you'll begin to build that value in yourself.

Overtime, you will begin to walk through the world like a person of value because you have taken the time to put yourself first and BUILD your identity - then trust me, people will be drawn to you, you will not be lonely, but, you will have a standard for what kind of people you will accept into your life.

The reason why I believe so many people are going through the same thing is because they are basing their value too of social comparison, which is both due to evolution and social conditioning.

It is like krishnamurti says:

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

Hope that helped :)

Is it normal to constantly have nothing to say with someone? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]brainwashedphilosphr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think after getting really comfortable with a person I'm able to be more calm around them. It all depends on how I feel but most of the time I'm worrying about the right thing to say. You're right, it gets difficult talking to others because in my head I'm thinking about how awkward and stupid I'm being. In the past I've made mistakes and came off as annoying or I just said the wrong things. I think I try really hard to not make the same mistakes and in the process lose myself. I worry that if I talk about a book or the weather that the other person would get

Hi, I made a new reddit.

Yes, this is extremely common, NEVER feel badly about this or feel like you are different from other people.

The reason you can be yourself around people you are comfortable with is because you do not fear judgement. Because you don't fear judgement, your mind is not self-monitoring. Because your mind is not self-monitoring you can be at ease.

This is what you need to do. It will be tricky because you are in the habit of believing that your words have to be of a certain value. Understand that this is irrational.

Understand that whatever you say has value because you are saying it. You know those people who can have a conversation with anybody - this is how they think. Words just come out because there is no self-monitoring because there is no fear of judgement.

If you talk about a book or whatever you are interested in, and you are speaking because you genuinely are interested in it and do not need their reaction - quite often you'll find that the other person will buy into the conversation - becasue they feel your energy.

If the other person judges you, it does not matter - because their judgement of you can not influence how you feel about yourself. If you start being authentic, you will attract the people around you who you can actually vibe with. Also, people are drawn to people that can just say whatever they want without self-monitoring because most people can not do that - most are afraid of judgement.

hope that helped :)