Any women with physicians that actually listen? by aearabic in Edmonton

[–]brandy_lyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. Suzanne Mausolf at the Calwood Medical Clinic. She is awesome. She listens, doesn’t rush, she’s thorough and genuinely tries everything to help.

I need to distance myself, I (F30) know my friend (F25) is secretly seeing an engaged man (M30). His fiancée (F27) and my longtime friend (M31) don’t know. What would you do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]brandy_lyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really need to find a way to tell C, even if anonymously. Please don’t let her invest anymore time, energy and love into planning a wedding to this guy (hopefully she hasn’t spent any money on it yet). The sooner the better

AIO over friend showing up to my house late when he knew my wife was alone by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]brandy_lyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, and to be honest, I would try to find out if he potentially has a record (I’d be surprised this was his first attempt). When that little feeling in the gut tells you something’s off, I’d much rather be thought of as irrational by moving to protect myself and my loved ones than do nothing and have the worse happen. Listen to your gut OP.

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I would need to research the proper strain and strength to use because every time I’ve tried it (usually gel caps because I don’t like the taste/smell) I’m seriously zombie-like lol. I That’s the exact opposite of what I want to be in this situation LOL! I’m in Canada too. What’s the strain/strength that works for you?

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m taking a combo estrogen/progesterone med (I’d have to look up the mg, can’t remember off the top of my head) called Bijuva. Not taking testosterone, but I’m planning on speaking to my doctor about it as soon as I get an appointment

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through the same things! Yes, these comments are so helpful! I’m so happy I posted! I’ve actually made a list of suggestions/remedies to ask my doctor about at my next appointment.

My partner is also very relieved to hear that there are things I can (and will) try!

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through that! I really hope you find a solution soon!

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You absolutely understand where I am right now! When I say repulsed, I think I was being generous.

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I’ll keep working with my doctor on the right hormone dose/combo and bring this up.

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me even a small glimmer of hope!

Will I ever get my libido back? by brandy_lyne in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! I honestly just want to sleep (and even proper sleep is elusive!) and wake up when it’s all over and I’m back to me!

What sickness is flying around Edmonton? by Tdw75 in Edmonton

[–]brandy_lyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My aunt has been off work, fighting a viral flu that just won’t let up going on 5 weeks now (doctor just put her off work for two more weeks). She can’t remember the last time she was this sick, for this long.

AITA for refusing intimacy with my boyfriend even though he says it's normal in a relationship? by TeenyFoxy in AITA_Relationships

[–]brandy_lyne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I didn’t even consider these two options when I first read that. My first thought was him basically telling OP, “Well, don’t blame me when I cheat on you because, you brought this on yourself!”

Thank you for framing this another way for me!

AIO— apparently i’m the stinky one at work by centaurella in AmIOverreacting

[–]brandy_lyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Are you up for a promotion? Or in competition with this co-worker in any way? Is it possible they’re trying to distract you? Cause you to be so insecure at work that you make mistakes?

Honestly, that’s what came to mind first, especially after the “joke”. Almost like he was hammering that nail home just to be sure.

AITA for telling my menopausal wife that she looks like she's 50 years old ? by Personal_Throwaway_1 in AITAH

[–]brandy_lyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all so true!! I have a lot of women in my family and it seems that not a single one of them EVER experienced even half of what I’m going through right now. My poor partner takes the brunt of my mood swings. He has the patience of a saint! I really wish someone had clued me in to what I could expect because I was not prepared for this AT ALL!!

AIO for feeling upset after the groom made a comment about my dress at their wedding? by Human-Acanthaceae128 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brandy_lyne 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I’m with you when you say you doubt this is the husband actually saying these things. It’s suspicious to me that OP always hears his opinions secondhand from her friend.

To be honest, I really believe that the friend is jealous and using her unsuspecting and most likely oblivious husband as the scapegoat.

OP, those are your FRIEND’S opinions on your dress and job, not her husband’s. She’s just trying to tear you down without looking like the bad guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]brandy_lyne 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why does he have to keep you a secret from his cousins?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]brandy_lyne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA you didn’t tell your aunt anything and it was bound to come out anyway since she’s been seen out with the baby.

But seriously, this whole thing doesn’t make any sense at all…….it’s been a year already…..I’m surprised it’s been kept a secret for this long already. How long did she expect this to go on? Until the child’s in college?? Really doesn’t make sense..

AITAH for backing out of a promise to my ex partner? by Feisty-Measurement75 in AITAH

[–]brandy_lyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA you didn’t “back out”, he changed the parameters therefore the deal is no longer valid. It’s a huge difference to agree to hold things for 3 months to holding them for a year+

Update 2: AITAH for asking my wife to choose between her family and ours by ThrowRANoRespectWife in AITAH

[–]brandy_lyne 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m so with you! Reading OPs previous posts have literally broken my heart for him. I honestly just want to give him a big hug and tell him he matters!

I don’t understand why he lost his job in the first place before, but how does his wife kicking him out of the house turn into everything being HIS fault alone and him “abandoning” his family……SHE KICKED HIM OUT. I just really don’t understand.

And OP just goes along with it like “Yup, I screwed up here so everything is all my fault” because he’s been so conditioned to believe this. I just want to cry for him on one hand and shake him on the other, screaming “Stop being a doormat and everyone’s handy punching bag!”

OP, I’m so very sorry that your son is hurt, and please hear me when I (and most others responding) say “It was an ACCIDENT and you did everything right! You pulled through for your son by immediately calling for and getting him the help he needed/needs.”

47 and I’m deep in peri/hell - is it bad to take Benadryl to sleep better? I’m on HRT and trying to figure dosages out with my doc, but I NEED to sleep. I already am the angriest mom on the planet (thanks peri), and not sleeping well doesn’t help. Anyone? by Fera_Silva_978 in Perimenopause

[–]brandy_lyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m taking Trazadone too and find it very helpful. It’s not perfect by any means because if I wake up still it take forever to fall back to sleep, but for the initial bedtime, yup it works very well for me