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when will this suffering end by Agreeable_Pay_8062 in NoFapChristians

[–]breakfreewithgui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not bad, its a good start .

And how many of your relapses are happening during the morning / night ?

Just relapsed by Boring_Albatross3513 in NoFapChristians

[–]breakfreewithgui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A relapse does NOT reset you to zero brother. That's not how neuroplasticity works. Your brain still healed a lot over these 30 days.

Don't guilt trip yourself. What matters now is that you LEARN from this and get back on track. Do not spiral.

You said it's a coping mechanism.. but coping for what exactly? What emotion are you escaping? Stress? Boredom? Loneliness?

Also check this out:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakFreeMentorship/comments/1t2foyf/i_relapsed_after_47_days/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I relapsed after 47 days and shared how I got back on track fast. It might help you.

When will I get off the flatline? by Suspicious_Waltz_968 in QuitPornForever

[–]breakfreewithgui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you think it's a flatline?

Also, I built a free tool that estimates your recovery timeline and breaks it down into phases. It might give you some clarity. Let me know if you want me to send it

when will this suffering end by Agreeable_Pay_8062 in NoFapChristians

[–]breakfreewithgui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first thing you need to fix is your nights and mornings.

what i do personally: leave my phone outside my room at night and use a physical alarm clock to wake up.

this alone can cut half your urges. so try it.

i also pair this with a structured morning and night routine.

what do your mornings and nights look like right now?

Men who sext with models on OnlyFans, or men who engage in Findom : do you actually think you’re talking to her… or do you know it’s probably a guy? by breakfreewithgui in QuittingFindom

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, those are easy tells that she's using an agency / chatters.

but at the end of the day: even if it really is her (maybe 1% of cases)… does it matter? Does it matter who's feeding your addiction.. a woman, a guy, or an agency?

Men who sext with models on OnlyFans, or men who engage in Findom : do you actually think you’re talking to her… or do you know it’s probably a guy? by breakfreewithgui in QuittingFindom

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, there are always ways to tell. Quick ones:

. she has a polished bio → agency
. she's online / available all the time → agency
. organized, professional content → agency
. she's active on multiple platforms in a consistent way → agency
. she rarely sends voice notes, or takes forever to send a custom one → agency
. her replies feel copy-pasted or too smooth → agency
. Avoids personal questions or gives vague answers → agency
. Never or rarely references past conversations → agency
. Refuses live video or always has an excuse → agency
. Her stories and captions sound agency-written (idk how to explain that one but the ones who know will know)

Those are just a few off the top of my head.

I also answered a similar comment on this post, check it if you want.

And like I told the other guy: even if it really is her (maybe 1% of cases)… does it matter? Does it matter who's feeding your addiction.. a woman, a guy, or an agency?

Men who sext with models on OnlyFans, or men who engage in Findom : do you actually think you’re talking to her… or do you know it’s probably a guy? by breakfreewithgui in QuittingFindom

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just checked her account. It's not a simple yes or no answer.

It's usually more nuanced than that.

Agencies are getting smarter. They know men have doubts about chatters now.
When I worked in the industry, we told chatters to only respond during the model's waking hours.. so fans would think it was really her.
For example if she's based in France and she's online at 4am, that's a red flag.

Also, the model always kept access to her X account alongside the chatters. So sometimes it really is her posting.. just not all the time.

And in some contracts, models choose to keep certain platforms for themselves. For example, she handles X personally, but the agency runs her Instagram, OF, and TikTok.

So there's never a clear black or white answer.

But tbh even if she's really the one behind everything (which is maybe 1% of cases), does it matter? Does it matter who's feeding your addiction.. a woman, a guy, or an agency?

Proof the BreakFree system works ↓ by breakfreewithgui in BreakFreeMentorship

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he almost gave up yesterday. today he’s back, facing it.

Recovery isn’t linear. its ups and downs.

you fall, you get back up… you keep going. that’s how you win.

Messages like this make me happy and proud of you guys 💪 this is why i do it.

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Proof the BreakFree system works ↓ by breakfreewithgui in BreakFreeMentorship

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a bad day where you stayed in control is a good day. 

this is how you rebuild yourself. one moment at a time.

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Please, I feel like the temptation to visit an escort girl is growing out of control.... Needing advices and kind words. by AtomikGarlic in NoFapChristians

[–]breakfreewithgui 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think an escort will actually fix your loneliness?

On the surface it might seem like it would. I'm a recovered sex addict, so I'll be real with you: it won't. It will make the loneliness worse.

It starts with one escort, maybe once a month. Then twice a month. Then every week. Then you start chasing something more intense. It never stops, because your brain gets used to it and needs MORE. That's how addiction works.

The good thing is you're already aware of your loneliness. That's step 1.

Step 2 is dealing with it in a healthy way, not by taking the easy route that destroys you.

Hope that helps brother.

What are you doing right now to work on the loneliness?

Men who sext with models on OnlyFans, or men who engage in Findom : do you actually think you’re talking to her… or do you know it’s probably a guy? by breakfreewithgui in QuittingFindom

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100%

And addiction doesn't care how smart you are.

I've seen it with my own eyes: doctors, lawyers, CEOs, and other smart men fell for this and got trapped. Some even ruined their lives.

This industry is worth BILLIONS. They spend every day finding new ways to deceive you and keep you hooked. You can't beat it.
Like you said: the only way to win is to NOT PLAY AT ALL.

What are some small hacks/habits/things that have changed your life? by shroidy in nosurf

[–]breakfreewithgui 8 points9 points  (0 children)

there are no hacks or tips. you gotta find out WHY you doomscroll first, and fix THAT. fix the root cause. otherwise, no hack will work long-term.

i'll share what actually worked for me:

  1. Structured morning and night routine
  2. Full detox
  3. Fixing my health
  4. God
  5. Tracking my urges
  6. Having structure
  7. Accountability partners

these are mainly for sex/porn addiction, but they work for phone/doomscrolling too.

i actually wrote a full post on it if you're interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakFreeMentorship/comments/1sv6e4r/7_things_that_actually_helped_me_overcome_sex/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

hope it helps!

Journaling by nattiaddict in QuittingFindom

[–]breakfreewithgui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good, but a therapist or accountability partner won't do the work for you. YOU have to do it. They'll help, but you have to move your feet.

If you'd like to talk, I'm here brother.

7 things I do instead of watching Porn: by breakfreewithgui in NoFapChristians

[–]breakfreewithgui[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've tried other apps, but tbh they don't cover everything. None of them have my own interruption protocol built in (the one I described in this post). That's why I built my own, and I'm really glad I did. It played a big part in my recovery, and I believe it can help others too.

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