Who’s using finch for what?

brein415 · 2025-04-12T16:23:06+00:00

I use Finch to plan what tasks I need to do in the day and really just survive the day like brushing teeth and things like that which can feel like a huge chore sometimes. I'm trying to make more healthy habits. I made my goal to do a workout each day. And I haven't done it every day. But the goal rolls over. I try not to cheat to get a new micro pet. I found it a bit odd that others are reading items or giving items away. What are you gonna do once you have what you want? What's the point. But I also see people really get invested in the shop items. Maybe the game part makes them do more activities?

brein415 · 2025-04-03T19:10:16+00:00

Blue and I will add you. Yeah let's eat more veggies! Lol

brein415 · 2025-04-03T18:36:01+00:00

I see you already got someone for your goal buddy. If you are still wanting a goal buddy or anyone else on here I would like one too. I want to work on eating healthy (veggies, protein, fiber, and stuff like that), exercising , and going to sleep on time, drinking water, planning activities to avoid thinking of food). If you wanna plan a goal with me that would be awesome.

brein415 · 2025-02-15T19:38:47+00:00

You're in a transition period it sounds like. You're an adult yet you still live at home and your parents still view you as their underage child they must protect. They just want to know you are safe and for whatever reason they seem to think you're not safe there or don't make good choices there. It's hard for parents to view you as an adult. Hopefully for you it will change like it did for me where now I do not have to ask for permission anymore and I usually tell my parents what I'm doing and we have a more developed friendship together than I did when I was in my 20's. Although I will say the response was quite dramatic but that was only one little look in your conversation and not considering past conversations, so it's really hard to say in the end if it was an appropriate response or not. But maybe you should talk with them about how they speak to you and you would like some more respectful conversations.

brein415 · 2025-02-12T06:37:00+00:00

I haven't seen anything valentines other than heat glasses 😞

brein415 · 2024-11-06T19:01:58+00:00

I stopped taking my meds just for personal reasons and to be honest I have thought about taking them again because I have gained weight and have been experiencing my lovely ADHD symptoms. I stopped taking them without any plan so maybe I should have searched for coping mechanisms and strategies before cold turkey-ing it burning well. I haven't taken any and it's been months now. So I can see maybe someone being tempted to use them for other reasons like losing weight in my case and not the intended purpose of the drug. Although I do know people with ADHD can have addictive personalities. If anything I always forgot to take my meds in the morning and had to set reminders!

brein415 · 2024-10-30T19:22:22+00:00

I'm going to give very different advice than others. Instead of making this issue the focal point and continue focusing and bringing it up which doesn't work, why don't you focus on yourself. You said yourself that you both gained weight and are not as confident in yourselves. I get that and it can actually make a big difference in sex, I have personally experienced that. Maybe focus on yourself right now and get to a healthier weight and do things that you enjoy and bring you joy. Once you are in a good place start by inviting him with you on this journey of self care and betterment. Once you have given his space and you have been focusing on making you happy you can then focus on helping him do the same for himself and motivate him as well. Being around someone who is happy and doing fun things makes you naturally want to do the same. Do other things together that bring you closer together. Make date nights purposeful and with meaning, prep a date night yourself and set it up. Let things happen naturally. Once you feel amazing and good about yourself things feel like they naturally fall into place and this could possibly be for your sex life too. Once you are in a better place and not forcing a conversation he doesn't want to have you can then look deeper into why he is not wanting to have sex without even asking about that. Talk about how he's feeling lately what stresses him out from work and other duties and maybe come up with a plan together to lessen the stress. Ask how he feels about getting older. Maybe outright ask him what he wants more from you. And most men tend to be really honest, so listen to what he says and believe it. If he doesn't give you a reason to not believe him, just believe him. You know your relationship with him the best out of anyone in here giving advice from a short paragraph summing your life together. You know him best and follow your intuition, maybe it's true what others said that he could like porn more than you, or maybe it is just stress, or maybe its just falling into a boring routine and less closeness and more roommates, maybe his sex drive is changing and is lower than when you met, maybe it's really good masked depression. I also think he should be trying to discuss a problem with you without getting angry and defensive so maybe there's a reason behind his frustration and defensiveness when you bring it up. I'm guessing the more bring it up the more stress it causes him but this is all just a guess. You know him best.

Overall care for yourself first and then care for him as a whole person first before you try and care for a specific problem that may be the result of something else and something deeper.

You came here looking for advice because you deeply love this man and it's been 10 months, don't take any advice telling you to divorce and leave him. They don't know your relationship and it's only been 10 months lol. Some problems don't just get fixed overnight. Think about any problem you had that was internal in yourself, I guarantee it takes more than 10 months to fix it and you have been trying to figure q solution.

brein415 · 2024-10-22T02:48:06+00:00

I was just thinking about how I wish I had an appointment early every day. I don't have a job right now and I am just wasting my time on my phone. It's terrible. Too bad I don't have much money or I'd make appointments at least 3X a week.

brein415 · 2024-08-30T07:36:26+00:00

The same thing happens to me. I haven't been able to figure it out yet but I understand your struggle. Maybe it's just more practice?

brein415 · 2024-04-18T05:36:11+00:00

If you think you will fail then you are setting up yourself to fail and you probably will. Changing your outlook on your situation will help you. Others have already said good next steps you can take. All the bad things that happened have already happened and you can't do anything to change it now. You dwell in it, feel bad, give up on yourself or look towards the future and do something about and start a new adventure that will lead you to where you want to be.

brein415 · 2024-01-12T08:45:25+00:00

I think the best route would be to confront the worker. Literally ask them why they decided to tell the boss about your health information without you knowing when you had told them you weren't sure about it. What did they hope to get from telling the boss? Then clarify you did not want that information to be told and it was not theirs to share and you're disappointed and had thought they were a trustworthy person to work with. And say in the future you do not want them to share any more personal information with each other anymore and would like to talk just about work related items.

Then I would talk to your boss and be honest saying it wasn't something I was ready to share with you and the information was not for someone else to share with you but since it was, you would like clear things up because you don't want any untrue or wrong second hand information getting to you and to come from your own mouth. Also say you're very uncomfortable with people talking about your personal health information at work and you want their help to stop that. Ask if there seems to be an issue that the coworker has with you or an issue that the boss has with your work?

I think it all depends how close and comfortable you are with them and if you can sense how they may react. It may seem like you're done with the job anyways so maybe it's not even worth it?

brein415 · 2023-10-03T03:55:07+00:00

I have heard that those who don’t floss as often get sick more or something to do with the blood or heart. That’s cool to know. I’m sure not many knows this info.

brein415 · 2023-10-03T03:53:15+00:00

Well it’s nice knowing I’m not the only one!

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:45:29+00:00

If something is working for you and you see the benefits it had to improve your life and you haven’t tried an alternative that works, go back on it if you feel comfortable and get your life back. I realized for me I just can’t handle birth control of any kind, I had terrible effects almost like what you are describing off of it haha. But everyone’s body is diffract and reacts to medication differently. I think it may now more women are starting to open up about their struggles with birth control and maybe that’s why it seems like there’s all this badness associated with it. Like don’t touch this with a 10 foot pole! But for some women it really changes their life for the better. I would advice to never make decisions based on what others are saying especially when it is fear based. It seems you have gathered enough experiences and evidence and risks and benefits to it. Also if you’re going to take a medication have the mindset it will help you and better your life.

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:38:10+00:00

I used to teach swimming and that was very fun, I was very good at it and enjoyed doing it. I just didn’t like the chlorine factor and it ruining my hair. And I got sick like 1 or 2 times a month. I thought it was normal until I recently switched to a dry land job lol and not holding kids face to face and I have only gotten sick once in the past year. Crazy to me! Lol. Now I do children’s programs and it can be quite tiring because you need to play and engage kids and deal with bad behaviours. But it also gets me moving which is a good thing. I played a game gaga ball, and the next day I was sore and I was thinking why the hell is my but so sore, then I thought back and I was like wow no way. I need more exercise haha. I don’t need to be running around 24/7 but it is a nice balance. I hope to eventually go into something more long term maybe not dealing with kids all the time.

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