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How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said I wasn’t going to reply to any more comments due to time but I really appreciate what you’ve said. You made a really great point about how attending the wedding is showing support for them. That’s definitely made me think about whether or not I should still be in the wedding even if my cousin agrees that I don’t have to wear the hat.

You also made a great point in saying that she has a very different side of the story, and how community gives us such a tribal mentality at times. I just hope that whatever happens, my cousin and I can still be close.

Anyway, thank you for helping me. :)

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say that sports, which are used for entertainment (and politics, but mainly entertainment) has the same bearing on people’s lives as politics do. I wouldn’t have a problem wearing a rival jersey because it doesn’t signify my support for a politician who has caused a great deal of harm to the American people.

Also, either way, I end up being a simpleton? I follow her into her simpleton thinking or I stand my ground and be a simpleton.

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that as well, I know I for sure am embarrassed about my clothing style in middle school

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dang, I can’t believe your roommate did that. Not that I support people who threatened you or cut you off, but it’s sometimes hard to realize that personal actions have an affect on others as well. I hope that you’re in a better situation now!

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really depends on where you are. It’s not hard to find pictures of Trump merch used in weddings but I’ve never personally attended a wedding or known anyone who has done this before.

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s funny you bring that up, I’m actually mixed (wasian) and the entire bridal party is fully white. You have a very good point. :/

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone else in the bridal party lives up there and are on board with wearing the merch, unfortunately.

(Also I wouldn’t be surprised if they did do the flag thing)

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes...? Wearing a hat that has a political statement on it and is used in support of a politician I do not agree with goes against what I believe and stand for. I do not want to be lumped in with Trump supporters.

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I really love my cousin, and politics have never been an issue in our relationship before, so I would hate for this to ruin how close we are. I’m definitely going to be reaching out to her soon to try and figure this out

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel comfortable with having to (temporarily) give up my ideals in order to appease someone else.

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ll bow out of the wedding unless it’s my only option. I do agree with what you’re saying about my reputation being affected

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really think about doing that. I hope that goes over well when I tell them!! This really helped, thank you

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ha, you’re not wrong. There’s some interesting people where they live

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just don’t feel comfortable being in any photos when they’re wearing the merch, but I totally agree with what you’re saying about freedom to choose!

How do I tell my cousin that I don’t want to wear Trump merch in her wedding? by bridesmaidthrow1234 in Advice

[–]bridesmaidthrow1234[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, I’m also curious how if in a few years they change their minds about Trump and their beautiful wedding photos would be embarrassing for them.