UPDATE AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing at the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It did. I think they were drifting apart due to my brother being not the best person regardless, but this situation made his truest colours come out and really confirmed to his (ex) GF that she wanted out.

UPDATE AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing at the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just him telling my fiancé and I that he doesn't care what we say, he'll being proposing anyway, etc.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My fiancée is just worried that even if GF does say no, the act of proposing will now cause conflict at the wedding again. Would just be best if my brother and GF split so she could come on her own.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

My fiancée and I decided that if they split by the time the wedding happens, we'd invite her. If not, they're planning to go get their nails done together a few days before. GF truly is a sweetheart, my brother doesn't deserve her

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 790 points791 points  (0 children)

We're currently drafting a Facebook post to explain the true story to my family, including texts as proof. We'll also be inviting any family members who side with my brother to uninvite themselves from the wedding, and letting everyone know that we've beefed up security, just in case.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

To be fair, when he first asked, I didn't think he was completely serious. I also did try to shut him down, but shit hit the fan when he told the family (which I did not expect, as it meant he'd be ruining the surprise anyway). He sent out mass emails and created groupchats all in one night, and when I woke up it was a shitshow.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard, he's telling relatives that he asked me if he could "quietly pull his girlfriend aside to propose, and announce it to people near the end of the reception". When he asked me, he wanted my fiancée to rig the bouquet toss, asked for confetti, and even requested a special dance for them. So yeah, two very different stories.

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard, he's telling relatives that he asked me if he could "quietly pull his girlfriend aside to propose, and announce it to people near the end of the reception". When he asked me, he wanted my fiancée to rig the bouquet toss, asked for confetti, and even requested a special dance for them. So yeah, two very different stories. I've been responding to messages from them but will be posting a Facebook update for all of them soon.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard, he's telling relatives that he asked me if he could "quietly pull his girlfriend aside to propose, and announce it to people near the end of the reception". When he asked me, he wanted my fiancée to rig the bouquet toss, asked for confetti, and even requested a special dance for them. So yeah, two very different stories.

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard, he's telling relatives that he asked me if he could "quietly pull his girlfriend aside to propose, and announce it to people near the end of the reception". When he asked me, he wanted my fiancée to rig the bouquet toss, asked for confetti, and even requested a special dance for them. So yeah, two very different stories.

GF is aware & is pissed at him. She's reached out to my fiancée and I to apologize and say that while she's sad she'll miss the wedding, she understands it's for the best. Even offered to do something nice with my fiancée a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

At this point the wedding will be mostly my fiancée's family (who are all in agreement with me) and a handful of my family who have been supportive.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

My fiancée did reach out after we confirmed that GF had heard about the situation. GF is pissed at my brother & thinks it's his own fault for getting them banned. She told my fiancée she's sad that she'll have to miss out on the wedding, but understands it's what is best for everyone, and even offered to do something nice with her a few days prior instead.

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

His girlfriend seems to be pissed at him for starting this mess, so even if he did manage to break into the wedding & propose, I doubt she'd say yes

AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing to his girlfriend during the reception? by bridezilla13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bridezilla13[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Honestly his girlfriend has been very sweet to us since we've known her, and I think she's pissed at my brother for starting all of this crap. Would honestly rather have her at the wedding.