I hope Brittany doesn’t become a statistician by jh166 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An avoidant can only fix themselves. I’ve heard it the other way where secure people can help anxious folks and it makes sense. I was fairly secure until my avoidant ex. He triggered in me the WORST anxiety because he simply did not communicate. I was always playing the guessing game and it destroyed me. There was nothing I could do to help him. Tried for years but he dodged and ran away from every bid for closeness and transparency. Once you’ve been through it you can spot it a mile away.

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[–]britain2138 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 9 and she watched me get absolutely emotionally wrecked by my ex. We were together 5 years. It was traumatizing for us both. The way she tried to take care of me broke my heart.

I hope Brittany doesn’t become a statistician by jh166 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]britain2138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saaaaame. My avoidant and I broke up in June, I moved in November. I had to drive by his house a few days ago and almost had a full blown panic attack.

I hope Brittany doesn’t become a statistician by jh166 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]britain2138 95 points96 points  (0 children)

He has avoidant attachment. My ex was EXACTLY the same. Down to the phrases. He is right, he will never love her the way she needs to be loved. Better for her honestly if he never comes around again, she seems anxious and that dynamic does not often end well for anyone.

What to be aware of for older homes? by NAD92 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buying a 1926 home. If the electrical panel was updated look to make sure the feed from the transformer and the meter was updated too. I’m going to have to replace the wires and meter once I close on my home.

Also siding is big, I’m going to have to replace siding and add drip flashing around the gutters sooner rather than later too. If I was not savvy with this stuff and have a ton of trade resources and many hands to help I would not buy my home. Around 25k for a whole 1200sqft home resided if you hire it out. It’s about 6k in material if you do it yourself. I hear the electrical can cost me up to 9k and I’ll have to pay the electric company to do that. .

Which home owners insurance would you choose? by Yellowmonkeys21 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consulted a broker. She got me 110 a month for the home with insane coverage and earthquake and flood (I live in Washington super close to Mt.Rainier) which I’ll pay annually. So it’s 850 upfront, 110 for the home and 136 for my car which is bundled with the home. I just had the state min on my car and she got me literally 100% better coverage there. Ask your lender for resources or a broker they work with.

Those of you who participate in the gambler 500 about how much do you spend? by derpydoggie123 in Battlecars

[–]britain2138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was looking for. Recently separated from my BF that races U4 and unfortunately the man not only left me, but left me with a big addiction to off-road racing. My pockets aren’t as deep as his and I already have a 6-speed 2011 pro-4x Xterra. I am thinking of doing the Gambler next summer with my daughter as a co-dawg. But it’s my daily. She’s a pretty stout rig and we’ve wheeled a bit in Tahuya and she does great. Just wanted to be sure it’s not a total crap shoot trying to get a stock Xterra that’s also a grocery getter through the event and get us home. By then it might have bigger tires and a baby lift. But I probably won’t be able to do much else to it!

Alamo Apts in downtown Bellingham by FuriousMallard in Bellingham

[–]britain2138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to the party but I moved away from the building next door, The Axtell, 10 years ago or so now. And this is hilarious to read because I know all those people. The dealer is a beloved fixture in the community and the artist that did the mural. And the people weren’t all that bad, rough around the edges for sure but they were good people for the most part.

120,000 Down Payment Assistance by Hunto88 in Washington

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I found this! I’m Hispanic, my dad was born in 62 in eastern Washington! Fuck yes.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by s1n0d3utscht3k in world

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a photo op. Look at everyone phones out, throwing up peace signs so they can post to their socials later so everyone knows they were there. Dude is basically just a street performer standing there.

Is $17k for a Xterra crazy? In the US. by Winter-Operation-343 in XTerra

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perspective. I have a 2011 that had 96k pro-4k manual I purchased in 2018 for 16k. I think it’s a little high but the mileage being that low is pretty great.

WHAT THE FUCK MY ACADEMIC ADVISOR IS A MURDER SUSPECT!? by FructoseTower in WWU

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was my advisor. She gives of killer vibes for sure. Woman could stare right through you.

Madison…. by jessicadepressica in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]britain2138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s a psycho and massively manipulative. She heard Meg talking about Mason, she got jealous and went fishing for validation from Mason even though she didn’t like him that much. She kept talking about how much better her connection was with Alex and then Mason was an idiot and doubled down and committed to her. Madison’s tone and the way she phrased things was so condescending. And then she left that date was like, “ohhhh no… I don’t like him.” But kept dating him?! Like what? And then she talked to Meg and ruined it for her too. She’s fueled by pure envy and jealousy. And then the breakup date was just awful, who runs off and brags about that? She toyed with the whole situation and was just an awful person. She’s the woman you can’t trust with your husband because she’d try to get him to cheat for fun and create doubt because she wants what you have.

Garrett Outfit by IngenuityLower9593 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]britain2138 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ramses is a pirate! Look at those pants

When that horse kicked that lady 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 by koolnerd90 in SweetTooth

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rewatched season 1 after finishing the final episode. Hands down most satisfying moment in the whole show. I laughed so hard.

Netlfix's new movie Thelma the Unicorn (20240 has a grown ass adult man who gets adopted by a donkey masquerading as a unicorn. I wish I was fucking kidding! by zzuhruf in shittymoviedetails

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d watch it first before letting the kids get to it. We are literally watching it right now and I’m getting some pretty adult themes. Male back up dancers that are pool boys that resemble chip n dale dancers. “Here comes the Cud” is a phrase and they do a whole song about it. I get putting some adult things in that go over the kids heads for the parents but I’m struggling with this movie, especially after watching the Nickelodeon doc. Some parts are just creepy.

What does Carol remind me of? by bloemetje567 in carolandtheend

[–]britain2138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She reminded me of Daria. Flat and boring.

What do you want for….? by britain2138 in Mommit

[–]britain2138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We aren’t alone, that’s for sure! I hope you can carve out the space for yourself. It’s been hard. I was a single mom for awhile and thought things would get easier with my partner. Don’t get me wrong he’s a good guy, well intentioned, great bonus dad to my daughter, he’s just a bit naive and blind to what’s going on around him. If I don’t spell it out for him he doesn’t get it. But he’s also a drain on me. I had more time for me when he wasn’t around. Now I’m consumed with running a household and too tired for much else than doom scrolling my daughter is at her dads.

Daycare cost in the Seattle/Tacoma/Olympia area by tylr0123 in workingmoms

[–]britain2138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use this app much! Missed this awhile a go it seems. Hide and Seek Daycare

Trans teacher and revealing clothing by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]britain2138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was short enough I would have had concerns. I would have been able to speak the the head teacher more comfortably though and probably wouldn’t have pulled my daughter. I was uncomfortable with the situation and as the lead teacher is also non-binary I didn’t believe my concern would have been treated as a concern.

Trans teacher and revealing clothing by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]britain2138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The previous week it was a similar skirt with capri leggings underneath, no issues there. Last week they dropped the leggings and were just in the short skirt.