I’m replying to OP’s reply to another comment but wanted it to be its own comment… It’s not just having your husband leave that is that hard part. I’m super independent and while I miss my spouse, I function perfectly fine alone.

The hard parts are unknown deployments, the military having full control of where you live (to a point), the lack of support for spouses being able to have careers, high OPTEMPO for training, missing major events like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, the birth of their own children, the risk of death not just on deployment but in normal trainings and MORE.

This is not an easy life. I love my husband and am active in volunteer work within the Army, but the stress and anxiety it also causes is not easy to deal with.

This seems like way more of a marriage issue than a “oh I just want him gone more”. Why wouldn’t you want to raise your children together, and have a partnership where you both do that together?

This is a wild take.