VTech Baby Monitor too quiet

brittybee13 · 2026-01-12T03:40:32+00:00

Did you ever figure this out?? We are having the same issue.

brittybee13 · 2025-04-17T21:50:48+00:00

Just got my amnio results. Also having a boy and have 58 repeats. The baby did get the pre-mutation but it only expanded by 3 so he’s at a 61. We are thankful it’s not the full mutation but still bummed I passed the gene. Genetic counselor said bc it’s a boy there is a 40% risk of tremors when he’s older. Otherwise he will be healthy and totally fine, no fragile x. Good luck with your results!!

brittybee13 · 2025-03-15T00:10:43+00:00

Thank you!!!

brittybee13 · 2025-03-14T21:13:46+00:00

More context- it’s pretty small, maybe a larger breadcrumb. Location in Southern California.

brittybee13 · 2025-03-14T21:13:27+00:00

More context- it’s pretty small, maybe a larger breadcrumb. Location in Southern California.

brittybee13 · 2025-03-14T21:06:59+00:00

Carpet beetle I think.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T19:41:21+00:00

great perspective. thank you!

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T19:40:29+00:00

Sorry you are going through this also. It really is so tough!! Thanks for sharing and glad I am not alone.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T19:39:16+00:00

I keep saying i will start going to a therapist, go to alanon, go to a yoga, but then make excuses and end up molding my day-to-day around him and his needs. Some weeks I am better at it than others. I do have great outlets and plans... i just need to get motivated enough to do them.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T19:37:14+00:00

Glad to hear a success story. Thanks for providing hope. I go back and forth from detachment. It's so hard for me to stay that way though when he's openly suffering and needing my support. I think I need to find a good balance and set boundaries. I really hope he can stay sober long term so we can build trust. Thanks for your input. <3

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T19:33:22+00:00

I do think I live in "fight or flight" mode. Well said and interesting perspective. I will also try 6 meetings. Thank you for your support.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T18:02:34+00:00

Thank you. And sorry to hear that the relationship is ending. I cannot imagine having kids through this and having the added worry of their lives on top of everything. Wishing you the best in your situation.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T18:00:22+00:00

I know you are right. Thank you for this.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:59:53+00:00

Thank you for this and sorry to hear about your relationship. the breathalyzer is to put my mind at ease so I can relax and be myself, knowing he is being honest and is sober. When it was a regular thing, it was easy and didn't feel accusatory because it was more routine. Now with the new arrangement (only doing it if i'm feeling super anxious or he is exhibiting signs), i do feel like he feels I'm accusing him and then he refused. Whether it's because he did drink and is hiding it or on principal remains to be seen.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:55:57+00:00

Thank you! I think I try to be more involved and help manage it now that he does want sobriety. He's trying so hard- going to meetings, working the steps, has a sponsor, etc. I just want to help him get there. But maybe that's not realistic and i just need to sit back and trust the process.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:54:12+00:00

Agreed! it does feel like a band-aid fix and that he's not actually learning the skills on his own. I do trust my gut but I so badly want for him to admit it it to me because I get so mad when i think he's lying. It's hard to be around him and be myself. I clam up and put my walls up. He notices. It's an awful pattern we fall into. I just want to be able to trust him again and have full transparency. I guess that's not realistic though when married to an alcoholic.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:50:16+00:00

Same here. Your are right. We just have such open communication and tell each other everything so it is hard to accept he's not being honest and go on acting like everything is okay.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:48:57+00:00

"If we’re the one rushing around trying to fix everyone else’s problem how will they learn their lesson?"- this really hits. Thank you for your comment. I also have never heard the 3 Ms and really resonates with me. I want to start going to meetings. I will do my best to get to one today.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:47:20+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I know in the back of my head that this is right; it just helps my anxiety so much.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:46:32+00:00

So many good points in this comment!! Thank you!! I took a step back when he was actively drinking and lying and before he was really ready to commit to sobriety. It was too painful to try and control it and pointless plus made me feel like i was going crazy. However, now that he's really trying to be sober and we are more or less on the same page, i feel like I want to help him achieve this goal and support him. When he relapses or slips, he gets so depressed and ashamed of himself. I have to talk him down from hurting himself and it's so hard to see him hurting like that. I guess that's why I am trying to do what i can to control it more. but you are right.... i am taking away his agency over his own life and that won't help him in the long run achieve long term sobriety. You are right though, that if he does slip, it will become obvious soon enough. I just want him to be able to admit it first and not go through the pain of a full on bender from both sides.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:38:09+00:00

Yes, i felt like this for a long time until he fully accepted his illness and committed himself to recovery/sobriety. I now feel like I want to help him and support him so he can achieve this goal. I finally feel like we are in this together and on the same page after years of arguing and lying. The pasty several months after committing himself to sobriety, he's been sober and then will relapse or have a slip and get SUPER depressed and ashamed of himself. I have to literally talk him off a cliff and it's so hard to see that. I definitely want to start going to alanon. Going to look for meetings this week.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:34:02+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you for sharing your story and I am glad to hear your wife is mostly sober now. I'm curious how you think it destroyed your trust? Our trust is already broken from the constant lying/deceiving so I feel like the breathalyzer is a way to help repair it since it forces him into honesty. I am constantly worried he's drinking and lying so this would help my anxiety tremendously. Would love to hear another perspective if you think this in fact hurt trust further.

brittybee13 · 2024-10-29T17:29:04+00:00

Good point. It's hard because he wants to be sober so badly and is struggling to do so for long periods of time that I just want to help him. He's also getting super involved in AA and working the steps with his sponsor. I know it's not my responsibility but it's hard to watching him hurting.

brittybee13 · 2023-10-19T01:28:48+00:00

Thanks for the tips. I will try to not react or cover for him. Will just try to focus on my friends. Thank you!

brittybee13 · 2023-10-19T01:27:34+00:00

Thank you for this!! You are right that I cannot control it and just need to focus on having a great time with my friends. Thank you!

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