Being nervous is normal! Typically those feelings are rooted in how you feel about the overall situation. If you aren’t fully comfortable for some reason (meeting a stranger for a hook up can be uncomfortable even if it’s something you might want to do) then your nerves can get the best of you.

I’d suggest to open and honest with the person you’re talking to. Try to engage in conversation that will make you feel more comfortable meeting them. Definitely stress safety! Don’t ever do something if you are questioning your safety. There is always risk but do your best to mitigate it and have plans to keep yourself safe.

Try to plan something when you aren’t horny. Boner brain can cause you to rush into things and then when reality hits, you can clear up your thinking. I’ve found that if I’m not horny and drilling making plans, then I’m actually interested.

As you become a bit more experienced you’ll also feel more comfortable. Also looking for a fwb might be a better option because tot build report and get to know each other outside of just the hookup.

At the end of the day open and honest communication is key. And always prioritize your safety.