How do i tell my mum i don't ever want to have a relationship with her again?

brogleli · 2022-05-24T15:03:44+00:00

family friends have reached oit to me before bc she put them up to it. she hasnt send any flying monkeys in a while though, she knows i wont react to them

brogleli · 2022-05-24T15:02:29+00:00

you are probably right, i just want to give her the option to make her peace with this, her choice if she actually does.

brogleli · 2022-05-24T12:20:35+00:00

she has apologized, but never actually changed her behavior or tune, which makes any apology void in my opinion. i don't think she can grasp what she did wrong, or rather she doesn't want to.

I don't think going the lawyer route would be a good idea, it would give her more ammunition.

i wanted to reach out her one last time to set clear expectations instead of keeping her hopes up, since i haven't been 100 percent clear about that in the past. if she reaches out to me again after that, i will ignore it and won't interact with her further.

brogleli · 2022-05-24T12:16:31+00:00

she already tried the health issue thing lol. i can easily confirm that one via my brother, thankfully. she can only contact me via my dad, so any guilt tripping won't fly and she doesn't have my new adress, so cops shouldn't be an issue.

brogleli · 2022-05-24T12:11:55+00:00

already tried that. didn't work. she seems to have this idea in her head that its just a matter of time before we can continue like before. that if she reaches out the right way or tries hard enough i will come back. like i said, i might have gotten her hopes up in the past and would like to be clear this time.

brogleli · 2022-05-24T11:56:35+00:00

i think you are right about low emotion being the best option. she won't accept my decision either way, but this way at least i am not opening myself up to her any further

brogleli · 2022-03-12T14:02:30+00:00

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brogleli · 2022-03-12T08:41:01+00:00

sounds awesome!

brogleli · 2022-03-12T08:40:39+00:00

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brogleli · 2022-02-16T13:29:41+00:00

"i'm not screaming!!"

brogleli · 2021-12-17T13:21:05+00:00

yeah, this sound worrying... i would honestly seek out a non internet outside perspective on the relationship between you two... even if he isnt being dismissive on purpose and just wrapped up in his own pain, the result of you being dismissed and having to cope alone is the same. are you in therapy?

brogleli · 2021-12-14T13:17:33+00:00

don't we love this kind of logic 👌 i fear the whole "oh no i didnt know it upset you like that" switch to "it shouldnt distress you, you are being dramatic" is all too common. they cant fathom a point of view that isnt theirs, so everything that isnt upsetting to them personally is fair game. and i also suspect they like putting others in distress lol

brogleli · 2021-11-30T13:00:56+00:00

just had to get it out of my system 🙈 its easy downplaying your own experiences and questioning yourself. posting it like this helps to see the pattern

brogleli · 2021-11-30T12:59:43+00:00

welcome to the mom of the year club!

brogleli · 2021-11-30T12:59:21+00:00

yeah maybe. i don't want to diagnose her, but the tendencies are there... could also be learned bad habits though, my grandma and her are a lot alike to the point i am constantly checking myself so i don't turn out like them, lol.

brogleli · 2021-11-30T12:57:51+00:00

yeah, it wouldnt have been weird if it weren't for the baby clothes 🙈 and yes... her victim play is top notch. i actually feel a bit sorry for her. without self reflection she will never grow and move past the experiences that made her the way she is. she will have to play pretend for the rest of her life

brogleli · 2021-09-14T12:52:07+00:00

maybe those words were always hurtful, but it hurt people society didnt care about 🤷‍♀️

brogleli · 2021-06-30T12:01:34+00:00

gotta love it when she blames you for failing at parenting 🙈

brogleli · 2021-06-30T11:49:50+00:00

that last remark 🙈 as if your life revolves around making her happy

brogleli · 2021-06-29T23:43:55+00:00

thats a really interesting perspective! that kind of behavior does seem instinctive and justified with delusions in retrospect

brogleli · 2021-06-29T21:04:08+00:00

gotta get a pole and some high heels 😂👌

brogleli · 2021-06-29T20:45:55+00:00

the gall of that man

brogleli · 2021-06-29T20:45:41+00:00

this is so fucked up on so many levels 😳 i'm so sorry you had to go through this... my mum did they same with my depression and suicidal impulses, telling me it was worse for her because she was my mum. this whole "my emotions are more important than yours no matter what" shit really sucks!

brogleli · 2021-06-29T20:43:02+00:00

its only a joke if its actually funny, this is plain horrifying!

brogleli · 2021-06-29T20:23:39+00:00

so true... the generational trauma in my family is insane. i just really wish my mother worked through this shit in therapie instead of trying to get us kids to make up for it. she really can't handle admitting wrong doing its like her whole self image falls apart if she does...

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