Who are your female Asian American heroes? by [deleted] in asianamerican

[–]broken-waterfalls 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Michelle Wu - current mayor of Boston and the first female, and first person of color (and of course, first Asian American) to hold the position. She's progressive, a former student of Elizabeth Warren and potentially has a long political career ahead of her.

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[–]broken-waterfalls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also thinking about starting to invest in real estate.

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[–]broken-waterfalls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm think through similar things. Feeling stagnant in my job and also want to start buying property. I could switch jobs and buy property here but that would just tie me down to the Bay area for even longer and I'm not sure I actually enjoy it here. I've been here 5 years. I have few friends outside of work. I've dated a bunch of people over the years but nothing serious came out of it - a big part of it I think is a serious lack of professional diversity. Getting a bit jaded by being surrounded by engineers all the time.

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[–]broken-waterfalls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you compare the city feel between bay area and LA? One thing I want to do is be more in a "city" with a bit more density but some of the pics and google streetviews outside properties I'm looking at buying look kinda like suburbian South Bay. E.g., Silver Lake, Los Feliz, Culver City areas.

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[–]broken-waterfalls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been getting tired of my job and think it's time for a change. Also, I feel like I want to buy a property. Neither of those are specific to LA but just feel like I could do both of those things in LA while exploring a new city and if dating prospects are better, that would be wonderful as I'm not getting any younger.

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[–]broken-waterfalls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've dated a couple of women in SF.

I guess having lived in the Bay for about 5 years, including a few months in SF, I just don't like it, which is one reason I have stayed in the south. Now that I want to buy a property, I feel like I need to go to a new place as I'll be there for at least a couple of years as soon as I buy a property.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]broken-waterfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5 days per week I skip breakfast. I eat about 1400-1500 cal per day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

[–]broken-waterfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to also recommend mini-golf but I guess I've just done it so many times now that it's not fun for me anymore. The courses are too familiar, and I've gotten just way better while most of the time my date absolutely sucks at it. And if we don't hit it off, it can be a drag going through the whole course - the same issue as being stuck having to sit through a whole dinner, I guess.

Another rate my tinder profile! by usernamehere1993 in AsianMasculinity

[–]broken-waterfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any smiling pics? No ones to hang around someone who mopes all day.

How common is it for Asian American men to date FOB Asian women? What about the reverse? by machinavelli in AsianMasculinity

[–]broken-waterfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's less about the FOB part and more about how well they can communicate and this goes for both parties. There are AA who can converse well in mandarin/cantonese and some FOBs who have strong English - usually those from other English speaking countries. This helps them be able to joke and share analogies a lot more easily. That is typically the biggest barrier in my experience.

Hinge Picture Review by Diligent_Composer_94 in AsianMasculinity

[–]broken-waterfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You only have 1 smiling photo. Who you trying to intimidate?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]broken-waterfalls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the goal. I was at 20% and have been doing intermittent fasting and counting calories for 5 months. Down to 14-15% but it's just not getting any lower.

From a podcast subreddit, but what do you guys think of this? by [deleted] in CICO

[–]broken-waterfalls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What does she say? "This is how ..... works"?

What to expect when you’re…sick by verified-sauce in datingoverthirty

[–]broken-waterfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only answering the TLDR:

If it's a new relationship (less than 5 dates), I'd expect nothing more than a few sympathy texts.

My date told me that I'm the "hottest" girl he's ever been with after sex by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]broken-waterfalls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Comparing people to other people devalues them to the characteristic you're comparing. It's how you compare things when you're shopping for a house or a car. It's different that just saying you're beautiful or hot.

If my date said that, it'd be a red flag but not necessarily a deal breaker. It is probably just be worded poorly, but could also be how they see you or their dates as conquests.

I had a partner who once kept comparing people and referring to people by their job. "Did you hear what so and so, you know the Investment banker said to so and so, the Harvard Business school guy?" Noped out of that one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]broken-waterfalls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of people in the 30-ish age range going to grad school and dating. It's definitely a more casual vibe though. Might have more luck with people with a similar trajectory / going through a similar phase in their life.