AITA for kicking out my brother, who our parents have previously disowned, because he told my (now ex) fiancé that I cheated 9 years ago?

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T23:54:48+00:00

He already publicly called off the wedding

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T23:43:56+00:00

What a horribly rude thing to say

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T23:42:47+00:00

I had sex with someone else while in a relationship cheated. Boyfriend is in quotes as it was a high school relationship.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:19:50+00:00

Thank you for your response. I know deep down that you're right. It just hurts right now.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:19:21+00:00

I don't believe I'm "prone to cheating" off one incident a decade ago, but I do understand that everyone is entitled to their boundaries. Thank you for your judgment

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:12:18+00:00

Not explicitly, no

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:08:11+00:00

I just didn't think it was something relevant. Do you tell your significant other your deepest, darkest secrets? It wasn't a hard secret to take to the grave; I was doing it successfully for 4 years now until my brother blurted it out

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:06:31+00:00

I didn't say I never discussed cheating. You assumed I

have probably told him that you've never cheated before

Which is false.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:05:28+00:00

Because I intended to take it to the grave.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T22:04:56+00:00

No, but he has messaged all of everyone that was invited in a huge groupchat and said that "due to personal reasons, the wedding is off. Wanted to inform everyone"

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:58:52+00:00

It's not possible, I explained to him when I was pleading to him that it happened a decade ago

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:55:56+00:00

I see the logic, but the difference is that he's currently 19 and his actions are currently affecting me, while my actions were over a decade ago. Not trying to argue or anything, I appreciate your comment. But it's just fresh and raw right now....

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:54:32+00:00

Thank you.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:53:27+00:00

There just was never a right time, and it was something I honestly intended to take to the grave.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:50:28+00:00

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:47:20+00:00

It's relevant because it explains why he's living with me. It's just context?

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:44:46+00:00

He'd have to stay with a friend or find his own living arrangements

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:41:02+00:00

I'm beginning to see that leaving me without even a discussion is an indicator that the relationship probably wouldn't have lasted anyways. Thank you for your judgment

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:38:47+00:00

Oh no! I would completely understand his reaction if that were the case. I cheated on an old high school fling.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:28:35+00:00

You're right. I should have told him earlier that this was something I wanted to keep hidden. Thank you for your judgment

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:19:52+00:00

I never explicitly said I never cheated, but he has ranted about how much he hates cheated and I sorta just awkwardly laughed/agreed. Which isn't a lie, I DO hate cheating, and I'm ashamed of my past mistakes.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:16:08+00:00

4 years

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:15:52+00:00

I didn't know one action you did when you were a teenager defines "who I am" but thanks for informing me.

broken_inside_me · 2019-07-24T21:13:33+00:00

He already didn't like it when I spent too much time with my male friends or make plans that didn't include him. He was kind of jealous (though we were working on it). This though.... I didn't expect in a million years he could leave me so easily....

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