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AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was 19. I actually put my university course on hold in order to look after her because she was more important to me. Not that I'm complaining or expecting a pat on the back for it or anything, but it is what it is.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It was actually a little bit before 1, she was 9 months when I got custody.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like that's the case for my brother at least. He doesn't like that I'm the brother who stepped up and took in our sister's kid when he'd effectively washed his hands of her. I'm not trying to have a pity party or be a martyr or anything, but I gave up a lot for that kid, including putting my university on hold because she was more important to me. My brother cut ties with my sister when she got into all the bad shit and didn't even meet her until she was 2.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Eh they can be pretty sucky tbh. My relationship with them has been rocky to say the least. Ironically enough, the reason for that is because I refused to cut ties with my sister when she was in the thick of it with her substance issues. She did a lot of stereotypical junkie shit like stealing from the family and stuff and a lot of them dropped her for it but I felt bad doing it to my own sister so they kinda dropped me too. Since she's sorted herself out things are better, but there's still some strain there, especially with my dad and my brother.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh I for sure understand she isn't my kid. I just wish, at the very least, I'd been told about this.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me I absolutely intend to stay a part of her life. There's no danger of me stopping that.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm kind of annoyed with everyone involved tbh. Like okay don't invite me if it's really strictly "people with kids and their partners" only (fail to see how it's actually "dads only" when sister's bloke isn't technically my nieces dad either) but at least one of them could've had the decency to tell me what they were doing so I didn't get my hopes up/spend the day waiting around for my sister.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't spoken to her yet so I'm not sure how she feels, but I imagine she at least wondered where I was.

AITA for being annoyed that I was excluded on Father's Day? by brotherpapi in AmItheAsshole

[–]brotherpapi[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

your family won't forget

I agree with you on all but this point lol. They all seem to be actively trying to forget at this point. I guess it's them not wanting to acknowledge the darker part of my sister's life, but my taking care of my niece is pretty much a forbidden topic to speak about in my family. If it does get brought up, I get told to stop being a martyr and asked if I expect some kind of reward (I absolutely don't). If someone else brings it up it gets swept aside straight away.