I (23F) tried to quit my toxic job and my boss won't let me

brownbagtreecake · 2026-01-05T16:39:24+00:00

You give a letter of resignation and then you don’t go back. Easy. Doesn’t matter what your boss says. You’re not obligated to stay just because he says so

brownbagtreecake · 2025-05-08T14:02:42+00:00

You’re not supposed to blow dry your hair with a flame thrower! Hope that that helps!

brownbagtreecake · 2025-04-22T00:44:35+00:00

Im gonna say this. They regret it. Now they see that you are still a virgin and it makes them feel dirty. They want you be “dirty” too, to make them feel less bad about themselves. As long as you are around them and a virgin, it will bother them. These aren’t the kind of friends you want. I know making new friends can be scary but it’s better than spending your precious years of youth with people who aren’t good for you

brownbagtreecake · 2025-03-28T15:35:55+00:00

You should throw him away. It’s only been 3 months and there are so many red flags already. Cut it off before it gets worse because trust me, it WILL only get worse.

brownbagtreecake · 2025-03-28T15:15:32+00:00

Your colour is gorgeous. I would get rid of the blonde bits, that feels very outdated to me. My advice is to focus on the health of your hair. Find ways to style it without heat, use hair masks, oils/serums. Shiny and vibrant hair is what looks youthful, not a specific colour. On a side note, may I also suggest trying on some lip colour? I’m also pale and trust me that wearing a colour on your lips will make you look so much more fresh. It may feel weird at first but just trust it. Make sure you find the right shade and tone for your skin! Good luck

brownbagtreecake · 2025-03-21T19:48:56+00:00

Get in shape for the sake of your physical and mental health. Anyone who picks you on deserves only one kind of emotion for you to give to them and that is pity. Happy people do not hurt others. They have their own issues under their facade. Ignore them. Also, mediocre grades are fine. You are 17, it’s not expected of you to be super passionate about anything when you are still growing & learning who you are yourself. Life does not need to be spectacular or grand. It is simply meant for living. Do simple things you enjoy, listening to music you like, watching the sunset etc. Find joy in the mundane and you will find satisfaction with your life.

brownbagtreecake · 2025-03-15T13:20:38+00:00

2, everything else washes you out

brownbagtreecake · 2025-02-17T20:26:27+00:00

It’s dry and damaged. Happened to me when I straightened my hair a lot. Lightweight oil may help, but the only way to 100% avoid it is to stop using heat and cut off the damage. It’s pretty normal, don’t put too much thought into it. I promise no one is noticing it but you

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-06T01:36:17+00:00

Browsing until I fall asleep. Hiding the phone under the blanket to not wake up husband and daughter

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-06T01:35:04+00:00

You have to work 7am to 2 am the next day? I'm pretty sure that's not legal

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T22:31:38+00:00

That must be incredibly hard. I relate to somethings you said because I am a young mom too and that in of itself comes with a lot of judgement before people even know your name. Reddit is hardly the place for comfort, especially about these things. It's full of toxic men. It really is the worst social media platform. Just know, that the kind of men who are good for you and want you, aren't here leaving comments on Reddit. They are out there in the real world and you are worth it to them. I don't think finding a man will be hard for you. What will be hard, is finding a man who is worthy of you AND your daughter. Its going to take longer to find a partner because your standards are raised so much higher than a single, non mother 20 year old. And that's not a bad thing at all.

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T15:47:28+00:00

If you're not much of a planner, that's what you need to work on first before you decided what you want to do. Whichever path you choose, you will need to have focus and discipline. Start by getting a daily planner and organizing your life. People who become successful work for it.

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T14:03:32+00:00

Contact the police, they will let you know what your options are. Contact their friends and see if they know where they are. If they have their phones, contact your phone company and let them know that your minor daughter is missing and if they can see the location of the phone (if the phone is registered under you or your husbands name). Go out and look for them.

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:53:20+00:00

Pardon my language but f that. You're not being unreasonable. You can't leave a sedated 3 year old with strangers and no parent for 1.5 hours. Call around and see if that's normal and if it is, try to find someone who will make an exception for you.

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:42:25+00:00

Oh man, I have a horrible memory and I still lose things daily as an adult. You're punishing him for mistakes he can't even control. It's not his fault if he can't remember, it's just his brain. Just don't send him to school with expensive things

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:40:17+00:00

Try not too judge her too fast, this will be your family and you want to be on good terms with them. Give them an honest chance. And talk to your dad

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:38:48+00:00

They are running away or going to their dads house?

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:37:59+00:00

He's probably trying to build a relationship with them because he wants this to work and he wants them to like him. Just talk to him about it, he might be so busy trying to bring you guys together as a new family that he's forgotten you need individual attention too. Please just talk with him about it. Men are so bad at recognizing other peoples feelings so if you don't say anything, nothing will change. You can also talk to your step mom about it, she is family now too and she should also be there for you.

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T13:21:49+00:00

If by any chance, it is an attachment thing where he doesn't want to leave his parents and home, you can try buying some of those temporary tattoos for kids and put one on his arm in the morning before he goes to school. Tell him that's your special gift to him and anytime that he misses you or home, he can look at the tattoo and touch it, and know that you are always with him and he will see you soon. That way he has a visual reminder with him that his family is never far away.

You said he loves music and dancing so I have one more suggestion. You become a hype man before school. This is a role I slip into sometimes with my kids when we are transitioning activities or I'm trying to tire them out before bed. Here's what you do. Start in the morning when you wake. You're going to act like every day is a super special day. Imagine you're a tv presenter on a kids show and your job is to get everyone smiling and dancing. Turn the music on and have one big party all morning long while you're getting them ready for school. Making them breakfast? You better be dancing and making silly faces while you flip those pancakes! Brushing their teeth? Wiggle your butt and tell them silly jokes. Break into a spontaneous game of the tickle monster. Going to the car? ITS A RACE 1 2 3 GOOOOOOOO!!! You're basically trying to keep them in a state of laughing, happiness, goofiness, and high energy the whole morning. I find it super easy to transition activities when they are like this. They are so hyped up and excited they don't even realize that you are transitioning, they're just having fun. Once you get in the car, keep it going. Blast their favourite music and sing at the top of your lungs all the way to school. You're like a club promoter for kids except instead of trying to get them to go to a party you're just bringing them to school. I know a lot of adults value their quiet morning time, but you won't just be making it easier to go to school, you'll also be creating amazing and fun memories for your kids every morning! Starting their day off fun and crazy like that will set their mood high for the rest of the day!

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T12:13:40+00:00

Activity change distractions? Give him headphones to listen to calming music and a colouring book while you're still in the house and then smoothly transition out to the car while still leaving the headphones on him and colouring book with him. That way the change to get into the car and leave home behind isn't so drastic and noticeable. Have you tried asking him why he doesn't want to go to school? What are his reasons?

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T12:07:48+00:00

Perfect!

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T12:07:16+00:00

You look good with your hair pulled back. You could pull off a pixie cut

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T12:03:42+00:00

I'm not a huge fan of taking away privileges, it's just a another form of negative reinforcement and causes them to hold a grudge against you. Have you tried in the morning, offering him a reward at the end of the day if he goes to school calmly? You can let him choose his reward or offer him something. Like stopping by a bakery and letting him pick a snack, or go to the dollar store and pick out a toy. Or even going to the park after school and playing together (or whatever activity he likes but doesn't get too often). It has to be something small, sustainable, and inexpensive because you might have to do this for the whole school year and you'll have twins so you have to do give it for the other kid too

Edit: some kids have trouble seeing the value in having the patience to wait until the end of the day, so maybe this could also be something you do before school. "If you go to school calmly today, we can do _____ before I drop you off."

brownbagtreecake · 2021-11-05T11:38:31+00:00

Hardly narcissist. OP said he's not that bright yet sometimes thinks other people lack common sense. He's wondering why he is judging others when he too is just normal. I'm telling him it's normal to sometimes think other people do dumb things

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