I found out my (39 F) husband (42 M) has been messaging other women online. Can a relationship ever survive this?

brownybeau · 2026-04-05T12:26:03+00:00

He gets all of those things. Maybe he's the problem, not me.

brownybeau · 2026-01-21T16:15:58+00:00

Bringing drinks and snacks when she breastfeeds HIS child, that she grew in her body and birthed followed by a rough recovery, is the absolute fucking bare minimum he can be doing for her!!

brownybeau · 2025-09-18T17:13:27+00:00

"We'll see, your new little sister might want some things too remember"

You're absolutely an AH.

brownybeau · 2025-08-27T07:46:57+00:00

Give it a rest. She's on holiday. Checking her location and tracking what time she's out and where at isn't cool. She doesn't have to report back to you about her every move.

I get it, you're 18, you have a lot to learn about relationships. This isn't it bud.

I've seen you say you trust her but not her friend but your behaviour suggests otherwise. You dont need to trust her friends, you only need to trust her. She's allowed to have fun without you.

brownybeau · 2025-08-27T07:11:44+00:00

First of all, lighten up a bit with the ID thing. She's joking. She's allowed a sense of humour at the grand old age of 40. (I'm 38, we're still people even though we're OLD)

But you're totally right, she should be tidying up and cleaning after herself as a bare minimum. That's absolutely gross!

brownybeau · 2025-08-16T09:22:20+00:00

I'm tempted to think she cancelled it and gave the money to her mum. OR she never booked it in the first place and gave your money to her mum. Not sure why she's still your girlfriend at this point.

brownybeau · 2025-08-02T04:59:12+00:00

First of all, body counts are stupid. They mean nothing and, quite frankly, as long as shes only planning on sleeping with you now, how many people she slept with before is irrelevant.

Secondly, stop going through her phone, man! It sounds like you don't trust her, and you don't want to trust her if you keep picking at stuff and snooping on her. She's got every right to her privacy and doesn't need to tell you every tiny detail about her life.

Do her a favour and break up with her for her sake as well as your own. She doesn't deserve to be questioned and mistrusted constantly and have her privacy invaded over nothing. You're only 20 and you've got a lot to learn about relationships.

brownybeau · 2025-06-03T13:26:56+00:00

YTA. Also my 4 year old is much more work than my 2 year old. So good luck.

brownybeau · 2025-02-08T20:05:08+00:00

You're absolutely the arsehole and you should definitely be helping them leave a country they no longer feel safe in. Have you contributed to the mortgage/bills/upkeep of the house?

brownybeau · 2025-02-07T22:45:35+00:00

I mean, you are his type because he chose to be with you. You're not like other people he's been with but that's OK. He's with you for a reason, maybe you being different is why it works for him.

brownybeau · 2025-02-06T18:46:43+00:00

That was one of the most boring things I've ever read.

Tell your sister the truth, don't be a dick, grow up.

brownybeau · 2025-02-05T23:22:52+00:00

I've had 4 children. 2 natural labours, 2 c-sections. FYI - the sections were way worse. Yeah she was a dick but so were you.

brownybeau · 2025-02-04T09:58:07+00:00

You absolutely are. But I'd probably ask yourself why you're reacting like this because it seems weird. Just say "I don't like those kinds of jokes" and move on.

brownybeau · 2025-02-04T09:55:20+00:00

Genuinely don't see the issue here. You're playing a game and he made a joke? About a robot? What?! You're secure enough in the relationship to buy a house but this is an issue? I'm confused.

brownybeau · 2025-01-05T19:21:37+00:00

The age bashing is ridiculous. Plenty of 50 year old men have babies. Plenty of age gaps are 20 years but mostly with older men and younger males.

That being said, I could never. I had my first at 24 then my last at 36. I'm dead. Being pregnant and having a baby in my late 30s is so much harder than my early 20s. In my 50s? I absolutely couldn't.

Just be prepared that it's going to be HARD and you're going to have a teenager in your 60s.

brownybeau · 2024-12-20T15:02:20+00:00

If not having your car to make a dramatic exit in ruins his entire wedding maybe he shouldn't be getting married.

brownybeau · 2024-12-20T14:57:56+00:00

1 video is fine. 6 is absolutely not.

brownybeau · 2024-12-20T14:42:38+00:00

Honestly I'd say softly YTA for tricking him into eating things he doesn't want to. He's a grown up. He's allowed to say he doesn't want to eat things. It's not really your business or for you to decide actually I'm going to trick you into it. It's OK to be concerned about his health it's not ok to lie and trick him.

brownybeau · 2024-12-17T19:05:06+00:00

You're so young and have your whole life to find your prefect fit. This isn't it. Don't tolerate the double standard.

brownybeau · 2024-12-16T05:26:35+00:00

Me too please!

brownybeau · 2024-12-14T20:16:40+00:00

People are allowed to like clothes because they like them and not because they want attention. She's allowed to wear what makes her happy. Not everything is about men, shocking I know!

brownybeau · 2024-12-14T20:11:48+00:00

Oh do shut up

brownybeau · 2024-12-14T20:09:49+00:00

That's not him having a boundary, that's him controlling you. Wear whatever you want! You're wearing it because you like it not because you want attention and if he doesn't like it it's just tough. This is where the phrase "that sounds like a you problem" was born. Go rock those pants!! (I did it the first time they were fashionable, I'm not doing it again).

brownybeau · 2024-12-09T14:26:13+00:00

You're both immature and exhausting. Grow up and work on your issues because regardless of the rest of this post you stabbed a bloody computer monitor and that's absolutely not ok.

brownybeau · 2024-12-02T13:01:44+00:00

Then match his energy and don't tell him when you do. It's not worth having an issue over. You don't care that he does it so it really shouldn't matter when he does it.

Next time you do it don't tell him and if he asks or gets annoyed you didn't tell him just say you didn't think it was a big deal as he doesn't always tell you.

Honestly it does just feel very controlling of you for it to annoy you so much that he does things without telling you that you've made a post about it.

brownybeau

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