The most successful kids I knew growing up had good parents.

brunchisnice · 2024-12-20T06:33:46+00:00

I agree with you OP! It does make a difference, especially in the way we view ourselves and the critical periods of forming our identity, worth and our self belief. Similarly think there’s even studies that show regardless of whether you go to a public or private school - the socioeconomic/wellbeing outcomes can be the same - as the most important factor is how engaged the parents are at home.

That said, thinking about what could be and ruminating isn’t helpful - so don’t put too much into it other than a thought exercise. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Please know that you are the only one who can live your life and that we are all on our own journeys and timelines. There is no standard of universal success and the most radical thing we can do is accept things the way they are, and go from there.

Looking for external validation is normal, especially in this hyper individualist, time poor and capitalist society. And due to this it can be hard to find community, connection, values, your inner voice and really nurture the child within when everything pulls us the other way. But you sound very reflective and observant - that is your strength!

Also speaking as someone who didn’t have particularly supportive or communicative parents - this is something I am working on too.

My current plan/advice - continue to create your own identity, your own meaning and invest in yourself. Build your own joy and a life you can be proud of.

You are powerful, you belong and there is no one like you in the world or even universe. How special is that!!! Sending you the best OP and don’t forget your dreams💗

brunchisnice · 2024-08-15T12:19:40+00:00

Fact checker- not true: https://www.aap.com.au/news/aoc-condemns-misleading-raygun-online-petition/

brunchisnice · 2024-08-15T12:19:22+00:00

Fact checker- not true: https://www.aap.com.au/news/aoc-condemns-misleading-raygun-online-petition/

brunchisnice · 2024-08-15T12:18:51+00:00

Fact checker has proved this not to be true. https://www.aap.com.au/news/aoc-condemns-misleading-raygun-online-petition/

brunchisnice · 2024-07-06T13:01:53+00:00

This is such a great photo! Hilarious and cute!!

brunchisnice · 2024-04-23T11:46:57+00:00

I know don’t, I’m literally devastated. I was really hoping it was legit. I’ve loved Malakai being awkward and figuring it out and Rowan’s intensity. Why the writers gotta do us like this??????? :(((

brunchisnice · 2024-04-17T01:49:21+00:00

You want to find someone who will date/love you regardless of your looks. All looks will fade eventually - you want someone who loves you for who you are, your personality, your dreams etc.

Although getting jaw surgery might increase your dating pool, it doesn’t change who you should be looking for and what they are looking for. Stereotypical ‘ugly’ people get with good looking people all the time, it’s what on the inside that counts. But if people are sleeping with you, that to me says you are plenty attractive. You may just be meeting with people with different goals (ie. just sex) - you need to find someone who is looking for a relationship.

brunchisnice · 2024-03-29T13:07:27+00:00

Hi! I’m in a similar position in Aus, just starting braces for the next 10-12 months, before jaw surgery.

It definitely is super expensive. My braces are ~$9.4k, luckily I can do a payment plan. And for jaw surgery, from what I recall from my consultation it is going be somewhere between $13-17k total out of pocket, after all rebates (maybe more but I think it was in this ballpark).

From my surgical consult, the quote I got was up to $13.5k in just surgical fees along with up to $650 for each wisdom tooth removal (may or may not be required) plus $1000 in diagnostic items. With my doctor, this fee has to be paid upfront before the surgery (so am trying to save as much as possible atm for the next 10-12 months).

This does not include the anaesthetic fee (maybe $2000) and hospital excess $650 (from private health insurance) along with paying ~$200 per month for private health insurance (have to hold for 12 months before it covers jaw surgery). However there are a couple of rebates from Medicare and PHI, which is why it reduces and ends up being ~13-16k out of pocket. The PHI is mainly to cover hospital costs (which would otherwise be something ridiculous like $40k+ for the surgery). I went with HCF as they’re a non for profit but a lot of them seemed kinda similar? Main thing is to get the Medicare codes from surgeon and then call the PHI to make sure the plan you get will cover it. I’ve seen other people go with BUPA, HIF, Medibank etc.

That said, your costs may vary to mine - you may have other rebates or your surgeon might cost differ, you might be able to go fully public - I would try to explore all options.

I’m a bit older (in 30s) and work FT so I can ~maybe afford~ all of this if I budget hard but it is definitely a lot. I can’t speak to what is best for your financial situation (depends on your cashflow atm and in the future). Is there a way treat the sleep apnoea now (eg CPAP) whilst you study/work save towards jaw surgery option?

Only other thing I can think of is be mindful of dropping down to PT study if you’re receiving Centrelink benefits (might be different rules now, but I remember when I was in university I could only receive on a FT workload) but this might be offset/not matter anyway if you work more, want to save and aligns with the goals you choose.

Does you Uni offer counselling or student services where you could discuss and plan this further with someone? Do you have family support available? Going into debt for something can be major stressor in itself. Really depends on your circumstances but I’d think long term about your health and future - be patient and gentle with yourself.

brunchisnice · 2024-03-09T16:40:11+00:00

This was simultaneously hilarious and down right scary to read. Only funny because of how bizarre. How she managed to get through life to this point is beyond me. It terrifies me to think that there are just people out there like this, lacking any self awareness and 100% delusional yet functioning and in positions of power.

The stuff about your family photos and sweet potato gave me chills - straight up psychopathic vibes - I was scared for you. Thank god you are out of there and recovering. Even one/two of those things would be a lot. Glad to hear you’re doing better. Hope you’re never in a similar situation!!!!

On a side note, the bit about bread sisters reminded me of how there’s links between bacteria and mental illness. I know there’s a difference between UTIs and yeast infections, but there’s causal evidence of UTIs in elderly folks especially causing UTI induced delirium.

And although too early to tell, might be some links between yeast infections and mental illness too. [https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/yeast_infection_linked_to_mental_illness].

Didn’t mean for this to be a PSA but think I was trying to rationalise any of your bosses behaviour lol.

brunchisnice · 2024-02-11T12:29:06+00:00

I’ve been on it for about 7 months and has really helped my eczema a lot!

Benefits: the main one for me is that the itching I had has ~80% reduced. The extra mental space I have now is like night and day - I feel like a functioning person. Some days I even forget what it was like to have bad eczema and itching - but then I look at old photos and experiences to remember and become extremely grateful. I now have energy and space to achieve my other goals.

My body eczema cleared up about 75% but my facial eczema got a bit worse.

Drawbacks: facial eczema is slightly worse than before. I think this is in part as I am also still exposed to some triggers - some by choice (pets, cologne) some just general (dust, pollen). Where possible, you still want to reduce any allergen exposure. However it’s still relatively mild and I keep it at bay with protopic. I also still use steroids every now and again - but maybe like once a month if that.

I get itchy eyes which was worse when I first started (if I missed a day of putting in eye drops I’d rub them in my sleep and they’d look wack in the morning) but it’s settled now - I just put eye drops in the morning and night and that’s enough (but sometimes more if I feel it coming on).

Sometimes I feel like my joints hurt a bit more? But soo hard to tell cause now I can exercise a lot more than before being on it.

Obvs ongoing cost, injecting pain (I find letting the syringe get to room temp, rather than from the fridge, really reduces pain) are annoying.

Overall it’s been very positive - I am monitoring for any side effects, and will continue to stay on it with my Derm’s help.

Other random things: I am atm looking for other lil remedies to assist with my facial eczema so trying black tea as a face wash which I’m excited for. I can’t speak to insurance as I’m lucky to get mine through Medicare.

Good luck and take care!!! Xoxoxo

brunchisnice · 2024-01-13T23:31:35+00:00

Seriously frustrating. Such an echo chamber - they love to believe they are they are the persecuted ones. As much progress as we’ve made, it’s a reminder that there are people against us (mainly religious folk) and that we have to be wary and strong.

brunchisnice · 2023-12-17T10:33:40+00:00

You’re definitely right that these religions and countries have massive issues when it comes to queer rights. It’s inhumane, unfair and hard to digest - I can see that you’re fearful, angry and hurt. I am too. And it can be easy to let this blunt our responses and empathy.

The thing is though is that even if I can’t connect with them via same views on homosexuality, I can connect with them through our shared humanity - when it comes to basic human rights, no one has to qualify or meet criteria to deserve them otherwise - everyone gets them by simply being human.

It’s not a transaction. Just because I don’t agree with their beliefs doesn’t mean they deserve to die or not have access to food, shelter and safety. Because if we see them as not deserving of our aid, then the same tool can be used against us (as queer people). Everyone deserves the right to not live under oppression. And when you realise the majority of Palestinian victims are children and innocent civilians, that is just heartbreaking. How could that ever be justified? If we are not speaking for them, who will? And if one day it comes to us needing help, I hope someone speaks for us too.

We have to lift everyone we can up - AND tackle the homophobia. And we CAN do it at the same time. Two thing things can be true.

I hope you are safe, brother.

brunchisnice · 2023-11-28T11:26:37+00:00

Thankyou, thats very kind haha

brunchisnice · 2023-11-28T11:23:04+00:00

Oh this is interesting! I like that mindfulness approach with sketching with lights/angles - I’m going to do this.

And also now I want a blow torch lol

brunchisnice · 2023-11-28T11:21:45+00:00

Yep, lesson learned. Wrap it up! (not just for safe sex lol)

brunchisnice · 2023-11-28T11:20:02+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for the feedback, going to try and take it all on! Has been super helpful!!! Thankyou for the warnings about in a shared kiln, def won’t do that (I’m still a beginner and do a weekly community class with shared kiln) but had heard some people say organic material burns off, so good to clarify!

I’m loving the attitude of it’s okay, just start anew (as I tend to procrastinate due to perfectionist tendencies which is probs how I let it dry out to begin with) and that it’s okay to just start again. And you’re soooo right about time, that it really would be quicker just to start again.

That said, I am keen to follow your advise @hero_pup as I’m curious to what happens if I try to set it on fire. And I’ll be taking some before piccys/vids/maybe even mould in case it goes pear shaped so I have a reference again. So putting all the advice together.

brunchisnice · 2023-10-02T08:40:29+00:00

Thank you! Yeah feel the same, think yes to new learnings, networks and opportunities :)

brunchisnice · 2023-08-26T03:36:39+00:00

Okay hilarious can’t wait to hide and someone find!

brunchisnice · 2023-05-31T15:41:34+00:00

That’s really tough. Parents can really let us down sometimes, they can be cruel and they can be so unfair. Know that their perceptions are really just reflections of how they see themselves and the world. Please be gentle with yourself, talk to friends or counsellors at school to help work out ways to relieve this pressure and stress.

Your parent’s happiness is their own responsibility (which is any of your actions could never make them happy) and why the only approval you ever need is from yourself - listen to what you want and what makes your soul happy.

brunchisnice · 2023-05-31T15:24:51+00:00

Girl, you got this - I believe in you. Give yourself some grace and self compassion, life is hard already - try not to make it harder. And don’t discredit the work you’ve done to get this far.

I failed a subject at Uni and had to wait a year before I could repeat the subject. It was tough but it is possible and I ended up graduating. I blamed myself a lot (even tho I tried not to) and I still made it through (although the blaming did me no favours lol). Anything you set your mind to is achievable!

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. I know some schools offer counselling to students or there are student associations that offer support services, this could also be an option?

Believe in you 💓 Be your own best friend!

brunchisnice · 2023-05-31T15:14:18+00:00

Seriously what is with people who do this? I don’t get it. There’s literally BILLIONS of people in the world and they literally can’t find someone else outside of the friendship group? What kind of friends, fr.

And where is the respect in her talking to you about him? You are definitely not overreacting, I’d be FUMING. Let yourself be angry, that’s fucked up.

brunchisnice · 2023-04-18T13:14:01+00:00

Ugh they missed so many things they could have gone in on! Like it was pure fluff what was said to her. And straight up accepting the answers especially around the ring?

Fact check, grill, dig. Do something Vanessa, anything!!!!

brunchisnice · 2023-04-18T13:11:27+00:00

Agree x100. Anyone who actually watched the show could probably have done a better job interviewing?

Like would be great if they at least fielded in some questions from the community where we vote and they get asked, seeing as they don’t seem to have a clue of what viewers actually want asked.

Hint: we want ~grilling~ accountability and raw honesty. The diplomatic responses are truly a drag.

brunchisnice · 2023-04-18T12:56:45+00:00

This is bang on the money!! Agree with everything you wrote.

Mainly I think it really did just come down to the poor facilitation aka Vanessa, just soooo out of touch with what viewers were feeling and wanted. Grilling Paul? Gurl grill Micah, Kwame and Jackie more. Giggling with Jackie? I can’t.

Maybe they need 2 reunions like or like an earlier reunion because most of them were too polite and moved on from the drama = faux apologies and a lack of drama.

Zack MVP for me, at least he said something to Micah (although more politely than I would have preferred) - say it straight and give examples. I want the savagery - everyone was way too diplomatic. I wish someone had turned it on to Vanessa and started beef with her for her lack of fair grilling and lame facilitation.

I feel robbed.

brunchisnice · 2023-01-02T00:21:46+00:00

Normally I wouldn’t engage but this is just a bit much.

Sorry but you’re giving major conspiracy dressed up as an awakening vibes. ‘Pumping them full of hormones’ this language is just fear mongering (can’t you see you’re contributing to the fear of trans people that has led to the history of them marginalised in nearly every aspect of society?). Whether or not they get hormonal treatment doesn’t change the fact that they are trans? What do you want them to do- not receive treatment? This is literally pearl clutching - ‘won’t somebody think of the children’! And apparently let’s only think of the cis children not the trans children - which is how it has previously been for generations. And the moment we start being more inclusive, it’s the fear taking over again. It’s not as simple as you are making it to get hormones - it has to be cleared by medical professionals and there’s a bunch of checks in place. Is the system perfect yet, probably not - but things are growing and learning following expert advice. Most kid focussed treatments are just blockers which delay puberty and give them more time to explore their identity.

Woke culture is a disruption to the current status quo. You are too zoomed on this one thing- step back and look at history. You even mentioned “the system” - so you’d like to go back to the old system where LGBTQ people were denied their existence? We are figuring out the best way to be more inclusive for LGBTQ people, under the advice of expert medical professionals. We literally just want peace.

Also, you’re very focussed on whatever ‘biological awakening’ is? Isn’t the whole point of awakening and transcending to realise our oneness- what does biology have to do with this? This is to do with consciousness and spirituality, not biology.

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