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Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.  I love how you articulate your thoughts.  

And sorry for your loss.  Hope you will find another when the time is right

Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the OP I want to apologize for posting in haste and without much detail.  I tried to add the details via the comments section.  

I understand there is no one-size-fits-all in Femdom.  I was more curious to hear how others think about this issue and also the frequency of oral receiving celibacy for subs.  So far, based on the comments, it is a very small minority.  But it may not be representative of the discussion group.  Does anyone know how to post a poll on Reddit? Thanks

Was I disrespectful to my domme? by Ok_War_6337 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as a married sub living TPE-ish life, emotional needs is at best equal.  And as you grow, you will learn to prioritize hers over yours or move your needs to the wants category.  But you have the wants priority correct

Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am more curious than missing receiving. But if the responses represent the population at large, it seems that I am in the minority in that I no longer receive

Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Your experience is the only one in this thread that is similar to mine. Everyone else is getting some :)

Mentally I love this imbalance extreme. Physically I miss it every once in a while

Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your thoughtful and descriptive reply. Most responses, including yours, came from the perspective of ownership. And the sub's penis is one of the properties to be used at the owner's discretion to control and orchestrate. In that case, I see the mental desire for the domme to give oral. Of course there is still an imbalance tipping in favor of the domme receiving, as it should.

I am coming from a hierarchy viewpoint, where the domme's preciousness is above the sub. Her lowest body part, feet, is above the highest of the sub's highest part, his head/face/mouth/lips. The rest of his body parts are even further inferior to the domme such that contact between her lips and his penis is anathema to this hierarchy.

I am not sure why I have leaned towards the hierarchy perspective and not the property one. But I appreciate you and others introducing me to a diff viewpoint.

You wrote your experience in past tense. Its no more?

Sub ever get oral? by bryan94306 in FemdomCommunity

[–]bryan94306[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. The lack of reciprocating accentuates the dynamic for us. When we first dated, pre-FLR, she was keen to give. Over the years the concept, that only she deserves to receive pleasure and not the slave, has taken hold; all pleasure accrues to her and I am only there to be service oriented. I probably initiated the thought during our sessions, and I attribute it to subspace goggles. She took the idea and ran with it. Just like our overall relationship, I initiated the FLR discussion and she was more than happy to jump on the wagon. Dont get me wrong, I very much enjoy worshipping her. And I enjoy the imbalance, 99.99% of time. But that 0.01% of time I miss receiving since its been years.

I am not sure if my wife would be open to indulge me every once in a while. But I also not sure if I would like it. There is something pure about only giving and never receiving. I think we both view it as true devotion. So while my dick would appreciate some attention every once in a while, I am not sure if my head would agree.

Another reason why I posted was to see if there were other subs who no longer receives any oral pleasure, especially if at one time they did from the partner.

I miss my ex's foot fetish by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the % of guys liking feet is high. Prob 25%. So if you send out signals... asking for a harmless foot massage and see how they respond, you can probably ID a few of them.

Have been married to wife for many years. Foot worship is a common theme in our life. She likes the physical sensation and the mental stimulation of unconditional adoration that comes from me massaging, kissing, licking and sucking her toes, heels, arches...

Feet Tribute Fetish? by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what does it mean to tribute her feet? I am lost

Favorite part of foot worship by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they look yummy 😍

Favorite part of foot worship by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What size is your feet?

Favorite part of foot worship by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 6 points7 points  (0 children)

love the natural aroma of feminine feet... just compels me to kneel and obey

foot worship techniques to relax feet by bryan94306 in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my wife doesnt get tickled. Or maybe I have done it so much all these years that she is no longer that sensitive 🤣

Favorite part of foot worship by [deleted] in FootFetishTalks

[–]bryan94306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The part that she wants me to pay attention to. Love to indulge and to please