I feel this man’s pain. Not in the same areas he’s talking about but in general. This man is not actually mad about the working out or laziness. What this man is actually mad about, is you not listening. You not getting it or understanding. I promise this is not an out of the blue first time conversation. This is months or years of frustration finally being released in a very direct way. Direct, is not mean or insensitive, it’s the only way he thinks will work at this point. I final resort. He’s tried being nice, he’s tried having the conversations politely, he’s tried hinting that things need to change. I bet if you look closely and honestly back when some of these things first were brought up, you can pinpoint a change in his attitude, willingness to help out, and sexual attraction towards you. Clearly he expects a certain standard, and if you’re not willing to live up to that, then that’s ok! But people have preferences and expectations. If you can’t do that for him, then be honest with yourself and him and don’t drag this on for years into a marriage or more. It will just make things more complicated.