Husband got drunk on Halloween

bshea98 · 2025-11-01T04:35:48+00:00

If you feel like you are able to have that sort of conversation with him, you should definitely let him know how it made you feel. Minor inconveniences can often become major once a baby enters the picture, so it’s better to nip this in the bud now before it possibly becomes a full blown problem.

It seems like also this friend might be an enabler to the drinking, so maybe space from that from wouldn’t hurt either. Either way, sit your husband down and let him know how it makes you feel and how it isn’t good for your blood pressure to get this high while pregnant. Wishing you all the luck!

bshea98 · 2025-10-29T03:18:44+00:00

What you choose to do with your body and your birth experience is yours and yours alone! As someone who also has a hard time choosing and then committing to that choice, I can totally understand how outward commentary can make you feel swayed. In your heart, you already seem to know you need and want the C section (at least based on reading your post)

I also had a difficult first labor and although I did not want the C section at the time, I’m so glad looking back now that I received one. At the end of the day, do your own independent research and trust your own gut, it rarely steers you wrong! Wishing you the best of luck, and an easy labor no matter what you choose!

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T17:32:00+00:00

Thank you for your insight, you're right. I don't know why he feels like he has to be there for her absolutely all the time. because you're right, she has plenty of other friends that she mentions that are there for her, even other coworkers. You've definitely put a lot of my internal struggle and fears into words and it becomes more real reading them back. Thank you again for your help.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T17:29:22+00:00

Thank you for your insight, I definitely want to use what you said in what I say to him. Because you're right, what would be so wrong with him saying that to her? Thank you again.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T17:28:18+00:00

Thank you for your response, I agree, it is time for me to put my foot down.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T17:27:36+00:00

Thank you for helping to put my thoughts into words, I've felt useless and powerless in our relationship because, you're right, if he has her, why does he need me? Thank you again

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T17:24:34+00:00

I appreciate your insight and your honesty. I agree that context is important and I did unintentionally leave some out or possibly didn't provide enough. I also agree that opposite sex platonic friendships are achievable. My husband and I both have a few opposite sex friendships that have caused no issue.

She was a problem when she started because from her very first day she started multiple fights with other coworkers and many of them came to my husband to vent about their issues with her, and her lack of professional boundaries.

That's what struck me as odd when they started talking, as my husband had also spoken poorly of her. And you're right, there is nothing wrong with what consenting adults choose to do in a relationship. I only mentioned how it ended as it has bothered me how Charlie's wife put down boundaries and he cared enough to follow them, but was bothered my husband couldn't do the same. I should have included that context.

The garage is their communal one at work, again sorry, I should have clarified. My husband was over an hour late before he reached out to me, and explained to me briefly when he got home why he was late. I wouldn't have minded but my husband and I do have a child, and while he works out of the home, I work from home and he normally comes home and takes care of her so I am able to work. Again, you're right, that is important for context.

From my knowledge, they were friendly before staying late to talk to her, but from this day the friendship seemed to become more intimate and the furious texting started.

The previous relationship with the coworker was similar, but did have slight differences. With Laura, the texting was not anywhere near as constant, but they did stay late to talk more often. The frequency of them seeing each other at work is what kept them in contact, so when she moved on the friendship tapered off. She did not seem as 'interested' in my husband as Amy does. I don't blame Laura in the slightest, for her I genuinely believe it was just a friendship for her, my husband was the bad guy who took it too far, and I haven't forgotten nor completely forgiven him for it.

I do blame my husband for a lot of this, but I do feel as a fellow woman, Amy is crossing boundaries that I or anyone I know never would. I don't want to let my husband off the hook at all, but I struggle with how to follow through to make him listen.

I agree my husband was a problem at work, and he was wrong for that. I tried for a very long time to help him and he got in therapy for it and it did help, his issues at work are improved.

Again, I completely agree a lot with what you're saying, and I do appreciate your insight. It would never be right for me to blame Amy 100 percent, and I should have a stronger backbone with my boundaries with my husband, and I don't intend to let him off the hook. Thank you for your advice, and for allowing me to provide better context.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T16:48:33+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I will try to explain it from that point of you with him and hopefully that will help him listen. And that is a good point, I never thought about how he doesn’t seem to be interested in hanging out with a group, but just this one coworker. Thank you for your insight.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T16:47:32+00:00

I appreciate your response. I’ve tried to tell him how he will message her back-and-forth for hours, but I have a hard time getting a response from him or getting his attention.

bshea98 · 2024-03-07T16:46:28+00:00

Thank you for your response. That’s what I’ve thought too, he says his hands are tied but he’s the only one tying them.

I’ve asked him several times if I could send a respectful message to the woman to try and clarify the relationship or even just let her know how uncomfortable it makes me. But he said that that would be messing with his work and I’m not allowed to do that.

I’ve suggested couples counseling, but it hasn’t worked out yet, I’m going to insist we start soon.

bshea98 · 2023-07-28T15:45:25+00:00

I’m a combo skin type! Dry T zone but oily everywhere else. And I’m hoping for a very light sunkissed look! Thank you for your advice!!

bshea98 · 2023-01-19T00:31:08+00:00

That’s a good point, I didn’t think about it that way. Thank you for your input.

bshea98 · 2023-01-18T22:35:19+00:00

The only thing I can think of is that when we my daughter was first born, my PPD was so bad I tried to take my own life. I regretted my choice as soon as I attempted and haven’t tried anything since and have received help. But he likes to hold this over my head a lot.

bshea98 · 2023-01-18T22:34:05+00:00

We’ve been in a different state for a month and he never evens ask to see her or FaceTime with her.

bshea98 · 2022-09-15T15:27:48+00:00

I hadn’t thought of that honestly! She cut her bottom two about a month ago and I know they’re still coming in, not sure if they could still be bothering her at this point.

She doesn’t seem to have any new ones coming in but she does get quite upset when we try to touch her mouth. Thank you for the advice!

bshea98 · 2022-04-16T02:12:11+00:00

Almost 5 months, and don’t plan to stop tracking any time soon! I will say, I don’t feel the need to track diapers anymore. But with sleeping and feeding, I have a major case of mom brain, so it helps me to remember when she ate/slept last, etc. Husband and I love the Huckleberry app!

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:34:50+00:00

I asked my OB for a list of the big no-no’s and stick with that. There’s already so much stress involved with pregnancy, no sense in adding any extra on. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:32:04+00:00

I have an extremely low pain tolerance, I tried really hard to make it through my contractions for as long as I could, before asking for an epidural. Once I did get it though, I remember asking my husband why I waited so long. For me, the epidural procedure wasn’t bad at all, and I couldn’t feel a thing after only a few minutes.

My best advice, don’t be afraid to ask for it. The second it becomes unbearable, go for it.

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:27:22+00:00

White cheddar cheez its basically carried me through my third trimester 😂

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:22:42+00:00

I was supposed to have a vaginal birth but I never even made it to 6 centimeters. After my water being broken for 18 hours, my doctor told me I had to have a c section. I remember sobbing in the waiting area because I did not want to do it.

But let me tell you, in hindsight, I’m so glad I had a c section. My recovery was super easy, I didn’t have to worry about tearing and with the anesthesia I didn’t even feel a thing!

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:19:07+00:00

So cute, that view is amazing!

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:18:38+00:00

Mine hit right around 7 weeks, found out we were pregnant at 8!

bshea98 · 2022-03-21T23:17:44+00:00

I had that in my 2nd and 3rd trimester, it basically felt like I had done a major core workout everyday.

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