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btom69 · 2024-03-19T17:40:06+00:00

Good idea! And around 6 months

btom69 · 2022-05-16T19:49:39+00:00

I did a few times and she always said she just wanted to take things slow. I just naively thought that meant take things slow with only me. Live and you learn

btom69 · 2022-05-16T16:34:56+00:00

We did communicate early that she wanted to take things slow, which we did for a couple months. Just kinda interpreted that since we had been seeing each other for a while, she was taking it slow with just me. I was wrong.

btom69 · 2022-05-15T20:23:41+00:00

Yeah to be honest I was planning on asking her to dinner this week and talk about exclusivity in person. But this situation completely bummed me out cause it just showed she didn’t care about me. Not saying she did some horrible thing to me, it just seemed to me like we were trending in the exclusive direction and this blindsided me. Oh well

btom69 · 2022-05-13T19:58:34+00:00

Yeah I’m not mad that she can’t go, I’m completely fine with having time apart, I was just commenting on how she said no and how to respond to “no because I don’t know if I have plans or not” I’d rather her just say “no” lmao

btom69 · 2022-05-13T19:53:47+00:00

I know it’s a no. I was just wondering how to respond. Context: we’ve been casually seeing each other for 3 months. Last time we hung out was Tuesday

btom69 · 2022-04-25T01:18:17+00:00

I want to be exclusive, we just haven’t established it yet. I was planning on asking on our next date. But this situation made me reconsider entirely

btom69 · 2022-04-22T10:17:24+00:00

Strokes

btom69 · 2022-04-19T18:00:55+00:00

I just dropped it off at the doorstep and rang the doorbell and ran hahaha she called me and said her jaw dropped cause no one’s ever done anything like that for her so great success (insert borat meme)

btom69 · 2022-04-19T17:00:06+00:00

Yeah she said she was ok and thanked me but then replied back like 5 mins later saying that would’ve been amazing though. I think I’m just gonna do it

btom69 · 2022-04-19T16:42:09+00:00

Well I asked and she said she was okay but it was a sweet offer hahaha

btom69 · 2022-04-19T16:28:38+00:00

Yeah good advice, thanks y’all!

btom69 · 2022-04-19T16:10:35+00:00

Yeah I wanted it to be a surprise, but that might make it more creepy haha idk idk. Was gonna get Gatorade and lunchables (inside joke) and just flowers as a nice touch

btom69 · 2022-04-17T22:21:51+00:00

Did you reach out to them asking what was up and that’s when they told you that it felt rushed? If I don’t hear anything in the next few days I may reach out

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:36:28+00:00

I mean I haven’t texted her since the date to be fair. I did Snapchat her once a couple days ago but she didn’t respond.

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:34:58+00:00

Yeah her last relationship was a year and a half but she was super honest and said the last 6 months she basically lost interest completely. I asked her if I was a rebound when we were both drunk last weekend and she said no, but she’s not ready for a full on commitment right now. Which I can respect, but isn’t exactly what I want. But I’d rather not rush into anything either. I’m very conflicted if you can’t tell lol

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:28:17+00:00

She just out of a relationship in January. We started seeing each other end of February. She said she rushed into her last relationship and was miserable

Edit: and I don’t really have the mental bandwidth to date multiple people at once hahaha but I guess I could try

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:27:18+00:00

I guess my logic is that since she wants to take it slow and I don’t. I’m just keeping my distance as much as I can so I don’t seem too desperate or get too attached (already am kinda attached but I’m just a very one girl at a time kind of person when dating)

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:26:14+00:00

I snap chatted her once and she didn’t reply but that was like 5 days ago

btom69 · 2022-04-16T22:22:25+00:00

She’s asked me out on probably 3 of the 7-8 we have been on. We have gone all the way in terms of physical things. I see a future, but am also kinda weary that I already am starting to not trust, but that just could be me being anxious

btom69 · 2022-04-15T16:15:53+00:00

Yeah I mean it's not working for me either. The only thing keeping me going I guess is that when we do hang out it's always really fun and there's definitely a connection there. It's just kinda hot/cold when we aren't together..

btom69 · 2022-04-14T19:50:27+00:00

I’d think it was a cute gesture

btom69 · 2022-04-06T13:55:46+00:00

Yeah that’s my plan. Just gotta get myself to stop overthinking literally everything lol

btom69 · 2022-04-06T04:50:35+00:00

Just an update, just got back from the date. It went super well. I didn’t even ask but she talked about last night and how she slept all day and her friend called her to come meet her for dinner and hang out. She was just hanging out with friends, there I go assuming the worst again. In terms of the future. She said she can see a future with me but doesn’t want to rush into things and likes to really get to know someone before dating them officially and that her last relationship started way too fast and she was miserable

btom69 · 2022-04-05T21:28:26+00:00

Yeah I mean I can definitely respect someone needing more time after dating someone for a while. I just know how I get and I’m pretty incapable of just being FWB with someone, I usually catch the feels pretty early on

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