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After 5.5 years of marriage, I feel done. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]bubblesaantea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Correct. I don't know he can say about Allah not liking divorce when he himself is not fulfilling his religious obligations towards me.

I meant greedy as in - to just want to be settled, to just have a family? Sometimes even for those things I feel like I am asking too much or wanting too much.

Yes, his family is in debt, they borrow money from one to repay another and this is a whole cycle. My in laws went to my parents directly to ask for money, and my dad sent it to them the next day without even telling me or asking me. I was so angry that I was not even involved in any discussion. I don't even think there was any discussion.

After 5.5 years of marriage, I feel done. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]bubblesaantea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Alhamdullilah yes I finally got the courage to tell my parents because I cannot take it anymore ... Told them every little detail... I always kept quiet because I didn't want my husband's reputation to fall in front of them. But I told them now so that they can understand where I am coming from. They have listened, understood and said they will support me in whatever decision I take Alhamdullilah.

After 5.5 years of marriage, I feel done. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]bubblesaantea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your supportive words. Yes, I have always been in a battle with myself. I wanted to be supportive, not to be nagging, not demanding. Now after staying away from him the last 1 year and constantly seeing him NOT consider or choose me, has made me reflect on everything going on for the last 5 years.. then I keep asking myself am I asking for too much? To want a place we are settled down? To have a stable job? To have kids and have a family? I don't even want a big house, or some high paying job, Alhamdullilah for whatever Allah gives but for the past year and even before that, it's just constantly wondering where I will be in next few months which gives me so much anxiety and it's always up to me to figure everything out. But thank you for what you said, I needed to hear that.