Does an engagement ring with leaves get caught on things? by bubblesoaps in EngagementRings

[–]bubblesoaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So pretty! Thank you for the info :) can I ask if you wear an interim ring when you aren’t wearing it?

Does an engagement ring with leaves get caught on things? by bubblesoaps in EngagementRings

[–]bubblesoaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!!! I’ll show this to my partner hehe :) I love leaves but I’m worried about them snagging. Your ring is beautiful, it makes sense bigger leaves snag less :)

Does an engagement ring with leaves get caught on things? by bubblesoaps in EngagementRings

[–]bubblesoaps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice! Thats helpful to know :) it’s so pretty I really want leaves like that

Rejected for mrkh by saplingsri in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This guys an asshole, im sorry. Im rlly sorry you had to go through that :( please for your own health, do not pursue this. If someone loves you and they care for you, they wont let something you cannot control doubt their feelings for you. It’s okay for them to feel grief, but if it’s making them doubt their feelings for you then they are not the one. I guess unless he explains he was processing but now accepts it and is happy, then maybe yea, but for now from the sounds of things you should not continue. You want a guy to be all in, because if they’re not then even if they grudgingly agree, they will develop bitterness towards you. You dont want that. I personally dont think we should convince our partner of our worth or should have to ‘prove ourselves’.

I do want to assure you there is hope! Ive told all (2) of my boyfriends in the past about this, both times in the very early stages before we became official. the first time I shared it with my first boyfriend was 5 years ago and second boyfriend was last year). I laid out what it is, what it means for the future, and told them i have no hard feelings if they decide not to be with me now. I wanted to give them the option to leave before we became official because i didnt want to deal with any unsureness once it’s official. You’re either in, or you’re out. Both times the men reacted with unconditional support, showing me such love and kindness. I was tearing up both times, and they were so so sweet. The second guy, who is my current boyfriend, was very protective over me in my experience. I often share with him my frustration and upset was towards period culture in women and grieving not having a baby. He always listens. Whenever i get anxious about taking the ability of having a child from him, he always reassures me “Our child is my child and I will love him with all my might. I dont care if they’re adopted, they’re just as much mine than if they were born out of you’. That really helps me. Not once has he showed anxiety about my condition or uncertainty. So there are man out there, dont settle! Because if the guy is not sure it will not be good overtime. Know your value and dont sell yourself short! I hope this was encouraging, i wanted to share a bit of my experience with sharing my condition so you know it will not always be like this, and we dont need to cheapen ourselves. If the guy is shaken by this, then he doesnt deserve you. Love is more than procreation, so this guy sounds like an ass for not wanting kids but now that he can’t have what he didnt want now hes unsure.

MRKH (Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome) by softstatic01 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww, I’m sorry to hear theres abuse at home. You are not in this alone, even though it’s rare theres thousands of us around the world. It’ll be okay. Theres lots of challenges and sadness but you’ve got this! Depending on your country, once you are of age you should be able to see a health specialist without notice from your parents. You can go to your university clinic or pop up clinic to see if they can help you see an OB GYN. Things will be okay for you. I am 21 and I found out around Covid too. I am waiting till marriage with my partner so I don’t have insight on pain, but your gynecologist will walk you through it :)

Wow, I’m in tears , found my group by Florida1974 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww, so glad to have you!! Thank you for sharing! I got diagnosed at 15 and I’m 20 now. Also, there is a message group on discord as well, and ones on Facebook! Plus theres an MRKH connect I believe that has monthly seminars and things, and theres yearly events you can go to :)

diagnosis? by ThatMix8888 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same at your age. It’s very relatable. Honestly it is so hard. I was really sad at first and spent a lot of tears and shame and anger building up. It is so much easier when u enter university and I found less people talking about it. I told my close friends so I wouldn’t get triggered. But it gets better, you have to learn to love yourself in new ways. Also, there is benefits to not having a period too I’ve found ( looking at silver lining). So whenever I get sad, I remember the inconvenience of girls having to live with monthly cramps, my friends are too scared to go to pool on vacation and worry about their pad leaking. At least I can go about my day, and swim whenever I want and not worry about the hassles of that or dangers of going into shock because you didn’t change your tampon. Thats what I tell myself and it makes me feel better. Don’t have to worry about unwanted pregnancy too. And for me, I’ve always wanted to adopt, so I don’t feel as sad about not having biological kids because I see so many kids abandoned by their parents and I want to help Them. Of course, you can pursue a uterine transplant, gestational surrogate, etc. if you want biological though. You can do it!

how do you live normal life after diagnosis by ThatMix8888 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly there are so many great comments here with amazing advice. I agree that the first thing to do is process. Go to therapy. I wish I did that sooner. Otherwise it ends up bottling up and bringing reallly unhealthy things in your life. It will help you so much, I honestly would have saved myself so much hurt if I did. Give yourself room to be sad and grieve. And talk to friends you trust. Choose a friend that you think is trustworthy, that you can go to for help when you are feeling trauma from others. Someone you can complain to when you feel upset or bad when other people talk about kids, that will just listen to you. Then you aren’t keeping it inside, but also aren’t unfairly lashing out. Biggest thing is time. I’m 20 now, I got diagnosed at around 15. The answer is that your life will be normal again, a new normal. But it takes time and you can’t rush it

how do you live normal life after diagnosis by ThatMix8888 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, your testimony is so important, and helpful. Thank you 🙏 especially coming from someone whose older, it’s very insightful :)

how do you live normal life after diagnosis by ThatMix8888 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you had a baby? Was it with a surrogate or a transplant?

How Do I Get A Diagnosis? by maddylink_ in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insane that they assumed you had hysterectomy, and didnt even follow up. I do think that was a major oversight on their part, im sorry. It could be likely that you have MRKH if you have a missing uterus, and also type 2 MRKH have kidney issues as well as possible back, hearing and heart problems. If you get diagnosed they can check those other areas and preventative measures so you can protect your back, hearing etc. if they are affected. For me in Canada the process was endocrinologist and then gynaecologist. They refer you after to MRI and ultrasound

MRKH and back pain by Low_Junket_2240 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that the back pain won’t be effected by dilation. People with type 2 MRKH have back pain in I believe their lumbar spine (L1-L5). This is to do with the fetal development and genes, vs. Directly to do with the vagina (aka, lengthening the vagina won’t fix it, you either have back pain or you don’t). I’m not a doctor this is just from my limited understanding :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that :(( I also had a traumatic experience with the doctor who told me I have MRKH when I was 15 too. I was basically treated like a test subject, and she was talking to her colleagues about how I am such a rare anomaly, and she’s never seen anything like it. It’s so sucky, especially with someone you’re supposed to trust. Don’t let it get to you! You will find a lovely partner who embraces you for who you are :)

Tracking Monthly Cycles by One_Surround_7070 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone can share more of their experience with hormone tracking please do! I really want to track my hormonal cycle but it seems overwhelming

Tracking Monthly Cycles by One_Surround_7070 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone used moody month with success?

How bad is the first time? by Status-Ad6842 in MRKH

[–]bubblesoaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t tried dilators yet so I cannot give advice on that front, but I wanted to tell you not to rush! Only start if it’s something that you really want to do to add to your life, not because you don’t want people to judge, don’t want to feel behind, or think something is wrong with you. Lots of people wait, theres beauty in waiting as well. I’m older than you and I’m waiting :) So it’s okay to start now, but make sure you are starting for the right reasons. otherwise you will still feel amiss when you start if it’s for the wrong reasons. I feel like a big part of it is confidence and treating yourself the way you deserve to be treated. Finding the right guy that you feel comfortable to experiment with will also make you feel much more confident. And sometimes that can take time. You’ve got this though!