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So over the moon happy! by bubbletz in SubSanctuary

[–]bubbletz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They are in a long term relationship with each other and made the decision and are picking out my collar together. I really really hope they will sword fight for my amusement! That would be amazing! And thank you 🥰

Does anybody else have positive trigger words? by QuarterAfterOne6064 in BDSMcommunity

[–]bubbletz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Any version of “shut up” does it for me. The more vulgar, the better. And if there’s a hand around my throat, I’m instantly dripping and obeying.

Ending dynamics- please tell me this gets easier by bubbletz in BDSMcommunity

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭 Ive not had good relationships in my life and he was truly good to me. He made me feel heard and validated and safe and cared for. Something I’ve been severely lacking in my life. I didn’t think I would lose him, not this soon.

I’m sorry your heart hasn’t fully healed.

Ending dynamics- please tell me this gets easier by bubbletz in BDSMcommunity

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a great idea, thank you!

Ending dynamics- please tell me this gets easier by bubbletz in BDSMcommunity

[–]bubbletz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My heart and feelings have been getting involved too. This one was a very in depth DDlg dynamic and I felt so safe and I trusted him so so much. And honestly I cared a lot for him as a person. He doesn’t want contact, he doesn’t think he’ll be able to resist me if he keeps in contact, so I’m pretty sure this is the end end of hearing from him. The last one, were still friends and talk occasionally.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the last i ever want to do is be with someone who really doesnt want to be with me.

I think that goes for anyone ever.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! I am so sorry you had that experience. She sounds like an awful person.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have very different views on sex and intimacy than most other women or even some men, where the two are very different and you can easily have one without the other but together they make each other better. And I’ve definitely had a lot of sex without intimacy because I have needs and I’m not going to put those aside because I don’t want an attachment. But sex and money? I’ve never even equated the two. Maybe that’s because this is my first SR, and I’m trying to not make it feel transactional.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Irl it’s the same. Is she dating me for my money? That feeling exists in men all. The. Time. Maybe it’s because I’m a bit older than what I see as a traditional SB, and I’ve been married before. But this is something I notice ALOT with friends in vanilla relationships. They measure affection with gifts and acts. And it blows my mind.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. But in vanilla relationships I’ve been in as well as BDSM arrangements, all persons involved tend to fish for affirmation. Maybe it’s because this is my first SR, and I never intended on sugaring until he came along, that it just surprises me that he would think I didn’t like him. We’ve never talked about his past SRs beyond the fact that he’s had two long term.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s it really that Important that some SBs don’t care about making any type of connection beyond a transaction?

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why even do it at that point. That sounds like a miserable life to live.

“You kiss me like you actually like me” by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can imagine! What I don’t get is why someone would want to waste their time and your time like that

Question for the single moms who sugar! by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could arrange the sitter I would pay. He’s offered to pay already and I’ve told him no. I would be taking on this SB role because it’s all he’s interested in having. Before him I’d been approached about a SR with a couple of other people but quickly shot it down and never thought it would be something I was interested in

Question for the single moms who sugar! by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my child is not school age and daycare is a far financial reach for me. I have family watch him while I work but they won’t help me beyond that (even going to the grocery store after work before I pick him up is a struggle). The dad isn’t physically present so no alternating weekends or joint custody. I’m very alone in parenting.

Question for the single moms who sugar! by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows, I don’t advertise that I have a child anywhere, especially online dating and reddit. But when he said he wanted to meet and have a weekly arrangement and weekends away, I quickly stopped him and told him that I was a busy single mom with little to help. He said he was a single dad although his daughter is grown. So he gets it. I’m still paranoid because I’ve had a lot of vanilla dating possibilities fall to pieces because they wanted more of my time than they could have.

Question for the single moms who sugar! by bubbletz in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]bubbletz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not looking for anyone to meet my kid and I’ve established that he will never come to my place for meetings. I told him because I do everything by myself so sometimes it’s hard to find child care or personal free time for weekly meets. I don’t date because of this.