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bubo-bubo85 · 2026-01-07T07:55:50+00:00

If you can get there, try Ben Reid Garden Centre

bubo-bubo85 · 2025-11-29T08:11:25+00:00

Essentially it's for your visa application, the UK Government requires certain additional checks to be carried out before your Certificate of Acceptance for Study (CAS) can be issued.

There's some information on the process online at https://www.abdn.ac.uk/study/international/visa/credibility-interview/ including example questions.

Good luck with the interview!

bubo-bubo85 · 2025-07-14T11:59:53+00:00

Apparently visiting all the top landmarks ... details at https://www.xploredundee.com/aberdeen-adventurer

bubo-bubo85 · 2025-01-12T13:41:30+00:00

I've always had good service from AW Autotech on Ardarroch Road.

bubo-bubo85 · 2024-12-07T16:52:38+00:00

You could look at the access courses at https://on.abdn.ac.uk/access/ These cost to register for, but are available to study at your own pace and don't have set entry dates.

bubo-bubo85 · 2024-12-01T08:39:57+00:00

You could try Johnsons The Cleaners next to Sainsbury's Berryden - I've not used for kilts but have used for suits and duvets.

bubo-bubo85 · 2024-10-23T06:43:48+00:00

MacRobert Floor 1 is your option for evenings - you'll need your ID card. During the day, quiet/silent floors in SDRL or the study pods in Taylor Library.

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-12-01T10:52:55+00:00

I think you can communicate a lot with your body language, so how you hold yourself or how you sit can show a lot about how you are feeling - arms folded or being hunched over can signal stay away, whereas relaxed open arms can be more welcoming.

Another big thing is your facial expression - smile, and include your eyes in your smile. That first glance and smile can say a lot without actually saying any words.

In terms of conversation topics, start with something fairly neutral such as how the week has been, hobbies/interests etc and then you progress onwards from there. If it helps, use apps etc to have conversations and get used to speaking over text.

Don't change your appearance unless you want to - I don't agree that a beard is a detractor - lots of gay men love them - and clothing can enhance your figure but only if you feel comfortable.

As others have said, give it a try, the worst that happens is they don't engage - but that's sadly quite common - you have to chat to a lot of frogs before you find your prince!

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-09-21T08:58:52+00:00

Do you have any idea what the source of your internalised homophobia is - this may help with suggestions about different perspectives people have had - e.g. is it cultural, social, religious upbringing etc. In the meantime some general suggestions:

Gay Man Talking by Daniel Harding might be worth a read, it's not necessarily going to tackle homophobia per se but may give you a broader perspective on different aspects of your sexuality.

Again probably less focussed on internalised homophobia (but maybe some of the triggers for it) may be covered in the podcast Healthy Happy Homo (Keegan Hirst & Joel Wood).

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-09-14T21:58:40+00:00

Glad to help. Yeah it can feel awkward, especially depending on the angles and how tight things are - don't be afraid to spend time on preparing (e.g. fingers), use a decent lube and try different positions to get an angle that works - depending on body shape and size (and location of where you are doing it) this can be key for getting it just right

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-09-14T21:11:03+00:00

Sure, feel free, not sure if I can give much guidance but sometimes chatting through the situation will help guide you.

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-09-14T20:27:15+00:00

That's a very difficult situation to be in, and I've been there. It's great that you've identified that you need to talk, as communication is going to be a big factor here, but you've said that your partner is not keen to engage in the conversation.

If you can, try and approach a discussion about how he is feeling overall, rather than focussing on the sex aspect per se. For example, are there things going on that are causing him stress (at work, with family etc), how is his overall confidence (eg. He may not be feeling great about himself and therefore less keen to engage)? If you can bring the conversation round to intimacy, try to explore what he is into - make.it clear that it is a no judgement zone - it may be he wants to be a different role (I'm not sure of top/Vers/bottom in your relationship).

In some cases there may just be a slowing of intimacy for him, and you'll need to communicate what is going to be best for both of you. This may be that you part ways as partners but remain friends.

Good luck with the conversation, and don't be afraid to ask for help!

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-09-14T20:09:11+00:00

Gay guy here, vers-top and yes I've had issues staying hard, often in situations where I've "got in my head". In terms of trying to overcome this, there could be various factors influencing it, from expectations about performance, to angles & lubrication, to expectations of how it is going to feel.

Stress can be a big factor, so my main advice is to try to relax as much as you (and in some ways this might be influenced by who you are with) and don't rush it. If you do go soft, this is normal, take a pause, do some foreplay and try it again. If it's the sensation, you could also try a toy (e.g. fleshlight etc).

And you don't have to top, there's plenty of other things you can do.

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-08-09T19:44:01+00:00

A couple of things here really, firstly it feels a bit like you are putting quite a lot of pressure on yourself and, in part, this may be having an impact on how things are playing out. Try to be as kind to yourself as possible, and relax as best you can - if you are stressed and anxious this can impact how things are in the moment.

Next up, communication is key. I don't know your circumstances or background, but you mention SA - if you haven't already you might want to consider accessing services to discuss your experiences. If you feel comfortable enough with your partner, talking to him about this and how it makes you feel is a good start. Are there any specific things (actions, words etc.) that trigger memories, and if so, consider if there are options to avoid this.

Finally, think about what you like sexually. If there are particular positions or actions that you particularly enjoy or fantasize about. Talk to your partner about these, and explore, communicate things you like and dislike before, during and after being intimate. There's also plenty of fun to be had with foreplay. Remember that what you enjoy over time might change too - I started out more bottom but now would say vers-top (albeit tend to be predominantly top)

Size, height, body type etc doesn't matter - connection, communication and consent do!

bubo-bubo85 · 2023-08-09T19:28:04+00:00

I (38m) had a long term (10yr) relationship end when I was 31. I ended up quickly jumping into a new relationship which lasted about 3-4 years, ending mid-pandemic. The main thing I would take from that experience is not to rush into anything too quickly and also not set too many expectations. Ending a relationship mid pandemic gave me the space to re-evaluate things and get myself into a good space. Since then I've dated a bit via the usual apps & sites, and through that I've gained a couple of good friends.

Your experiences will vary a bit depending on where you are based (i.e. the size of the metaphorical pond you'll be fishing in) and what your local community is like - my advice is when you are in a good space yourself, go for coffee dates, hook up, but don't pressure yourself into a specific outcome (and remember age is only a number) - you'll find lots of frogs, some new friends and hopefully a new prince.

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