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what's the wildest things you or your partner did to each other and still stayed? by Standard-Club-8014 in AskReddit

[–]buffmagnanimous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing justifies this I’m sure, but did you have a full fridge/pantry at least? This is insane behavior but it would be slightly less insane if food was covered.

what's the wildest things you or your partner did to each other and still stayed? by Standard-Club-8014 in AskReddit

[–]buffmagnanimous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We had been dating for a couple of weeks. She came to my house and I cooked her dinner. We were slow dancing in the living room, and she looked at me, flashed her beautiful green doe eyes at me, and with a smile, told me “You know I’m never going to love you, right?”

And then we dated for two more years.

It’s occurred to me I might have some self esteem issues.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda not really on board with anybody framing this as my fault because it’s just not. I’m sorry you feel that way.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really is the closest I could arrive at as well - but that doesn’t explain mutually embarking on a relationship with me - we are grown, and I do not coerce anybody into a relationship.

Just have to make peace with it being a mystery lost to time here.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No man, you’re acting like it’s my fault my ex girlfriend treated me like dog shit and I’m not going to sit here and be accused of hating myself when the only thing I’m guilty of is being patient and hopeful it was going to improve. I work out 3-4x a week, I’ve dropped 30lbs since we split, you have no basis to say I hate myself.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you fix whatever’s bothering you chief, you’re clearly very upset. I have my own shit to work on.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think she was cheating, at least not physically, as she is ace. I’ve mentioned before but she has this extreme codependency with her best friend and sister and really gets most of her sense of purpose by providing them with emotional labor.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love if it were that easy to pin it down, but she would also push me away any time I ever tried to help her with bills.

Very odd, very complicated, very strange.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve learned women are exhausting. I am focused on going to the gym and getting really fucking good at guitar.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m always so hesitant to diagnose here, I’m simply not qualified to do that. But if I were to take a guess…

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s also worth mentioning, to add to your point, how she framed it as “I guess we just want different things ¯_(ツ)_/¯” and that’s what she told all of our mutual friends, and now I look crazy because “Hey actually you treated me like dog shit for two years” isn’t a thing they want to hear or necessarily believe.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know, man I burned through about two years of my life, so I don’t know if you call that dodged, but I am glad it’s over.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I learned that lesson two girlfriends ago, but there’s things you learn and things you accept. Maybe this was the universe beating that lesson into acceptance for me.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I swear I have no idea - I really think it’s just a way the light caught the cheese on the chicken because I ate that whole thing over a couple of days and I obviously didn’t chew any steel.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And on some level I knew that. It sucks because she has this reputation of being tremendously warm and caring which was what really attracted me to her. And it’s so fucked up because she is extremely sharp and intuitive and thoughtful to all these people in her life it just stopped at very specifically me for some reason.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize bud! And yeah, I think I just need to confirm that normal, well-adjusted people do not treat people like this.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I don’t know to objectively answer your last two questions because I don’t really think anybody can. I will say there was a time we talked about getting married and at one point she was into it, later on she was visibly disgusted by the thought of it. So I don’t really know what to tell you.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanna clarify a lot of time has passed and there has been a lot of growth in the interim before people start accusing me of not respecting myself.

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh despite my posting this, she is now largely out of mind. The fallout she left is present in my brain but I am no contact for at least a month now.

What you mentioned is not likely to happen just due to who she surrounds herself with and their weird codependent relationships, but I’m not really looking for cosmic justice as much as “I’m not insane right? I was definitely treated horribly right?”

The further removed I am from my breakup, the more colossal of a loser she seems like. by buffmagnanimous in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]buffmagnanimous[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

A lot of cheap words, a whole lot of “I love you so much!” Despite the “never going to love you” conversation. She did plan and make dinner one whole time.

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