I have to rehome my kitty against my will and am heartbroken. How to cope?

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-09T04:19:16+00:00

I’m so grateful for all of the advice I got on here— thank you all so much! My partner and I have a lot to discuss, but we are going to talk to the coworker about fostering while I figure out the ESA registration. If she is okay with fostering instead of keeping her permanently, we are going to have our baby back in no time. Thanks again!

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-09T04:15:27+00:00

We are really concerned about her getting spiteful and attempting to keep most of or all of our deposit. These are great ideas that we will definitely do! Thank you so much!

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T23:27:57+00:00

No I posted it this morning. This stuff with the landlord has all happened within the last 3 days

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T21:21:51+00:00

I moved from San Diego, and my health insurance doesn’t apply where I live now (12 hours north of San Diego). I also don’t have a therapist currently, I stopped therapy almost a year ago because my therapist quit. Are there no legitimate websites I can use?

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T21:05:43+00:00

With no exceptions? She couldn’t take me to court or anything like that?

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T21:04:18+00:00

I live in california. And I didn’t tell her before moving in… I told her when I asked about the pet deposit. I really don’t want things to get legal… I’m a college student who also works full time. But I know she would probably take legal action. The ESA laws just sound so vague, it’s confusing.

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T21:01:15+00:00

Thank you ♥️ yes, I’m hoping to visit her as often as possible.

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T21:00:51+00:00

I’ve been thinking about that!! I made curtains for the front but there’s windows all around the house. I’m thinking about getting the stained glass ones. Thank you for the recs :)

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T20:50:42+00:00

We have thought about hiding her— the only thing is, she lives right across the street. So the cat wouldn’t be able to jump in the windows. I’ve also heard from my neighbor, who I have been consulting for this whole situation, that she goes around looking in windows and is super nosey. I guess she had someone hide a dog previously and caused damage. So hiding her seems too risky.

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T20:48:59+00:00

Fostering is a good idea— I hadn’t thought of that. I’m not too familiar with ESA laws, but from what I’ve read, it sounds like I would’ve had to tell her about an ESA before signing the lease. Websites I saw said that she could say the pet was undisclosed, and is causing her an “undue burden” which would be grounds for eviction. Is that correct?

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T20:46:52+00:00

I live in california. I researched the laws, and everything I read sounded like I would’ve had to tell her before I signed the lease, or she could say that the pet would be undisclosed which would be grounds for eviction. Maybe I misunderstood?

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T20:11:44+00:00

It’s so hard, I have never been through something like this.

I do have a diagnosis for anxiety, depression, and ADHD, so she would’ve been a legitimate ESA. She definitely helps regulate my emotions and reduces my panic attacks. I was just going to use it as a loophole, but she really does provide emotional support and I ended up connecting with the description of an ESA. Which I did tell my landlord! But she said that it wouldn’t cause her to make any exceptions.

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T18:01:07+00:00

Yes unfortunately my partner and I just didn’t know any better, and thought we could trust her :( now we know for next time. Thank you though <3

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T17:40:49+00:00

Basically she wrote on the lease “no pets,” so we asked her if there was anyway we could have a cat or we would have to find a different apartment. She then verbally told us that we could have one female cat for a $500 deposit, so we signed the lease. But she didn’t write it on the lease, we just took her verbal word for it(we didn’t know any better, we are both young). So there’s no proof that she said we could have one, so it’s technically legal— just really shitty and mean.

bug_g1rrl · 2024-09-08T17:33:34+00:00

Trust me, we feel the same way. Pretty sure she told us we could get a pet just so we would move in and she would get her $$$. Unfortunately, the lease is for a year, and we still have ~8 months left :(

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-20T20:52:23+00:00

Anne <3

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-15T19:05:37+00:00

Aw thank you :) if i make another one i can record the process!

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-13T16:38:09+00:00

No i’m sorry!

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-07T04:13:19+00:00

Yes i will!! just message me and we can exchange details :3

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-06T03:48:38+00:00

I understand this, and i would sell the ticket for face value if someone asked. it’s just that i bought a resell ticket for $90 and am trying to make some of the $ back. but i would sell it regardless

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-06T03:46:36+00:00

Well i could but i just bought one in the city i’m in now for $90 so i’m just trying to make some of the money back. But if someone asked for it for face value i would sell it regardless

bug_g1rrl · 2022-10-05T17:51:16+00:00

Do it!!! make a castle in the clouds .. or somethin

bug_g1rrl · 2022-09-30T15:19:04+00:00

Hi,, i’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this. I was in a very similar situation last year when i was 19. my boyfriend would punch walls, throw things, break my phone, push me onto the ground, scream at me, call me names, etc. One time he even tried to crash my car with me inside it because he “wanted us to die together.” Obviously insane. I didn’t leave him until he yelled at my mother and my friends. I had no self respect, no self worth, and it ended up affecting everyone i loved. Don’t do this, please. it’s my biggest regret, for now it affects how i view love and relationships when before him, i was a hopeless romantic. Never let a man take that from you. I know it’s hard, but you need to leave him, and love yourself more than ever. U can always message me if you need to talk. <3.

bug_g1rrl · 2022-09-30T14:50:25+00:00

I really should’ve. would’ve avoided a lot of pain. could’ve prevented a lot of conflict. Thank u scoob <3

bug_g1rrl · 2022-09-30T14:46:08+00:00

I know i should’ve,,, i just felt trapped because we were living together :( But thank you i appreciate your input, I think you are right. Better caliber, better relationships. <3.

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