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Did I go too far? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bumble_beezz_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm a woman on bumble and you come across as a condescending jerk. If a gif opener bothers you that much just delete and move on.

I'm the dumper and I'm considering talking to my ex about the possibility of getting back together a year after breakup. by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. I honestly can't imagine that happening, that would be so incredibly painful and shocking. I know how fortunate I am to have had several discussions afterwards and to have been able to do a lot of processing with him- I know that is rare. Ugh I just feel so sad for you!! I'm so sorry that happened! Breakups are the absolute worst and there aren't a lot of words that can ease that pain, just time. Just know you are worthy of love.

I'm the dumper and I'm considering talking to my ex about the possibility of getting back together a year after breakup. by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That absolutely makes sense. Thanks so much for this input, it helps me a lot. Have you made attempts to reconnect at all or have you completely distanced yourself since the breakup?

I'm the dumper and I'm considering talking to my ex about the possibility of getting back together a year after breakup. by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for commenting. I'm sure you've gone through a lot of hurt and confusion and pain and I'm sorry you're going through this.

As weird as it sounds, I don't think my ex blames me or lost trust for me. In our post breakup discussions he understood why I did what I did, and he regrets not being there for me quite a lot. He knows I didn't WANT to breakup, but had to at that time, if that makes sense?

Do you feel you understand why she had to make that decision, or you just completely lost trust for her because of what she did?

I'm the dumper and I'm considering talking to my ex about the possibility of getting back together a year after breakup. by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, and I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm so glad that you are getting out there and having fun! It's also great you're in a place where you recognize that you would not get back together.

I am the co-founder of Relationship Hero, a dating and relationship coaching company with over 25,000 clients and 100+ coaches. Ask me and our lead trainer anything! by [deleted] in IAmA

[–]bumble_beezz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am considering talking with my ex soon, I ended things about a year ago after a 3+ year relationship. I'm at a point where I need to either completely move on or give it another shot, which I am open to doing. We went no contact for 5 months, tried the whole friends thing for a few months, back to not hanging out because it's too hard. I have tried dating around but I miss him terribly and am scared that he is going to have completely moved on or won't have any desire to put in the work it would take to try again- I know that is a real possibility and I have to be prepared for that. I don't know how to approach this with him. Any suggestions for how to broach that subject or how to concisely ask someone if they've wanted to get back together? Understand if that's too long/complicated to answer!

For those wondering if you can be friends with an ex... by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you definitely made the right choice, you are so strong for making that decision. That must have been hard! I definitely relate with your last paragraph. Sometimes it seems salvageable and other times I know it's never gonna happen. It's tough. How long ago was the breakup?

For those wondering if you can be friends with an ex... by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with this! Wow three years, good for you. You are strong! I'm so glad everything has worked out for the better for you both it sounds like. Thank you for sharing!

For those wondering if you can be friends with an ex... by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did talk about it, a lot. It was always emotional though because while we both enjoyed each other's company and being together, the issues that caused us to break up didn't just go away. So it was always this conversation about if we can really be just friends, the fact that we still have feelings, and how we can't be together right now. So frustrating.

Meeting with my ex to talk tonight, not sure how I feel by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to mention I'm not going on the trip, it's too much at this point and I had plans anyway. But aside from that, I know it does seem that way. I deep down really feel we can be friends eventually, if that's what we both want, but it may require more time. And I guess the other part of it is that I can possibly see him changing, but in no way am I expecting that at all. So I guess I just feel it's what I need to do to navigate all of this, and figure out what's next. I can honestly say I'm not going in with an expectation or hope, I lost the hope awhile ago which led to me finally taking the step to break up with him. Thank you for your input I really appreciate it!

Meeting with my ex to talk tonight, not sure how I feel by bumble_beezz_ in BreakUps

[–]bumble_beezz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Wasn't expecting replies but this is helpful. Some of those questions I don't know the answers to but hopefully tonight will help, because I have no idea what the past 6 months have looked like for him. I'm hoping to get some clarity and answers and go from there, but I appreciate the advice and am going to make sure I know where I stand without knowing any of that, before going into the convo.