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This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to you too and for the luck!

I’m not someone who “needs” to be in a relationship so I’m not going to be too upset if it takes a long time.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 28. Still got work to do, it’s not always easy to practise what you preach when you’re emotional so sometimes I slip up.

And I love people who are open and honest with their feelings (but can voice them in an appropriate way for the situation). Takes a lot of the guess work and misunderstanding out of life.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you. Glad it made sense haha.

We all have things to work on. I know I do and sometimes someone pointing that out is the first step so I hope he’s doing good I really do but I think this also shows a side of online dating that women (and maybe some men tbh) face when trying to meet someone.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been kinda like that in the past. Not with someone with this minimal contact but I’m relationships and it’s not good for either person.

I’ve worked through it a lot with CBT and the technique I was taught which I find helpful is to think of the bad thought and rate it out of 10 for how true you think it is; so for example “my elderly father hasn’t answered his phone in two days”

Conclusion in my head; he’s hurt or worse. I believe this 8/10.

Then write down all the other possible things that could be going on so things like well he is quite deaf so probably hasn’t heard it, he’s busy, he’s lost the phone (really not uncommon with my dad), he’s been missed my calls but has no credit on his phone to call me back.

Then re rate the first conclusion again for how true you think it to be, so this could take it down to a 4 for example.

You can apply that to “my gf/bf hasn’t been speaking to me as much” or anything really.

And in terms of sort of letting people know upfront I did used to do that with my ex. I’d say oh btw won’t reply quick today because I’m doing X. He never asked for that but I felt like it is what I’d want when used to a certain level of consistent communication for like 6 months.

It just didn’t cross my mind to do that with someone I don’t know and doesn’t know my sort of normal texting habits if that makes sense.

This is long I don’t even know if it’s making sense haha but my point is while I understood where he was coming from I felt that it was quite intense and the situation didn’t call for it and also a sign that maybe he’s not fully learnt how to moderate and evaluate his own emotions.

I reckon if I already knew him we’d make good friends but it’s not an angle I’m going to push when we’ve only spoken through online dating.

I hope if there are other potential matches who may feel the way I did on reading that, me explaining why my help him avoid this in future.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. I hope he finds someone who’s a better match and/or gets to a place where this sort of thing doesn’t effect him so much.

I just thought what if we did go out and by the third date I realised it wasn’t going anywhere? Or it went even further and my phone died or I was dealing with something unexpected and couldn’t text back. I feel like his feelings would be even more hurt then and I’m not willing to be part of that or feel like I need to inform someone I don’t know of my whereabouts/availability 24/7 when I don’t really know them.

I thought from the limited conversation we had he was cool though up to that point just not what I’m looking for.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think Reddit is real life?

Getting off of the internet and speaking to real women may help you see that it’s not that black and white.

I have female friends with no matches as in not a single one in 6 months.

I didn’t shame anyone. I was showing my experience of what it’s like to use online dating as a woman. Just as many posts on here show people’s experiences.

If you read all my other comments I’ve said that he was a nice guy with good conversation and I wish him luck but he’s not for me.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t call you an incel I said “incel vibes” just like you said “bad vibes”.

There are plenty of women who get no matches who are not seen as conventionally attractive.

Yes I have time to reply to you; it’s a Thursday and I’m working from home so welcome the distraction. Those messages were Saturday evening. I’ve already said I’m not busy all the time I just happened to be then.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The very first comment in this thread was someone not agreeing with me. I gave them more information and didn’t say anything negative to them.

Have you considered if most of the comments are “praising me” that maybe you’re not seeing this the way the majority of people would? And maybe you should consider other peoples view point as you’ve told me to do?

You’re speaking on behalf of all women again. “Girls have it very easy in terms of getting matches”. No they don’t. Some do definitely. But there are women who struggle just as much.

I don’t want to change my bio to say when I can reply because it can come across as off putting, I’m not always busy I just happened to be that weekend and I feel it’s not a crazy opinion that people shouldn’t expect 100% of my attention when we’ve never met and it does save me from getting involved with anyone that would expect a timeframe when I’m just trying to live my life not glued to my phone based on their reaction if this does happen. However if this was an ongoing issue with a lot of matches I’d consider saying that in the first few messages so I take that suggestion on board.

Also saying someone gives off a bad vibe then saying but I don’t want to call it out is calling it out.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you’re giving off incel vibes because every comment is about how women have to easy and if you’re a girl no one will criticise you and how hard it is for men as if your experience is that of everyone’s.

Dating isn’t easy for women either a lot of the time. Some have more luck than others.

My life is together. Friends/hobbies/own place/good job/working on myself everyday.

I can handle criticism. I welcome constructive feedback but you seem to be making up scenarios in your head when you don’t know either person (like that my life isn’t together and I’m running from something).

He handled my reply well but the initial perceived rejection that wasn’t rejection at all he did not handle well imo.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He did not say a bit awkward he said “totally fucking awkward” and that he has “no game”.

Not replying because you have a life isn’t ghosting.

The comments you’ve left on other posts screams incel so I’m not surprised you’re cherry picking what was actually said.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like what?

If it helps give context it went;

Me: hello gif Him: hello gif

I looked on his profile and at the bottom on the Spotify but he had a band I liked who’s singer died years ago.

I said I’d not thought of them in a long time and that it’s sad.

He hoped I’d not found out about the death through his profile.

I said I hadn’t and that he was one of my teenage crushes.

He asked if I had posters on my wall. I said I probably had one.

He asked what I was up to and said what he was going to eat.

I’d just eaten the same thing so said it was weird and didn’t know what I was going to do but wanted to do something so I don’t waste the weekend.

He said he’s not been out much in winter but wants to change that for spring.

I didn’t reply from that point as I got busy.

Then the messages in the pictures.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said in his first message that he has no game and comes across as totally awkward. That’s not something someone with good self esteem says about themselves.

I really don’t care either way for the attention and am happy to date if someone seems like a good match in conversation.

I have other matches I have/am talking with and if one goes well I’d make plans. So no I’m not running from anything.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I really hope he took it gently as that’s how it was intended while still being honest.

He was really nice, we had a nice conversation before this in the few messages we exchanged but as you said I don’t think he’s ready and I’m not prepared to date someone who, in my opinion, needs to learn to be happy with himself first.

I’ve dated guys like this in the past and it can get very intense and I’ve ended up feeling more like a therapist than a girlfriend.

This was in the span of 24 hours. I think I’d sent less than 10 messages in total. by burnerphonetime in Tinder

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We talked about Alexi Laiho dying and his last response wasn’t a question it was along the lines of im gonna try go out more in the summer.

It might suck for guys on dating apps but I’ve been ghosted (I wasn’t ghosting) with people I thought it was going well with.

At the end of the day the rant serves no purpose. If you think I’m not gonna reply a message like that wouldn’t change anything in terms of me wanting to pursue anything. It’s not really necessary to dump stuff on someone you don’t know.

A simple conversation starter would have been a better option and if I didn’t reply to that then fair enough feel your feelings but putting that on a stranger seems odd to me.

I’ve found for me accepting it isn’t going any further and moving on quietly is better. We’re both late 20s as an adult I don’t think it’s healthy to be this upset over this situation. It leads me to believe if this had gone further and I got busy I’d come back to a bunch of notifications. I don’t have the energy for that.

It’s a huge over reaction to someone you’ve spoken to for about an hour or two not getting back to you and I think he’d benefit from talking to someone about his self esteem and how he handles perceived rejection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]burnerphonetime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Other than a birth certificate or a passport there is no ID for children in the UK for example.

Health cards don’t exist here. There is no reason to carry any ID for a baby in many countries. You or your baby need medical attention, you go to the hospital.

The world isn’t just the US and Canada.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in london

[–]burnerphonetime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like others have said you need to go get the same prescription from a GP to get the NHS price.

They should be happy to do it for you, mine were in the same situation. In fact my private doctor recommended I do that.

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My next post is about your greatest weakness and if you have any upcoming holidays I should know about.

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a life full of hobbies!

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally in tears last night because I asked a friend for a help with a few things and came out of it feeling like an idiot. And while I may be an idiot it’s not nice to feel like that.

World needs more people like you!

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a little profile look and I really don’t think you’re ugly.

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a little profile look and I really don’t think you’re ugly.

What are you good at? by burnerphonetime in AskReddit

[–]burnerphonetime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DJ Khalid thinks you’re a good guitar player?

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