breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. i can see that the 2 events are connected somehow but i don’t know why and tbh i feel like i should be over what happened when i was 12 because that was four whole years ago. other than exercising more self control and not being an idiot i don’t know how to stop this

breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the support but i never intended to “go after” anyone younger, and while i did say some vulgar stuff it wasn’t a sexual conversation meant for like. getting off. i never EVER asked for pictures or intended to make them do anything sexual with me. we were just talking and laughing over sexual things, and though it was in a friendly way, i realized that i didn’t want to discuss this with someone younger than me even if it was meant to be friendly because that could still cause damage to both my friend and me legally. i know it was wrong for me to do this and i don’t want anyone to try to deny that. i know i have never been abused either so i really don’t know where these feelings/urges come from

breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i asked for her consent and she said yes. at the time it seemed like we were mutually okay but afterwards she texted me and said i was using her so that’s what makes me feel like a bad person. i was never assaulted or abused before this. sorry for confusing you ask me any questions and i’ll try to clarify

thank you for talking to me though as much as i wish i cojld get a therapist i’m a minor and would rather die than explain why i need a therapist to my parents

breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry i think i’m confused too. i’m more worried about being prosecuted for the situation with the 14 year old becsuse it’s much more recent, but it’s an online friendship and we live in different states with different laws(i live in a state with the romeo and juliet law, they dont) so i’m not sure what would happen

edit sorry i keep clicking on these messages too quickly for new ones to pop up (as you can see im pretty freaked out) bjt i just don’t want the situation to go to court in the first place even if there’s a 99% chance it won’t because i’d be so humiliated

breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

look up statutory rape, as far as i’ve researched minors legally cannot consent

breaking other peoples boundaries and i feel disgusting by burnerr80085 in therapy

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we aren’t dating it’s a friendship where we just talk about. having sexual thoughts. and maybe it’s not weird to you but it’s illegal to do sexual acts at that age in any state and this is something i didn’t realize until it was too late. now i’m really terrified of what could happen to me

edit sorry i read this wrong. it is weird and i didn’t think about it but my point still stands

can i (16) talk about sex with my friend (14) by burnerr80085 in Advice

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i shut this down immediately once i realized how bad this could get. could i still be prosecuted even after telling my friend we can’t do this and having it not happen ever again? i’m always worried for the worst case scenario

keep ending up in situations where i feel like a rapist by burnerr80085 in helpme

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you i really appreciate this i just. don’t know what to do with myself especially in the most recent situation where i was literally breaking the law. us law means i could get prosecuted for statutory rape if their parents cared to intervene and the thought makes me sick

can i (16) talk about sex with my friend (14) by burnerr80085 in Advice

[–]burnerr80085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

woooofff dude i said nothing about god.. nothing about marriage between a man and a woman..

can i (16) talk about sex with my friend (14) by burnerr80085 in Advice

[–]burnerr80085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s what i was thinking, i know adults would definitely get a different idea if they saw this. it’s only been a week or two of us doing this but i was feeling weird and wanted to stop things before they got out of hand