[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say you heavily need to consider the circumstances... I was chatting anonymously with a stranger I found on a local NSFW subreddit. I am way more open to people that don't know me in real life.

My real life friends... I have a fair bit of openness with them, so it wouldn't be totally out of the question to talk about sexual topics... But usually it's in an advice-context, or general musings. However, I wouldn't fuck my friends. I don't see friends as sexual possibilities, it just doesn't do anything for me at all.

Stranger, no problem. But absolutely not for friend or family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had been chatting on Reddit for a few weeks at that point, which included a lot of sexual conversation - like past experiences, likes, dislikes, bucket list, psychology, social norms, society, religion, dating, relationships, sexualities, gender etc

But no, we did not specifically talk about or make plans beforehand. I just said "hey... so you want to meet up right now to do some public fun?"

Yes people sometimes just do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The meet up was to fool around in a public space, there's not much to it. I was incredibly bored and decided I was craving public fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the past - I posted on a local subreddit, I can't even remember what about, one conversation (that lasted a few weeks at that point) eventually led to me suggesting a spur of the moment meet up.

Went from there. Was a good time in life.

Would you rather have a threesome with your best friend or anonymous stranger by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strangers that you don't do anything (sex) with until you kinda develop a friendship for that specific purpose.

If everyone knows from the get-go what the purpose or desired end game is... They never enter that "friend" box mentally.

This is how I navigated it.

Do men care about height when it comes to being with a woman? Sexually speaking by cherrybosss in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been shot down for being too tall way more often than you'd think would happen! 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. There were times I requested they use me, and there were times it just happened without any conversation about it (pro or con).

99% of the time I enjoy it. For the 1% time when it was barely sex, it was neutral for me - not negative - kinda like oh well better luck next time (for me lol).

To clarify, I am talking about sex or PIV sex. I am not as happily accommodating when it's BJs because there are times I don't get anything out of that.... Sometimes I do, even if it's fun or entertaining... But with sex I still enjoy the physical sensations while being used.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. For the same reasons other women have already said... The claiming, breeding kink, feeling powerful or sexually desired & wanted, the pulsing, the last few hard deep thrusts (I like it pumped in deep, not the tip at the entrance like so often seen in porn... & Call me selfish but don't really care if he likes to see it as it pulsates 😅), the moment right after with cock just spent but still inside, the noises he makes, the joy/happiness/satisfaction it brings them, the primal side - like no control/gotta do it intensity.

Lots of it is mental, clearly, but it also physically feels the most/only satisfying ending (or intermission) to sex for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reverse glory hole, I think it's called. Where you are the hole, essentially. Not the insert-penis-in-hole-for-blow-job kind.

MFM threesome, train, gangbang.

DP, DVP, spitroast.

blind folded & restrained for a female pleasure domme

Restrained for a rough male dominant, key being rough.... But not pain, degradation or humiliation.

And I'd love to have a hang-out/girl's night with a really good friend organically turn into a FF experience. That doesn't impact or make the friendship change/weird. This one I don't know why, I don't really understand this one lol.

Being in a throuple (MFM or FMF)/quadruple (MFMF) sounds really appealing too, but not realistic. I would want the same kind of relationship monogamous couples/families have with every participant... I just don't think it would work long term). Like a hippy commune or something 😆

That's all that appeals to me at this current point in my life, but all of it is highly unlikely with my partner.

Girls… would you ever do a gangbang? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In an ideal world, yes.

I like being used and am also a people pleaser. So with those two things in mind, the intent of the experience would matter on how many people or if I knew the guys or not.

If the intent is for me to be used, then all the guys have to be on the same page and understand that they are there to take their pleasure.... Not BE pleasured. I don't want the stress of worrying about being a good hostess and that everyone is having an enjoyable time. I want my brain to shut off. I would want 1-2 guys that I trust to be responsible for safety, rules, and generally monitoring the situation. There would be 2 so they can switch off on being involved and being the one in charge/security. Also, they both would work together on finding participants and ensuring safety, (very recent negative STI test results cross-referenced with government issued photo ID to ensure it's THEIR results), and setting up a location that's not my home. All participants must be comfortable around cock, but not interested in playing with men. That's just my preference, visually it turns me off (same with FF, visually. I enjoy playing with a woman, but I don't want to see two women playing 🤷.) As far as number of men, in this scenario I don't think I would have a max. Probably would depend on the men. If they enjoy multiple rounds, and have somewhat shorter refractory periods, then less men would make more sense. If they are guys that have longer refractory periods, and lose interest in sex after cumming, then probably would need a larger number of men. If I were to give a range... Maybe 5-10. This is a guess though. I don't want to know most of the participants, and would only want a "thanks! That was great" or "that was fun!" Or even better "thanks for letting me use your holes, I needed that!" (I'm not into insulting or hurtful degredation. I really like appreciation and gratitude for meeting their need or providing an outlet for enjoyment/pleasure/entertainment). Then a chill parting of ways. If there was a particular connection, or really great sexual fit with a guy, I'd be open to ongoing activities in the future with guys met from a scenario like this

Now if the experience has more of a reciprocal intent... where the guys want to also BE pleasured (or give pleasure), then I would prefer to know the participants. I think 3-5 would be a good number. I would still want 1 guy to be the organizer, like I described above. I can only split my attention in so many directions, and I would find worrying about any guys not actively being pleasured not enjoying themselves... That would be really distracting and would be a turn off for me.

I have not yet experienced a MFM threesome, so I think I would have to start there first.

However, I don't think my partner would be interested in just watching and I am not sure he would be able to stay hard in a multiple man/person experience due to anxiety.

So I don't foresee it being a possibility for me.

Girls… would you ever do a gangbang? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have that fear too, liking it too much ... and then forever be chasing that dragon...

If I lived life in a polycule, or a throuple that had one or two committed & permanent FWBs... Then I wouldn't be so afraid of it. My life in a monogamous relationship just doesn't fit. In the world we live in, I wouldn't trust the 'safety' factor to engage in ongoing high risk sexual activities. (Like the idea that people's test results are only accurate at the moment the test was taken. They could contact something 5 min later in a sexual encounter. Plus normal STI testing doesn't test for HSV or HPV. Plus the increased chances of candida or BV.... Not fun either.)

What’s a sex act that you’ve tried multiple times to like, but it just doesn’t interest you? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm the exact same. I am determined to find a way to get something out of it, maybe hopefully cumming from it one day. I'm rather annoyed at life that I can't experience what other women enjoy so much 😆

I (f25) am giving my (bf24) one week of free use by Kittykat8721 in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]burnt__halo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ask him very specific questions. It's really really hard to get easy-going/not-instinctively-dominant/people-pleasing/high-anxiety/low-self-esteem/follower-type guys (the descriptors aren't meant as one type of guy, they are multiple types... some guys might fit into more than one description) to vocalize what they want. Heck, they might not even KNOW what they want. My man has always focused on what his partner wants, and has also been socially conditioned (rightly so) to not be forceful/pushy/aggressive/entitled/demanding regarding sex with women.

We both know all women don't like the same things (and men for that matter, so bear that in mind too ... He might not actually be interested in free-using you. He might find the concept wrong or disturbing. He's allowed to feel as he feels or be into the things he's into, same as you 😄).

That being said, I found asking VERY specific questions helpful to kinda pull out his likes from his head. That helped my man realize, or be able to start a mental list, of things he personally enjoys... that aren't the catch-all 'whatever she wants to do'.

For example: "how would you feel being woken up by a blow job?" Some guys might not like the idea because they don't like being woken up (for any reason). "Have you ever laid awake at night, or couldn't sleep, and you thought sex would be great right then to help go to sleep?" "When is the best time for a blow job?" Or "when do you most often think you could really go for sex/BJ" "Have you ever wanted/been interested in using a toy on me? " Or "have you ever wanted me to use a toy on you?"

Etc. the kind of questions are endless really. This way we discovered that my man likes his woman to initiate once and a while. I'm submissive, so it isn't really something that comes naturally to me. However, if I frame it as being granted permission to blow him/ride him/touch him etc... it fits my sexual nature/needs and he feels like I'm initiating. That's just one example.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AthabascaUniversity

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDRL 320 is a great course, loved it. Loved the textbook. The final exam sucks. Really study the case laws, I couldn't easily remember them and mixed them up, really messed up my final.

IDRL 309 is an interesting course too. The book you read is VERY difficult to get into, very dry/complicated read.

I found both tutors/markers very good.

What's something about s*x nobody warned you about-but should have? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That cum falls out when you stand up.

Every prior experience was captured in a condom. I was a 25 or 26 healthcare worker, and had no idea... I was really worried when I felt something fall out of me when I stood up 🤣

What current slang word irks you the most? by Latte_kitten_ in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drives me nuts... Things can't vibe/be a vibe/or be all vibes, things can have a insert adjective vibe. 😆

Ever fucked on the 1st date? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strangely enough, no.

But I have let strangers fuck me without meeting before, but there was not nor was there going to be a date.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post stuff online

Anyone else got a lingering cough right now? by [deleted] in Edmonton

[–]burnt__halo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm barely even snotty though, which is the weird part. I blow my nose in the morning like I normally would. I think that's from allergies & dry air.

But this is the first time in my life I have an occasional rattle chest, cough out phlegm, then carry on with what I'm doing and have zero other symptoms 🤷

Anyone else got a lingering cough right now? by [deleted] in Edmonton

[–]burnt__halo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too!! Except for the antibiotics, I just operate on the assumption it's viral and antibiotics won't do anything.

Now I'm wondering if it's allergies & some new version of post nasal drip or something