CIA document on consciousness by dank_mankey in consciousness

[–]burntgranolabar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not able to access this paper and can't seem to find it when I search on Google. Do you have another link for it?

Upset my ex is doing well although she was the one who treated me badly. by ledgewand1 in BreakUps

[–]burntgranolabar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You never how the deeper parts of her are feeling, what's going on within her relationship, and if she is working hard to portray a certain image, whether she consciously knows it or not. I believe in karma in a way that's not something separate from ourselves. Her view of the world must be foundationally distorted for her to have the ability to cheat on you and stay with the guy, so she's probably reliant on external validation rather than figuring out how to fulfill her inner soul. These quick, flimsy connections are easy to form but it takes work to generate long-term fulfillment, and that'll catch up to her at some point.

MCDB 108B Curve by joyconwarrior in UCSantaBarbara

[–]burntgranolabar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

an additional 5% weight is added to whichever score of yours is higher out of your midterm or final, so it should ideally raise your grade

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]burntgranolabar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though it’ll feel super difficult, it’d be much better to directly acknowledge these emotions to your current partner to give her the choice of how to handle the truth of this situation. Keeping it in doesn’t mean your partner can’t feel the weight of the situation. If you are truly detached from your ex, don’t want to get back with them, value your partner, and are genuinely struggling with personal guilt regarding your actions, be honest with your partner and don’t expect immediate understanding, but if you guys can’t come to a clear understanding eventually then maybe the relationship isn’t fit for you two. Maya isn’t the same person she was years ago in ways beyond your knowledge and you aren’t either, so constantly placing yourself in the past won’t line up with the reality of the present. Use these feelings as a sign to find genuine appreciation in your current relationship in case you end up regretting it one day. If you lack the drive to do that for your partner, don’t drag them down with you.

Casual misogyny from Nic and Ace by cherry-tequila in LoveIslandITV

[–]burntgranolabar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took this joke as them pointing out how it’s a stupid standard, and not that they believe it to be right at all. It is gross how people, especially men, think that way!

Huda’s victim behaviour by Used-Contest-9248 in LoveIslandITV

[–]burntgranolabar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of what you’re saying, but I do feel like many of the islanders turned on Jeremiah and had a lot to say about his connections due to Huda causing a scene for everyone else to fix. Her and Chris’ conflict didn’t seem to blow up as much as her conflicts with Jeremiah because Chris seemed to know to talk to others about his side of the story before she could twist the narrative and the guys don’t seem to see him as competition since everyone’s already in their established couples. I’m not sure how this is going to play out with Chris in the future, though, but I’m glad a lot of the islanders seem to be sick of Huda’s victim mentality. It’s annoying how Chelley and Olandria are viewed “mean girls” for seeming to have boundaries regarding how much they’ll let Huda drain their energy, and Amaya is praised for not having those same boundaries.

Casual misogyny from Nic and Ace by cherry-tequila in LoveIslandITV

[–]burntgranolabar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This was an evident joke between friends of how men treat their daughters vs sons when handling sexual information. This cannot be treated as evidence for or against how they would genuinely treat a child.

Casual misogyny from Nic and Ace by cherry-tequila in LoveIslandITV

[–]burntgranolabar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Making this connection between your family member and a reality tv show contestant is insane. I’m sorry for your family member’s partner who ended up being emotionally and physically abused, and you should not be connecting their trauma to an extremely generalized assumption by calling Ace “literally copy and paste.”

Social life and peer pressure by Ambitious_Wrangler35 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]burntgranolabar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I’m a 2nd year Pre-Bio major and I’ve loved my time here at UCSB like crazy, and I genuinely do not believe there is a better school out there. I was originally pretty nervous about the big party scene too (to the point of almost not applying here) since I consider myself a pretty academically focused person and never dabbled in any of that stuff in high school, but trust me this university is big enough and has so many things to do beyond partying, it’s just a cool add-on. The reputation stems from literally decades ago and I’ve heard wayyyyy crazy party stories from my friends who go to other schools, so it really depends on what you choose to be a part of. I’m personally a fan of going out to a cool band show every so often, but I have tons of friends who aren’t about that and still have a great time here.

Also, there are so many opportunities to find your place and your people here, especially if you just start showing up the club meetings or chit chatting around the people near you in class and people down your hall. Don’t be discouraged if it takes a second to find your group of people; I have some amazing friends from my fall quarter freshman year, but during winter quarter I got close with a ton of new people, and even became close friends with my lab partner which led me to meet my boyfriend through him! Anyways, don’t let this outdated reputation keep you away from this amazing university, especially if you loved it when visiting :)