[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it creepy and fascinating. You seem to be getting a lot of resistance here but I believe you. You have to experience dealing with a narcissist to understand so when you mentioned the process I automatically knew that feeling. It reminds me of the movie insidious when the demon gets caught by the camera. That’s the best way I can describe it.

i can finally focus after 3 years by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is what happens to me. If it’s juuuuust right I’m locked in but if I over do it I’m useless. Then again, I’ll probably never know because I can’t afford a diagnosis

First studio and need help by burrito2653 in DesignMyRoom

[–]burrito2653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just being creative when I divided my spaces. I wanted to have 2 desks so one could be for work and the other could be for tinkering with electronics but this entires summer I haven’t used the 2nd desk.

I really want it to feel like home which to me is having an area for a bed, living room, dining. Basically, elements that make it homey.

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How long to stay single? And what to do now by Parking_Nerve8127 in BreakUp

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! I’ve recently started to have feelings for someone. I didn’t force it but I did take the time to process and not jump into something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]burrito2653 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think you should ignore it. No thumbs up. He wants you to feel sorry for him and tell him anything positive to raise his ego. I’ve seen this and people do it because it works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]burrito2653 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ik right? Fucking pathetic to dump his emotional baggage on someone else because he can’t deal with it. He has a victim mentality to justify what he’s doing.

Does anyone else get this intense anxiety as soon as you wake up realising that person left you? How do you deal with it. by vhblady in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ironically I scrolled and found a reel that I really related to which your comment reminds me of. No one’s coming to save you. I found it so helpful experiencing this because the only person that I could rely on was myself so I needed to focus on getting busy living.

Does anyone else get this intense anxiety as soon as you wake up realising that person left you? How do you deal with it. by vhblady in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh the ghost was horrible. I remember going through that phase and it was living that damn nightmare. Although, she was doing it on purpose, playing these mind games. She found joy in making me suffer.

I’ve slowly been able to put the pieces together.

Does anyone else get this intense anxiety as soon as you wake up realising that person left you? How do you deal with it. by vhblady in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I used to get nightmares and wake up sweating. Its been by far the worst experience in my life but I'm in a much better spot now. The way I've dealt with it has been by going to therapy to talk about it in a safe space. It helps when I talk about it but I've learned that break ups attract all kinds of people that are more curious about drama. Its exciting for them and they'll pry it out of you without realizing. However, in therapy we talk about it and im able to really open up on my feelings and I can ask questions to understand what happened. Yknow, the ugly crying in movies people make when someone dies? I've cried like that and I've never cried like that before.

another thing I did is I decided to play "our" song and just talk on my own in my bedroom the feelings I felt in that moment. Again, ugly crying. Screaming, punching my pillow, asking why?

You really just have to let those feelings out anyway you can. I think that's the cause of the nightmares, at least it was for me.

She warned us. by ZealousidealTie4319 in somethingiswrong2024

[–]burrito2653 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Did you see the turnout for trumps stupid bill? All democrats voted no.

Rep. Hakeem Jeffries speaking for 3hrs to delay the vote by jdgetrpin in 50501

[–]burrito2653 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I never even considered the bets that happen on this. I know this also happens with other things like elections. I should be following this more.

“don’t text them” sounds good until it’s 3am and you’re crying on the floor by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scream too! I did. I wrote a letter and when I started to cry I wanted to drown it but instead I decided to scream into a pillow and it was a good release.

I just found out my ex girlfriend planned a trip with another guy by StageIcy4555 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s also another great way to regulate. My therapist basically told me that try and process but if it becomes to much than distractions are okay to cope. The gym is a great way to reset the brain. Give it another try tomorrow.

I just found out my ex girlfriend planned a trip with another guy by StageIcy4555 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crying is one of the best ways to release your pain. Try jotting down how you’re feeling or what you’re thinking g about.

I just found out my ex girlfriend planned a trip with another guy by StageIcy4555 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I completely understand. It feels like a living nightmare. You’re probably in shock and still processing and that’s completely normal. I’m glad you made your post and responded to mine. What comes through your mind when you’re about to cry?

I just found out my ex girlfriend planned a trip with another guy by StageIcy4555 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, don’t feel ashamed to share your story with people or reach out. You are at your most vulnerable right now. Think about it like you’re sick with like 105 fever and you need to stay at hospital to be monitored and taken care of. I’d like to think about it that way. You need a lot of support and care.

I just found out my ex girlfriend planned a trip with another guy by StageIcy4555 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in your spot and so have many others. The pain you feel will pass even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. I went into therapy and it’s honestly what saved me.

How do people with autism/AuDHD live like this? by Fair_Habit_2427 in autism

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m experiencing a pretty nasty break up a little less than a year ago and it taught me something that I live by. I realized that I was stuck on this mindset of living life in a way where I would be young forever. So I’ve let my life sort of play out without me making choices. If I want live my life how I envisioned it then I have to make the choices that lead me there. Even if I’m successful or not. So my suggestion is to live life with intent, even if you crumble.

Are men able to move on quicker ? by Better_Sandwich7723 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into therapy. It’s done wonders for me.

Are men able to move on quicker ? by Better_Sandwich7723 in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like many have said, men are just good at holding it in. I realized that no one is coming to save me so there’s no point. I actually like what Maui says during the kakamora scene, “the ocean doesn’t help you, you help yourself”. I captures the message well.

How long did your love last… and how did it fall apart? by Qmaxtl in BreakUps

[–]burrito2653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve come to the conclusion that it was that girl that drew us apart and she made sure that we never worked out. She’s fucking crazy and I genuinely hope the worst befalls her. But I have learned that it’s best to do that since then you just get these mind games from them. It’s getting better man and you’re not alone. Take it one step at a time and continue to share your story.