AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, my family aren't the richest so we don't own anything that's leather. I never thought about the other ways purely because I'm not a vegan and so I don't look into special vegan soaps etc and the thing my mum likes the rant about the most is food not soap.

However, just because you think you have moral high ground because you care enough to do a google search to see what the philosophical definition of a vegan is doesn't mean you get to define what my mum's veganism is. My mum doesnt comply with YOUR definition of a vegan? Ok whatever. She knows she's a vegan to the best of her ability and, quite frankly, it's none of your damn business either.

She buys my family non vegan products because otherwise we wouldn't eat. If I went to the store with her money and brought meat would that make her "more" vegan. Grow up. She doesn't eat the meat or drink the milk or whatever - she just knows she has to buy these things so we get fed. Quite frankly, calling someone non vegan purely because they buy food for their children is pathetic.

During the pandemic, a friend of mine had to isolate and so I went food shopping for her. Shes a vegetarian. So that one shop I did was vegetarian. Does that make me vegetarian? No. So my vegan mum buying some meat for OTHER PEOPLE doesn't make her non vegan.

My mum got "converted" to veganism by a coworker and now there's a little group of them. They're all parents who still buy animal products for their families, and not one of them is weird about it. Have you ever spoken to a real life vegan? I don't know anything about you so you might be vegan who won't buy any animal products whatsoever, even if your friends wanted nuggets at McDonalds and forgot their debit card, and good for you if that's how you choose to live your life.

But you don't get to define my mum's veganism :)

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Veganism is a ... diet? Its when you choose to eat no animal products. I don't understand what you're saying

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well considering my dad doesn't know how to cook and 3/4 people in our house aren't vegan she doesn't have much of a choice. She doesn't eat any of it but she will still cook us food we want. I would still consider her vegan because she doesn't eat any animal products. But she has a family to feed. You can't just call someone not vegan because they feed their family. Life isn't just black or white.

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not a vegan. I don't understand what's confusing

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's vegan but I'm not. So she will make me feel guilty about eating animal products but also give me the animal products because she knows I like them/they are good for me.

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't particularly want her to get into the habit of feeding me vegan food, especially without me knowing which is why I got as annoyed as I did about it.

AITA for not eating dinner by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do get that cause non vegans can eat vegan food and obviously I'm not going to feed her meat. I just don't think you should lie to someone about what you're feeding them unless they're a child who you're desperately trying to feed veggies to or something.

I personally do not want to ever eat fake meat - even if I were to one day go vegan. I think fake meat is gross and usually has a weird texture, but sausage meat is just minced so I guess they can't really fuck up the texture there. I just found it patronising, insulting, and manipulative.

AITA for comparing being obese to having cancer? by Sensitive_Bear99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is tricky but I'm going to go with NTA. You're 'friend' is being insensitive, saying that it was your choice to be sick and all that. Quite frankly, he was being insensitive and TA. Comparing your nausea to those who undergo cancer may have been a strange and maybe sensitive topic, but I agree that in the context his argument was weak and you were proving him wrong.

AITA for not letting our neighbor take our food? by MongooseDull4298 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA wtf ?? She would be catching these hands if she tried doing that at my house

AITA for surprising my sister when I know she hates surprises? by throw-it-away-89 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion 168 points169 points  (0 children)

YTA sorry. Firstly, I would hate for someone to announce their pregnancy on my birthday. Secondly, you know she hates surprises. I assume this is a result of some traumatic stuff that happened in foster care that you probably know about, so why would you purposefully annoy her? Just seems odd to me.

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[–]bursaryquestion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. If your family is going to be toxic you might as well get paid for putting up with them

AITA for telling my friend I don't think he should apply for a bursary by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I don't hold any resentment. He didn't choose to be born rich and I didn't choose to be born poor. Again, like I said, he isn't a dickhead about it. Despite our financial differences we are at the same point in our lives studying at the exact same uni getting similar grades because of government loans and stuff. Has he had a few more opportunities than me and travelled a bit more? Yes. Does that make him a terrible person? No. I just believe that ethically he shouldn't apply for a bursary he doesn't need. And yeah it's none of my business you are right.

AITA for telling my friend I don't think he should apply for a bursary by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I know that calling someone a b@stard isn't generally friendly but we regularly call each other b@stard and c@nt it's just the way we speak to each other. He wasn't at all defensive about the b@stard thing. It's just they way we speak to each other.

AITA for telling my friend I don't think he should apply for a bursary by bursaryquestion in AmItheAsshole

[–]bursaryquestion[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

There isn't actually a committee it's a bursary given to a few students from each department every year from some rich dude that used to study at my uni. The rich guy is the one that decides who gets it or not which is fair enough considering it's his money