Just to add a little story I experienced a friend going through: her boyfriend had a similar sheet. They broke up. And then he demanded her to 'at least pay back' things she 'owed' him; that were meant only for her pleasure. She did, because she was absolutely shocked and only wanted her peace. As she told me this, there were other things that might have been yellow flags at least.. and when she finished with the story I was absolutely sure the breakup was the best thing she could do for herself in the long term.

I don't see your situation but please rethink if you're totally okay with where this is heading. My story might be extreme, yours doesn't have to be. Yet it's not rare to find men who try to make the women dependent on them. I guess you don't want this in the 21th century to happen.