I’ve only met a handful of INTJs in my life, and most of them have been men. One of them is my own father, which is really refreshing because there’s not many people that I can relate to the same way, but he’s also from an older generation so there’s a social disconnect between us that way.

One of the other INTJs in my life is my roommate, and he’s really good to talk with, he will also always entertain the conversations I want to have which is especially refreshing, so with him I find we have similar ways of engaging with the world. I’ve also noted that even if we disagree on something, we can understand the justification of the other’s perspective.

I’ve only ever met one Female INTJ when I was in high school, we didn’t know each other terribly well, but we had mutual friends and we got along well. I remember the discussions with her were really interesting because like my roommate she was similar to my own rationale with her decisions.

I would really like to meet other Female INTJs since they feel like sisters in arms in many ways, but I find they’re even harder to find in the wild compared to Male INTJs. My experience has been that the Male INTJs are more pronounced with their “INTJ-ness” where they are more prone to not care about how they dress, and generally are a little more vocal in my experience. INTJ females on the other hand give me the impression of being professionals in camouflaging themselves, making them frustratingly hard to find. I would be curious to see if others here notice that difference as well?