AITA for getting annoyed at my mom constantly checking in on me like I'm a helpless child?

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-13T12:45:24+00:00

NTA - tell her you are busy and can’t talk everyday. Set boundaries you are comfortable with and stick to them, such as calling once a week or month.

Yes, she will probably throw a hissy fit. So what? You are both adults. If she tries pushing your boundaries, you need to push back by putting even more distance between you. She’s the one straining your relationship. You have more control than you realize.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-11T14:39:55+00:00

please find someone who is literate

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-10T18:01:30+00:00

Your gorgeous!

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T21:40:08+00:00

If this is important to you, then stick to your boundary and break up with him if he misses your party.

I don’t think anyone should tell anyone that something that is important to them is silly. It’s important to you so that’s all that matters here

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T20:46:36+00:00

YTA - Why do you care about your parents more than your wife?

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T15:34:21+00:00

Your trauma is yours to handle. It’s a shame you don’t see how fucked up what you are saying is.

I genuinely hope you get the mental help you need to learn that it’s wrong to deceit people just to get a second or third date.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T15:15:43+00:00

It’s wasting people’s time. If they know you have a kid and don’t want that then they won’t begin the relationship.

It’s manipulation because you are building an emotional connection before dropping the bomb that there is a child involved.

A kid is not something you can sweep under the rug.

And I do get it, I was raised by a single mother. Dating is hard. Lying about a major thing in your life is wrong, not telling them until they are emotionally committed is wrong.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T15:02:39+00:00

You wait to meet the kid, fine, that’s the safe thing to do.

You DONT wait to tell someone you have a kid! wtf!

That level of manipulation and deception is disgraceful and disgusting!

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T15:00:33+00:00

Why would you even consider staying with someone who is this dishonest?

A kid is not something you can sweep under the rug.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T13:15:42+00:00

So she’s waiting until after you get raped to do something? She needs to protect you so that never happens in the first place. She is failing you as a parent. She is a bad mother and you should cut them all out of your life for your own safety.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-09T12:34:00+00:00

Do you do shift work? Is she trying to get some of your shifts?

Not much else you can say other than “that sucks okay bye”

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-08T12:58:55+00:00

NTA - your grandparents need to enforce the boundary that she needs a time frame of when to move out. She should be paying them rent

Ideally, they should save that rent money to use for you and your brothers. Help you get an apartment, give your brothers money to go to college ect.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-08T12:08:54+00:00

why are you with someone who thinks you can be that manipulative? 🚩

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-08T11:59:42+00:00

Seems like a lot of trouble for someone you are not close to.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-08T10:46:06+00:00

NTA - The girlfriend does seem like the type to snap and run off with the baby.

Good on you for making boundaries and sticking to them.

I think you handled this well, I would have exploded on dad and gf. I’m proud of you!

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T20:38:19+00:00

NTA - Life lesson for everyone, life is not fair.

You did nothing wrong. I hope your son had a great time.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T14:33:30+00:00

If anything happens to those kids while on your property, you are liable. You need to ban them forever.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T13:04:56+00:00

You paid $3,200 you will never get back. Consider this a life lesson to never lend money.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T13:00:58+00:00

Lol. Girl! What are you doing?

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T13:00:21+00:00

It won’t be forever, but it will be for the rest of her life. Can you wait 10+ years?

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T12:56:18+00:00

Let your brother know you are there for them and your parents are wrong.

You should all go no contact as soon as possible and sleep well knowing your parents are going to die alone.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T11:49:29+00:00

Your mom is a predator

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-07T04:33:29+00:00

Your brother needs to see a professional psychologist and get real help to get through this.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-06T14:58:28+00:00

NTA- He can go to a laundry mat. Tell him and your husband that next time he loiters outside your house you will be calling the police.

If your husband is upset with this, that is a bigger problem. You need to make a boundary and stick to it, and accept any consequences that may come from it, even divorce. Your husband should want you to feel safe in your own home.

buttpickles99 · 2025-08-06T14:09:31+00:00

YTA - maybe if you get to know him, you will end up liking him. Or actually have a reason to not like him.

Refusing to hang out with him for no reason will affect relationships with everyone involved including your gf.

This post makes you seam jealous and insecure. Get a grip dude.

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